Very often we want start life from scratch, but we don't know how to do it. Listen to an audio lesson from success coach Vladimir Dovgan, and you can start the path to new life filled with bright colors, happiness and success:
Take advantage of your choice
Who told you that you should hold on to your old, uninteresting, boring, gray life? You have the right to choose. Man is perhaps the only living creature on our planet who has conscious thinking. You yourself can change your life, your habits, thoughts, mood.
All you need to do to start your life over is to take advantage of this opportunity!
First you need to understand: to start a new life, there is no need to die. You need to change your thoughts, your behavior pattern.
Describe your new self
Why do I speak so confidently? Yes, because I myself started my life over a new leaf several times. And my successful experience suggests that this is often the only way out of the current situation.
It's very easy to do. Take a blank sheet of paper, grab a pen and start describing your new self, interesting, thinking, developing, happy, cheerful, rich. Take it and write what kind of person you want to be, what kind of life you want to live.
Start describing in detail your new thoughts, new mood, new goals, achievements. What do you want to become, how much money do you want to earn, what kind of friends do you want to have, where do you want to live?
Start creating yourself again. The beginning of your new life begins with your lofty goal, your dream.
Obstacles on the way
From my experience I can say that to start life with a clean slate Some obstacles will need to be overcome: your old thoughts, misconceptions, habits.
The first thing you need to replace is behavior pattern. But to do this, you need to realize that your behavior model is not you. Your habits, thoughts and words are not you.
You strive for success, joy, love, wealth, happiness. This is inherent in your nature - every person subconsciously moves away from pain and strives for pleasure. This is you - this is your essence.
And if you are now living a gray life, filled with suffering, boredom, defeats, you need to understand that this is not you. This is the program that the gray, boring, spiritually poor environment - society - has laid in you.
Your goal is a new life, your obstacle is the old way of life, habits, environment. Follow the saying: “I see the goal - I see no obstacles”!
Focus on the new person
Focus all your attention on the new, happy, healthy, rich person. Decide to start your life from scratch and stop thinking about your failures and everything negative. Focus on the positive and light.
Tell yourself: “From today I start a new life!” and forward to victories.
“I’m tired of this city with its constant traffic jams, I can’t stand my greedy colleagues anymore, I urgently need changes,” sooner or later such thoughts come to everyone. How to start life from scratch when everything is literally crumbling under your feet? Why is development the only way out? What is the point of parting with the past to gain the future? Simple tips will help you achieve the desired effect, despite life's difficulties. It's time to win, not show the white flag of defeat!
I want to change or how to start life from scratch
Change your environment and go on an unknown journey full of new discoveries - this is what you can say about life changes. Postponing the potential opportunity to become happy is a disease that affects almost everyone today. Start the path to the goal and stop halfway or completely shelve the idea. This is an example of old habits that overcome human consciousness.
Even under the pressure of constant stress, it is easier for a person to give up. Or is this a misconception? To find out, it is important to make a firm decision and want to change your circumstances irrevocably. Fate, the Higher Powers (you can call them anything) do not like those who complain and pretend to be victims.
Believe in a better future
It is difficult to imagine life from scratch if you do not develop a positive image of the world. Do you dream of living in a big house? It is important to imagine everything down to the smallest detail: how many rooms, what kind of yard, what kind of furniture there will be. There will always be doubts that nothing will work out, and dreams are just a figment of fantasy. This speaks of fear and a complete lack of faith in the best. If you morally attract happiness and goodness, and deny all existing negativity, the world will become noticeably brighter!
Acquire a hobby and find a calling
It is important to find a place for new hobbies that will become a symbol of a new stage of life. It’s worth thinking right now: “What have I wanted to do for a long time or what is my calling?” Since adolescence, the thought of jumping with a parachute has been in my head. Why not take the plunge this month? Having trouble swimming? Great idea to sign up and go to the pool! Now is the moment when the foundation for personal growth is laid.
Say goodbye to the past!
How to start life from scratch with 100% probability? Don't live in the past and move forward! does not occur only because there is a “Stop” lever called past grievances, regrets, fears. All this should not escalate into the present.
Why stand still and not let change knock on the door? When a girl decides to start a new relationship, she breaks off old contacts with guys. In the past there were constant problems with money - poverty should not be allowed to creep into life, but eradicate it. Any thought from the past attracts a similar thought in the present.
Give up harmful behavior
A clean slate, if you don’t even have the desire to get rid of bad habits? If laziness and other shortcomings interfere with development, they need to be protected from control at the helm of life. To acquire any habit, it is enough to set aside 21 days (as practitioners say). Why is the habit of getting yourself in order every morning taken into account, and morning exercises - vice versa? We need to break our stereotypes, which are deeply ingrained in our consciousness.
One thing can be replaced with another without any problems. Don't watch TV for 1 hour, but go for a run or read a book. Time is such a valuable resource that it is foolish to waste it in vain. Having overpowered yourself at the first stage, then to some extent it will even be funny for your weakness.
Dramatically change your real life
A new life in the present time will not come unless the connection with the past is broken. Why were precious 10 years wasted in a job you didn’t like? It's time to look for an interesting place, even if the payment is a little less. If something doesn’t suit you, and the situation depends on yourself, why waste many more years on an unloved activity?
The best motivation is to think that today is the last day of your life, during which you need to make the most important decisions. Do you want to leave troubles behind? It's time to act, even if it's incredibly scary and hard to dare. After a lot of effort on yourself, the situation will fall off your shoulders.
Change your social circle
You can start life from scratch with people who constantly complain and blame circumstances... but you shouldn’t! Social circle directly affects a person's morale. Positively minded, open people are a source of support on the path to development. Communication should in no way bring negative associations.
When we strive for the best and surround ourselves with like-minded, harmoniously minded people, this is a great strength. If at every meeting Nastya constantly complains about problems in her personal life, you should avoid frequent meetings. Each situation is individual, but there is only one truth!
Strengthen morale
When there is no mood to win, and in words a person seems to be moving mountains, nothing works out. Our weaknesses, especially, are constrained by willpower, without which we can’t get anywhere. Do you have an internal temptation to put it off until tomorrow? Stop throwing words to the wind. So, we retreated every single day, but now this is not permissible!
How to start life from scratch? Don't wait for the best moment - it may simply not come. The tips we offer will definitely move you from a dead point and allow you to look at yourself differently. “I will definitely succeed and this time I will not fail my most important exam,” believe in miracles and reach new heights!
It's always difficult to start over. This is a leap into the unknown. To do this, you need to take a deep breath and say goodbye to the people and things that are worth leaving behind. It's a hard road to follow, but it's worth it if you're unhappy and need a change.
It's likely that you've already had to start from scratch several times. Perhaps this “reset” was the result of problems at work, something more personal, or problems in the family.
What may prevent us from taking the decisive step to find our own happiness is the thought that “it’s too late.” That is, if a person reaches a certain age, then he must give up and come to terms with the circumstances, because his capabilities have passed and are left behind.
But that's not true. It's never too late to start over and find your happiness. In fact, this is the duty of every person to himself.
How to change your life, no matter what and no one
Think about your future and who you want to be
If you are overwhelmed by doubts, worries or fears, try this visualization exercise: imagine yourself in two years, but happy, harmonious and peaceful.
Now evaluate how you feel. Instead of looking for some illusory happiness, remember that inner peace, balance and integrity are quite enough in life. If you don't have these feelings, you need to start changing something. You deserve to give yourself another chance.
Start with small, short-term goals
For all changes, you need to make small decisions that will bring you closer to your goal step by step. Here are some examples of small goals that every person should set for themselves.
Today I will control my worries and worries. Since I have already decided that I am starting over, I take responsibility and make my own decision. I will transform fears into inner peace and certainty.
Today I will look for more information on how to help myself start from scratch (open vacancies, help from social services and other official organizations).
You are not as alone as you think: find the right support
Of course, completely changing your life is not easy, because it causes new fears and anxiety. One way to find strength is to have someone who supports us and understands the new path we have decided to take.
Choose your support wisely. Family and friends cannot always give the best advice, or even on the contrary, they will advise “not to do something” or “to be patient a little longer.”
If you decide to start over, seek help from people who have already gone through something similar. They will be able to advise you better and add strength to move on.
The future can always be changed and is filled with new opportunities.
The past has only one purpose - to teach us and give us wisdom. It makes us smarter through experiences and life lessons. This gives a person extra courage, which is a powerful weapon.
When we take a step towards change, everything becomes very new, but not bad at all. Although it can be scary, it gives us a chance to achieve our dreams.
Every person above all wants to feel good, to be free from worries, tears and defeats. These things don't define who you are, but they give you the motivation to move on and become successful.
Get rid of thoughts and beliefs that limit you
"I'm too old. I'll never be able to find a job." Think about your skills and be creative when it comes time to “sell yourself.” This will not only help you find a job, but also connect with yourself. Make the most of your creativity.
"I've never been alone, so I have to come to terms with everything." Let go of this limiting thought and remember that solitude is a reflection of your freedom, and it is exactly what you need to create your happiness.
“I know I will fail and everything will go wrong.” Forget about this idea. You're not a psychic, so you can't guess what will or won't happen. Remember that thoughts are the source of emotions, so negative perception will lead to the same result.
"No one is supporting me and my efforts will be lost anyway." Don't give power to such ideas. The most important source of support to rely on is found within everyone. And only then come friends, family and other people around you who support you, helping you build a new life.
Gradually you will begin to realize that everything was worth the effort. Starting from scratch is not easy, but do not forget that every person deserves happiness and that all difficulties and problems are left behind.
Life is an interesting thing. She constantly tests us for strength and endurance. The weak become strong, the strong become weak, and the idle continue to discuss both.
Perhaps, in the life of every person there have been periods when you wanted to give up everything, cross it out, erase it, break it, and when you left, burn the bridges behind you in order to start a new life. How to start life from scratch when all meaning is lost and disappointment in life reaches its climax? Adopt a series of drastic changes!
REVOLUTION AND EVOLUTION
Changes of any nature can be either fast, hard, comprehensive - revolutionary, or soft, long-lasting, gradual - evolutionary. Of course, evolution is better than revolution in changing your own life as well as in other areas.
Evolution is always less painful and destructive (both for the person himself and for those around him), but due to the fact that many people like to stretch their problems to the extent of a catastrophe, it is often possible to solve them only through revolutionary means. By analogy with a disease, we can say that while a life problem is small, it can be eliminated by taking pills, but if it is already life-threatening, a serious operation is needed.
IS IT EASY TO START WITH A CLEAN SHEET?
To start life from scratch, sometimes you need completely minor changes, such as renovating your apartment, talking with a wise person, changing your image, or traveling to a country you have long wanted to visit.
It happens that a new life begins unnoticed as a result of gradual personality development and self-improvement. But more often than not, people need a quick and significant change in life circumstances, which is unlikely to happen on its own (or it will require another life).
As a rule, several drastic changes or a complete lifestyle change are required at once. To start living from scratch, you need to set yourself this goal.
Unfortunately, there are people (and there are many of them) who live in ignorance or unwillingness to change anything, even if life brings them nothing but suffering. Such people either consciously choose the path of torment, considering it correct, or they simply find and receive unhealthy pleasure or hidden benefit from their torment.
What do people who realize the need for life changes want? Most often these are the following desires:
- change job
- break off the relationship or get a divorce if you are already in an unsuccessful marriage,
- find love if you're lonely
- create your own family,
- start living separately from your parents,
- get well if you are seriously ill,
- change place of residence (move to another area of the city, city, country, continent),
- radically change your appearance (lose excess weight, become more masculine/feminine, etc.),
- radically change internally (get rid of bad habits, negative thinking, negative character traits, and so on).
The problems that caused the desire to start life from scratch can be different, each person has them special (although they may be perceived by others as typical), but the ultimate goal is the same - a happy life.
Every person wants to be happy, the only difference is that some people expect happiness as a miracle and believe in such a possibility for themselves, others always complain that they have had an unhappy lot and do not try to change anything, and still others believe in a better life and create her with her labor.
ANALYSIS OF OLD AND DESIGN OF NEW LIFE
The Russian language is unusually rich in meaning. Very often, answers to many complex life questions are hidden in words, phrases, sayings and proverbs.
So the phrase “start life from scratch” already contains the answer to how to do this: arm yourself with a clean sheet of paper and a pen. For what? In order to describe the desired new life and begin to turn the dream into reality.
There are not and cannot be universal recommendations on how to start life from scratch, but psychologists recommend adhering to the following algorithm of actions:
1. The very first and most important thing is to understand that it’s time to start life from scratch, dare to do it, overcoming fears and self-doubt. There is simply no other way but to gain courage and courage.
You need to pick up a blank sheet of paper and write the title “My new, happy life!”
2. Answer two questions:
What prevents you from being happy?
The answers need to be written down one below the other on the left half of the sheet.
This question is easy for most people to answer. All that gets in the way are pressing problems: unloved work, loneliness, unfaithful husband/wife, lack of self-confidence, excess weight, lack of money, etc.
You need to write down everything that comes to mind, not only external interference, but also internal barriers. Then select and highlight the largest ones that give rise to other difficulties, life difficulties. It may be that there is only one main problem and, by pulling it like a thread, you will be able to unwind the whole tangle of troubles. If such a problem is discovered, it should be highlighted specifically.
What will make me happy?
Also write down the answers in the column on the right, opposite the first list.
When answering this question, you need to try to be as precise as possible. If you need money, then how much, if a husband, then what kind, and so on.
As a result, you will get two columns that are very similar in content, only the first will describe the problems, and the second will describe their solution. Perhaps one problem will have several solutions, or vice versa.
Solutions will be either cardinal, revolutionary or softer, evolutionary.
For example, an annoying girlfriend who constantly calls on the phone and spends hours talking about her problems prevents her from living happily (as a result, things are not done, her mood is at zero, she has breakdowns with her family and quarrels with them). What is not enough for happiness is either a sharp and complete severance of relations with a friend (a drastic measure) or a gradual reduction in the time of communication with her (a softer measure).
3. Decide what a happy life is. Everyone has their own ideas about happiness, but, as a rule, it does not exist without health, material wealth and love. But the more precise the goal, the easier it is to strive for it, which is why you need to describe the details of personal happiness.
You need to imagine, dream about how you want to live, and then write down or sketch all your desires on a piece of paper.
These dreams should not be exorbitant, but achievable. When dreaming, you imagine not only what is customary and fashionable to want in society, but what suits, complements, and makes you truly happy.
You can imagine one day in a happy life and describe it: where it begins, what kind of people are nearby, what the day is filled with, what the work schedule is, what the nature of the vacation is, and so on.
In fact, the picture of a happy life is a set of answers to the question “What will make me happy?”, only not scattered, but holistic.
FROM WORDS TO ACTIONS
Once it becomes clear what you need to get rid of for good and what you need to bring into your life in order for it to radically change for the better, you need to start taking active action.
Naturally, each person, after doing the analytical work, drawing up a picture of a happy life, making new plans, will have his own goals, but as an example, active actions will be described below to help start living differently:
- changing thinking from negative to positive,
- increased self-confidence, optimism,
- taking responsibility for one's own life,
- change of place of residence,
- change of social circle, environment,
- change of type of activity or place of work,
- change of marital status,
- acquiring a new hobby,
- change in image, appearance,
- getting rid of fears, complexes and other psychological problems,
- resolution of health problems,
- getting rid of bad habits and addictions,
- acquiring new, positive habits (walking in nature, reading, playing sports, living in the present and enjoying life, asking for forgiveness and forgiving, helping loved ones, others).
Changes should start with the most important problem. For example, if life is poisoned by an unloved job, you need, first of all, to change it, perhaps all other aspects of life will improve after that on their own.
If it is difficult to start with radical changes, you can take on smaller ones, the main thing is to start.
The second thing that is important to remember is that dramatic changes must be deliberate and not hasty. When leaving a job, it is better to find another one in advance, or at least understand that it is possible to find one. When leaving to live in another city, learn in advance and as much as possible about how people live there. When entering into a new relationship, take a closer look at your partner, and not through rose-colored glasses.
What is also extremely important to know and not forget when changing your life is that any external changes are impossible without internal transformations. Sometimes only internal work on oneself serves to change life.
For example, there is a huge difference between when a person moves to a new place of residence due to the fact that he cannot realize himself as a professional and another situation when he is unable to hold down any job due to an irresponsible attitude to work. In the first case, a person will move, find himself and live for a long time (maybe forever), and in the second he will continue to move from place to place, not understanding that it is not his job or place of residence that needs to change, but himself.
This leads to another important conclusion: you need to know what mistakes were made earlier so as not to repeat them in the future. At the same time, remember that no one is immune from mistakes. In your new life, they may also happen, but you should not perceive them as a failure, this is experience and while everything can still be corrected, this must be done immediately, without delaying or increasing the scale of the problems.
Spend time with “those” people.
You shouldn’t waste your life on those who squeeze every last drop of juice out of you. You will always be taken care of by the one to whom you are dear, the one who wants you to have a place in his life. And he will do everything to make you feel comfortable around him.
It is worth remembering that good friends are those people who stay with you even if things are very, very bad for you, and not those who are eager to support you when everything is already great for you. Life is too short to waste your time on the “wrong” people.
Solve your problems, don't run from them.
Learn to take a blow of any force. Go face to face with the problem and give it a hard time, smash it to smithereens. Life does not tolerate the weak. So it teaches us by knocking us down until we adapt.
Of course, we will not be able to solve absolutely all problems, but everyone can try to do something. We may have to fall more than once, but we fall only in order to rise.
Don't be afraid to make mistakes.
It's better to try and make a mistake than to do nothing at all. No matter who tries to be clever about the need to draw conclusions from the mistakes of someone else and learn from them, remember that we only learn from our own mistakes, and not from others.
Any failure can lead you to success, and any success is fraught with traces of past failures.
Don't try to imitate someone.
Be yourself. This world forces everyone to dance to the same tune, trying to make sure that no one is any different from each other. That's why most people work hard to be like their idols, acquaintances, or anyone else.
Everyone has their own life. Yes, someone will always be more beautiful than you, someone younger, and someone smarter, but all of them will never be you. The one who values you will always love you for who you are. Therefore, you should not try to change yourself to please someone.
Let go of the past forever.
There is no need to cling to it and hold on to it. It is impossible to change what happened. You wondered how to start all over again, remember? So, you will never be able to start something new while you hold on to the old. A new chapter of a book begins only when the old one ends...
Be honest with yourself.
Starting a new life and improving it significantly is only possible when we take risks, and the first and most difficult thing for us is not to lie to ourselves.
Unlearn putting your personal needs into the background.
Remember, you and your life are exceptional. Uniqueness must be given a chance to develop. That's what's really scary - forgetting about your uniqueness and putting all your strength into loving someone else.
No, you shouldn't leave those you love. You just shouldn’t forget about yourself either. Learn to find time for yourself and... create, do what is really important to you, without stopping at anything.
Never reproach yourself for making mistakes.
Life, throwing us more and more new challenges, forces us to make mistakes. Some people scold themselves for falling in love with the wrong person, and others for doing something stupid... Look at it from a different, positive angle. It's worth starting to think differently.
If you hadn't made a mistake once, you wouldn't have met your spouse, gotten your current good job, or lived where you do now...
There are many examples, but the essence is the same. You are you, here and right now, and not the mistakes you once made. You have a great chance to start building your future. So finally start demolishing bricks to the construction site!
Give up all attempts to buy yourself happiness.
This is impossible! Such simple things as love, joy, laughter, working on your own feelings are absolutely free...
Stop looking for someone to find happiness.
First, deal with your cockroaches in your head. You need to start creating stability in your life. You will not become happier in a relationship until you are happy with yourself and your personality.
Stop messing around.
It won't get you anywhere. Life doesn't like lazy people. Take action now. Your whole life is movement.
Do something that makes you feel good about yourself...
You must go into a new life with a willingness to work and plow. Don't hesitate in making decisions. Don’t think too long, otherwise out of the blue you’ll create another problem that might not have existed. Act decisively and take risks where you can.
Don't torment yourself with doubts that you are not ready for something.
I’ll tell you a little secret: no one feels 100% ready for anything. We stop feeling comfortable as soon as we see serious opportunities in front of us. We experience discomfort at the level of thinking. This is how man is made.
You don’t need to get sucked into a relationship right away, just like that.
I'm talking about love. Don't rush to choose a person. Think about it, weigh all the pros and cons, evaluate your sensations and feelings, and only then make your choice. Relationships are built wisely, not haphazardly.
Dive into the waters of love when you feel you are ready, and not at the first inner urge of loneliness.
There’s no need to get all worked up and tell new relationships to hell when the old ones didn’t work out.
It’s just that you haven’t yet met someone who will love you because you are “exactly like that.”
Don't look at everyone as competition.
Life is designed in such a way that someone will always be more successful than you. You need to start developing a new strategy, focusing on your own achievements. Fight with yourself, not with someone else.
No need to be jealous.
Stop complaining about everything and feeling sorry for yourself.
Life rolls the dice for you. Thanks to these cubes, she guides you along one path or another. By constantly complaining about something, you can miss a lot of important things.
You need to understand and take in everything that is happening around you. And by constantly complaining, you will lose concentration and plunge into a world of eternal problems. Show people that you are doing well - smile more often.
Drive away the hatred.
To be offended by someone and hate him all your life is only to your detriment. I even advise you to exclude the word “hate” from your vocabulary. It only attracts negative energy. Don't forgive the offense, just forget about it, and you will find peace.
Don't strain yourself in explanations.
A friend doesn’t need them, and an enemy simply won’t believe you. Don't waste time and energy on this.
Don't neglect simple little things.
Life is full of pleasant little things - enjoy them. In the future, you will treat these memories as important moments in your life.
Don't try to make everything perfect.
You may do better, but it won't be perfect. Then you will again want to improve what you have already improved, etc. You'll end up wasting a lot of time.
Don't blame others if you have problems.
You yourself are responsible for your life and actions. The dream will remain unfulfilled if you constantly lose control of your sense of responsibility.
And finally, even if you have to step into nowhere, starting life from scratch, not knowing what lies ahead, it is better to take this risky step than to live your whole life feeling like an unhappy person.
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A few years ago, the movie and the book it was based on, Eat Pray Love, were at the peak of their popularity.
Actress Julia Roberts skillfully embodied on the screen the image of a woman who, having abandoned a seemingly prosperous life, went to search for the meaning of her existence.
Of course, everything worked out for her.
Love with the face of the slightly brutal, but insanely charming Javier Bardem became a worthy reward for the heroine’s courage.
After the release of this film, a number of women (and even men) searched on the Internet for answers to the question, how to start life from scratch, increased significantly.
People, wanting to, forget that film and life are far from identical concepts, even if the film is based on real events.
To achieve something, you need to make some effort. Sometimes ill-considered steps can lead to disastrous results.
Starting from scratch - a success story
Living not your own fate, but one imposed by your parents/friends/society (underline as appropriate) is truly terrible.
Not having the opportunity to realize oneself, tolerating an unloved woman next to you, suffering from physical or moral violence, or crossing out everything in one fell swoop and start a new life from scratch is a choice that every person must make.
My sister-in-law has a friend.
I don’t know her closely, although I’ve heard a lot.
This friend was married for more than 20 years to a man who did not hesitate to insult her in public and even sometimes raise his hand. She endured.
First because she loved, then for the sake of her son, then she did not want to lose her material wealth.
And so the son grew up, the husband became so insolent that he began to drag his mistresses into their common company and, despite the fact that she, being a sought-after hairdresser, earned quite decently, began to reproach her for any purchase.
At one point, she was so tired of everything that she, having packed her bags, left her husband for a rented apartment.
Her friends, who tolerate similar husbands, tried to prove that “everyone lives like this and there is no point in showing off, because you will return to him anyway.”
Only my daughter-in-law supported this decision.
The story turned out to have a happy ending.
In just a year and a half, she created a new family with a man who adores her and even decided to get pregnant in her early years.
The daughter-in-law says that she has never seen her so happy.
How to start living from scratch - a story of disappointment
Sometimes, in pursuit of an ephemeral blue bird, we refuse to notice the happiness that can only be achieved by extending our hand.
By walking, we risk losing everything.
I heard this story one day in public transport when I was going to the gym.
The woman was telling her friend about her brother.
He worked as a programmer in one company, earned quite good money, was appreciated by his superiors, but he was incredibly bored.
His work irritated him; he wanted some excitement, risk, brightness in life.
“Tomorrow you will start a new life... So many plans for this day... And then come the anchors of excuses, Brakes of hope and killer laziness!”
And so, after a slight quarrel with his boss, he decided to start an interesting business: buying whole pigs, then cutting them up and selling the meat on the market.
He did not want to hear that this activity, like any other, has many nuances and requires certain preparation.
I won’t bore you with the details I heard.
Let me just say that nothing worked out for him.
The money paid to him by the company after leaving ran out and even debts appeared.
He parted with his former boss not very nicely, saying a bunch of nasty things to him before leaving.
But he turned out to be vindictive and created a bad reputation for him.
I had to get off because I had arrived at my stop, so I couldn’t hear how the ordeal of the hapless businessman ended, but this part of the story is enough to form a moral: you shouldn’t give in to emotions when making important decisions.
People who have decided to begin dramatic changes in their lives can avoid disappointment if they listen to the recommendations:
- Believe in success, but prepare for possible difficulties, otherwise the first failure will force you to turn back.
- Leave bad habits in the past: smoking, love of fast food, alcohol abuse - they are not suitable for a new life.
- Start a new life with changes in your appearance: lose weight, shave your beard, dye your hair, get a new wardrobe and finally throw away that terrible polka dot shirt your mom gave you.
When making an important decision, weigh the pros and cons.
Answer yourself honestly the question: “Do you think that without this man/woman/job/friend, etc. will you be much better off than with him?”
Having decided to start a new life from scratch, don’t look back and don’t regret what you did.
You will not be able to achieve anything if you are constantly tormented by doubts.
Your path is “Forward and with song!”
Make up your steps to a new life.
Better yet, keep a diary in which you write about both successes and failures.
Don’t listen to the cackling of cowards: “Oh, you can’t do that!”, “Well, whatever hits you, they hit everyone,” “It doesn’t matter that the salary is small, there are people who live on a thousand,” etc.
Don't leave unfinished things before starting a new life so that they don't pull you back.
Finish everything at your old job, get a divorce, pay off your debts, etc.
Find the sources of negativity that prevent you from realizing yourself, and get rid of them without regret.
It could be anything, from the annoying interior of your home to your always whining girlfriend.
Get rid of addictions such as the Internet, TV, etc.
Firstly, you will immediately have a lot of free time that can be filled with something useful.
And secondly, successful people do not have such weaknesses that guide them.
I bring to your attention a useful video from a famous psychologist -
Natalia Tolstoy about
how to stop worrying and live happily.
Take what is useful for yourself!
Well, the most important thing to remember when looking for an answer to the question: “ How to start life from scratch“, - live every day as if you don’t have decades left.
Don’t put anything off until later, because that “later” may never come.
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