What to do to change everything. Try to surround yourself with decent, honest, open, smart and successful people

I often see people whose lives are riddled with suffering and full of pessimism. They complain about fate, family, work, society and the state. They do not see the light at the end of the tunnel and believe that someone else is to blame for their plight. Even I, a person who is far from having the most cheerful disposition, next to them seems to be an example of an energetic jokester. So sometimes when they ask me what they need to do to change things, I think for a moment and give them some advice.

Without claiming great achievements in the field of personal growth, in today’s post I collected all such things that I have ever heard, applied or advised. All of them have been tested from my own experience, and I will be glad if this is useful to someone.

1. Find out what you really like. This is both the most important and the most difficult. There will be a separate big conversation about this, but the golden rule is: do what gives you true pleasure, and then you will become much happier. Moreover, having a job that really lights you up is a key factor in attracting the opposite sex. But you must be prepared for the fact that finding your way is a marathon that can last many (tens?) years.

2. Give up the junk you eat, drink and smoke every day. No secrets or tricky diets - just natural food, fruits, vegetables, water. You don’t have to become a vegetarian and completely give up drinking - you just need to limit sugar, flour, coffee, alcohol and all plastic food as much as possible.

10. Give up computer games and stupid Internet surfing. Minimize your presence on social networks (even to the point of optimization - leave only one active account). Forget about TV, except for popular science programs. Make it a habit to check your email only during certain periods of time.

11. Limit reading meaningless news. All the same, everyone around will talk about key events, and additional noise information does not lead to an improvement in the quality of decision-making.

12. Learn to get up early. The paradox is that in the early hours you always get more done than in the evening. If on a summer weekend you leave Moscow at 7 am, then by 10 you will already be in Yaroslavl. If you leave at 10, you will be there by lunchtime at best. The same goes for weekend shopping. 7 hours of sleep is enough for a person, subject to high-quality physical activity and normal nutrition.

13. Try to surround yourself with decent, honest, open, smart and successful people. We are our environment from which we learn everything we know. Spend more time with people you respect and can learn from (especially your bosses). Accordingly, try to minimize communication with people who are negative, sad, pessimistic and angry. To grow taller, you must strive upward, and having people around you to whom you want to grow will in itself be a great incentive.

14. Use every moment of time and every person to learn something new. If life brings you together with a professional in any field, try to understand what is the essence of his work, what are his motivations and goals. Learn to ask the right questions - even a taxi driver can become an invaluable source of information.

15. Start traveling. It doesn’t matter that there is no money for Argentina and New Zealand - the quality of the holiday has nothing to do with the money spent, and my best trips were to regions that are not at all distinguished by pathos and high cost. When you see how diverse the world is, you will stop focusing on the small space around you, and you will become more tolerant, calmer and wiser.

16. Buy a camera/ easel/ ballroom slippers. Try to catch the beauty of the world. When you succeed, you will remember your travels not only by vague impressions, but also by the beautiful photographs that you brought with you. As an alternative, try drawing, singing, dancing, sculpting, designing. That is, do something that will make you look at the world with different eyes.

17. Play sports. It’s not at all necessary to go to a fashionable sports club. Yoga, rock climbing, cycling, horizontal bar, parallel bars, football, running, swimming, functional training are the best friends of a person who wants to tone the body and get a surge of endorphins. And forget about the elevator - if you have to walk less than 10 floors, use your legs. In just 3 months of methodical work on yourself, you can change your body almost beyond recognition.

18. Get out of your comfort zone. Go somewhere you’ve never been, take a different route to work, figure out a problem you know nothing about, expand your knowledge and horizons. Rearrange the furniture at home (and do this about once a year), change your appearance, hairstyle, image. The more often you step outside your usual “shell”, the better you will understand what is happening in the world.

19. Invest. Ideally, you should invest part of your income every month, because a rich person is not the one who earns a lot, but the one who invests a lot. Try to invest in assets, minimize liabilities and control expenses. If you set yourself a financial goal and put your personal money in order, you will be surprised at how easily you will move towards achieving it.

20. Get rid of the junk. Throw away or give away all the items you haven't worn or used in the last year (you won't get to them next year either). Keep only what you really like and need. When buying a new item, get rid of the old similar one so that the balance is maintained. Less stuff means less dust and headaches.

21. Give more than you take. Share knowledge, experience and ideas. A person who not only takes, but also shares, is incredibly attractive. Surely you can do something that others really want to learn. At one time, coaching became a discovery for me - I began to give trainings and lectures on a voluntary and free basis, which ultimately grew into quite a big story, which brings me great satisfaction.

22. Accept the world as it is. Give up value judgments, accept all phenomena as initially neutral. And even better - as unequivocally positive.

23. Forget about what happened in the past. It has nothing to do with your future. Take with you from there only experience, knowledge, good relationships and positive impressions.

24. Don't be afraid. There are no insurmountable obstacles, and all doubts live only in your head. You don't have to be a warrior, you just need to see the goal, avoid obstacles and know that you will achieve it without a single chance of failure.

25. The last one is the first one. Do what you like. Learn. Teach. Develop yourself. Change yourself from within.

This is by no means an exhaustive list. But even if you systematically do at least some of this, then in a year, when you look at yourself in the mirror, you won’t recognize yourself. And the world will simply have no choice but to follow your example and change in response.

P.P.S. Despite a common misconception, Pavel Durov is not the author of this text. He only

217 379 6 Life is amazing and beautiful in all its manifestations, with ups and downs, sorrows and joys, pros and cons... Simply because it exists. But if there are more and more downs and downs along the way, depression and apathy prevent you from being happy and do not let go of the feeling that everything has reached some kind of dead end, then it’s time to change your life for the better. And you need to do this, even when you don’t want to change at all.

We approached the preparation of this article very responsibly. It contains materials from various published publications, conferences, trainings and of course personal experience. The article is filled with practical advice, the awareness and application of which will certainly lead to changes in your life. We'll tell you where to start. Each person must determine further actions for himself individually, in accordance with what he wants to receive. Well, let's go! How to change your life for the better.

How to change your life for the better

Where do thoughts about life changes come from?

Everyone wants to be happy, but in order to make the dream come true, sitting and waiting in one place is not enough. Therefore we have to act.

At first thoughts come that say that that’s enough, this is no longer possible! And they, in turn, materialize into actions. This, of course, with a responsible approach to your own life. After all, without doing anything to change the situation, you can bring yourself to a moral emptiness (which is very undesirable, since it is difficult to get out of there). In this regard, whenever the mind and soul are prompted to action, one should immediately begin making the first attempts to change one’s life.

First steps - where to start making changes ?

Everyone intuitively knows and feels that It's better to start with yourself. But it is very difficult to do this, and, in general, the first steps are always the most difficult. But the essence of the problem also lies in the fact that it is necessary to choose the only correct path along which it will be necessary to go, without turning aside, for some time. And also decide what exactly you would like to achieve. To do this you need:

Conduct a little research into your life and your own “I”. Think about what aspects you would like to correct, make better, what you don’t like at all, and what aspects it would be desirable to largely eliminate. It is easier to carry out such work not in the mind, but on a piece of paper, writing down all the exciting points, separating, of course, the positive from the negative.
Then you need to write down each position, that is, write opposite the desired one - why do you want to achieve this And how to achieve the goal. Those items on the list that have a negative connotation should also be written down, and then crossed out and forgotten about them.

It is precisely this action - writing down your desires, aspirations, needs on a piece of paper - that is the first step towards changing your life, becoming better! It's time for change! A checklist helps you most accurately determine your goal and understand what needs to be removed from your life and what needs to be added in order for it to satisfy you.

It's a start! But you cannot expect instant improvements, transformations and metamorphoses. This process is quite long and difficult. You need to have a lot of patience. Expecting quick changes can only ruin the whole mood, which will lead to an inevitable breakdown and a return to one’s “trough.”

To change your life you need to tirelessly, constantly work on yourself. It is possible that at first bad thoughts will swarm in your head, your mind will look for all kinds of evidence that happiness is the lot of other people, etc. Almost everyone who has embarked on the path of positive change sins with this. The main thing is not to stop, pull yourself together and continue! And in order not to slip back into your previous attitudes again, you need to use the following recommendations and ways to change your life in a positive direction.

In order to achieve success in any business, you need to draw up a detailed action plan before starting it. So, the first recommendation:

#1 Writing instructions

It is desirable that every maneuver on the way to the goal be considered in detail. This is important, because you can’t forget anything, everything needs to be done correctly. And then you can expect the desired effect.

Remember order in your head and thoughts = order in life! This should become an axiom on the path to change.

How to make a plan correctly? To do this, you should return to the very first step - your wish list. It has already outlined how to achieve each goal. And now this list will be very useful. Just so as not to miss a single detail and make detailed instructions from the notes.

Each list item can be presented in the form of a table. For example, there is a goal: lose weight .

Obstacles

What can help?

Actions

What will give you what you want?

1. Lack of willpower necessary to stick to the diet.

2. Food addiction.

3. Unhealthy snacks.

4. Eating problems.

1. Literature.

2. Internet.

3. Nutritionist, gastroenterologist and endocrinologist.

4. Marathon with a friend.

5. Motivating pictures.

1. Develop a menu for proper nutrition.

2. Gradually include sports (when?).

3. Weigh yourself once a week.

4. Come up with a reward system.

1. Health.

2. Beauty: clear skin, healthy complexion.

Of course, each table column can contain many more items. Everything is individual. It will also be useful to keep a diary or blog, where, in addition to the goals themselves, you can record your slightest achievements, describe your mistakes, etc.

#2 Mindset for the best results

Always, as soon as despondency and bad mood begin to gain ground again, you need to force yourself by force of will get back on the positive side. In any way: read affirmations, do something calming, listen to music, etc. It’s a good idea to always have some motivators on hand for such cases. At least just your own list, which lists all the good points that change will bring.

You always need to remember for what purposes everything was started. Don’t be shy to tell yourself out loud that everything will work out, write down your achievements. After all, they are quickly erased from memory in the face of even the smallest failures. Seeing the dynamics of positive changes in front of you, it will be much easier to survive the period of loss of strength.

How to proceed correctly at this stage? You need to eliminate negativity from your life.

Avoid quarrels and arguments. And, in general, from all sorts of clashes with people.
Always find a compromise solution. Or you can simply ignore the conflict situation.
Learn to enjoy the little things, pay attention only to the bright, kind, positive things around you. This leads to good changes and facilitates the transition to a new stage of one’s existence.
You need to “release” your past. Forgive yourself all the negative, sad moments, imperfect actions, etc. Now you should think about a new life, but you need to be “here and now.”

Of course, on the path to happiness, there will be breakdowns and explosions. But we must not allow them to cross out the entire path that has been made and return it to the level from which it began, if not lower. Constant work on yourself will not allow this to happen.

#3 Unnecessary and bad habits are a force pulling you back

This means not only alcohol, smoking, etc. But, in general, all habits that do not let you go into a new happy life. What could it be? It's simple:

speak obscenities;
going to bed late, constantly being in a state of extreme lack of sleep;
forget promises;
to be lazy;
put everything off until tomorrow;
there is a lot to eat or convey;
watch TV often;
play toys on the phone;
forget to wash your hair :)
biting nails, etc.

Everyone will continue the list for themselves. There are no ideal people, but no one stops you from striving for perfection. By getting rid of harmful things and acquiring useful things, you will feel better and more confident in yourself.. Getting rid of addictions is a difficult, but fun and important process on the road to changing your life for the better. This point must be included in the plan for joyful changes. And today start replacing harmful things with useful ones. For example, normalize sleep, eliminate watching television from your daily routine, review your diet, etc. Over time (perhaps not immediately), the new habit will take root and bring you one step closer to a wonderful positive future. If you are familiar with this feeling, then remember it more often: the feeling when you realize that you have done a tremendous amount of work on yourself and have achieved a certain breakthrough! This will give you self-confidence, strength to move on, set new goals.

#4 Opening up to people - moving forward

You can’t hide from people, your family, loved ones, friends, colleagues.. This refers to those who can encourage, support, and simply lift the spirit with their presence. If someone you know has something that is on your wish list, then you need to impartially consider the situation and think about what action allowed this person to have your dream. It’s better to ask how he went towards this goal and achieved it. Perhaps the advice will turn out to be practical, and today it will be possible to fit it into your own plan.

You should communicate more with friends. It is not necessary to share your experiences and problems, especially if you don’t want to do this. You can simply recharge yourself with positive energy from a pleasant pastime and sweet conversations. The world seems much more beautiful when there is a person in the world whom you can rely on.
But contacts with angry, pessimistic, and sad people should be significantly limited. And if possible, avoid them completely.

A good incentive for personal growth is the person nearby, to whom you need to grow, and not fall!

By the way, new acquaintances also allow you to move forward, changing previous ideas and attitudes towards new directions in life. After all, they teach you to open up to the world.

#5 Interests and hobbies are what you need!

We need to remember what we were interested in as a child. This is often where the calling lies. For example, you really liked collecting autumn leaves or clumsy sticks that looked like animals, sewing or knitting, decorating old furniture, cooking or baking, drawing something on whatman paper, teaching other children new foreign words, etc. Or maybe Not in childhood, but in adulthood and in a fully conscious life, I wanted to do something, but somehow I never got around to it or was overcome by doubts. But any person who finds himself in what he loves is happy. So why don't you become happy too!?

In addition, interests can be quite mundane. If you enjoy reading, doing handicrafts, or playing sports, then it’s worth setting aside time for this. And when it seems that nothing interests you, then it only seems. A huge number of things exist in this world in order to distract from sad thoughts and not allow despondency to win and push you back to the beginning of the path. There are many interesting courses and activities that can inspire. And inspiration brings joy!

Step by step comes the realization that there is no turning back, that the heart is completely open to change, the best and most beautiful changes in life. But the recommendations listed are not quite enough to turn the world upside down in a good way. Therefore, more advice that will change your life is vital.

How to start a new life and change yourself? You don't need to be a superman to do this. All methods are incredibly simple. The main thing is to start and over time there will be no trace of pessimism, suffering and complaints.

No best methods to change your life will help if you constantly clog your body. It is necessary to pay attention to quality and... We are what we eat! It is not necessary to eat only vegetables and fruits from your own garden and not drink alcohol at all. You just need to limit the flow of garbage inside as much as possible.
It's worth starting to learn another language. This will not only expand your worldview in amazing ways, but will also be a great opportunity for professional change. Sometimes, when trying to remember a new word, you start to think about its meaning and look for synonyms. All this leads to the development of thinking, forces us to go beyond the ordinary, thus leading to change. And besides, now knowledge of English is more a necessity than a whim.
Need to read more. Not magazines and other light reading, but something for development in your specialty. Or classics, sociology, psychology, history, etc. You don’t have to read, but listen. The main thing is to have at least one book in 7 days. That works out to about 52 per year. Fifty-two works that are sure to change your life.
Weekends should not be spent on the couch. Anywhere - in the gym, in nature, in a museum, at the cinema, at an exhibition, in another city or visiting relatives. You can even jump with a parachute, learn to ride a horse, touch type, etc. The main thing is to accumulate more impressions, they fill life, with them it becomes much more interesting. No need to sit still. We need to expand our horizons and the area of contact with the world. Change starts with movement.
A personal blog or diary will help you deal with problems faster than they become unbearable.. Their benefit lies in the ability to reason, think and analyze. And it’s better to write in them about what you love most. And if no one will ever read your personal diary, then the blog will certainly find its admirers, and will also help you earn extra money. And doing what you like and getting paid for it is the dream of many. After all, very often the opposite is true.
If you learn to manage your time, life will become much easier. We must develop the habit of making decisions immediately, acting today, and not tomorrow or “later.” Everything that is planned must be done or transferred to the shoulders of another. But, the main thing is that the planned tasks are completed and not postponed indefinitely. Otherwise, they will become a dead weight pulling you down. And we need to fly up! It would also be a good idea to remember everything unfulfilled and write it down. Understand whether there is a need under the given circumstances to complete these matters. If not, then with peace of mind you can cross them out. If yes, then do them soon. This will bring incredible relief and release a lot of new and much needed strength.
You should give up stupid spending time on the Internet, especially games, which steal not only time, but also life. If you use the limitless possibilities of the network, then only for good - for development, training, work, etc. And it’s better to communicate with friends live. What could be more beautiful than personal meetings, conversations, tactile sensations, laughter, smiles? Shared pleasant memories are created this way, not by emoticons on the World Wide Web.
Stopping being interested in news does not mean falling behind the world. Everyone will talk about the main thing. And everything secondary and superficial only interferes with life, causing unnecessary worries, worries and overshadowing something really important. It's all confusing.
It is not for nothing that there is such a proverb - whoever gets up early, God gives him. Having learned to spend the morning hours profitably, you will very soon notice how much more things you can accomplish in a day. Much more than when you go to bed late. To get enough sleep a person needs 7 hours, provided that he leads a healthy lifestyle. If you go to bed at 23.00 and wake up at 06.00, then during your waking hours you can turn the whole world upside down. Today, more and more authors and personal growth coaches advise starting your day as early as possible. People are showing amazing results! There is no limit to admiration when all the work is done before lunch and there is time left to do something else or do something for fun.
Traveling is one of the ways to change yourself and your life. You don't have to fly to distant Australia to understand how diverse the world is. You don’t need expensive tours to realize that there is no point in considering your small space as the whole Universe - it is much wider and goes beyond the limits of consciousness. Traveling makes a person more tolerant, more forgiving of his own and others’ weaknesses, wiser and calmer.
Creativity allows you to completely change your worldview. Creativity develops the right hemisphere, which helps us do several things at once without ignoring details. It doesn’t matter what type of creativity you do. The process itself is so captivating that there is no time left for sadness, melancholy and despondency. Much of what seemed unrealistically important and brought pain recedes and becomes secondary, and then completely disappears without a trace if a person is passionate about something. You can do:

photography,
drawing,
singing,
dancing,
design, etc.

The main thing is that the work should be enjoyable. Perhaps in the future it will be able to generate income. Realizing yourself in something is very important!

Creative activity has amazing therapeutic properties. It allows you to experience the pain of loss, melancholy, and hopelessness.

Sports activities tone the body and provoke a surge of happiness hormones(and improve metabolism). And this is exactly what we are trying to achieve. Therefore, regular physical activity must be one of the points in the plan to change your life.
Need to get out of your comfort zone. To get started, you don't need to do anything extreme. It’s just worth visiting a place you’ve never been to, getting to work a different way, changing your appearance or image. Even simple rearrangement of furniture helps. Sometimes exit is a painful process, but more often than not it is what encourages you to start a new life. This is quite interestingly written in the book of the same name “How to get out of your comfort zone” by Brian Tracy (MYTH publishing house). It is worth reading for anyone who has decided to take the path of changing their life.

It is necessary to restore order in the financial sector. Control of expenses and income, investments and other economic aspects must certainly be present in the plan of a person who wants to change his financial situation. Since nothing can unsettle you like financial difficulties. A hit to the wallet stops us on the path to change, and at such moments we don’t even want to think about creativity and healthy eating. Include the problem of money in your Checklist: take on an additional part-time job, pay a loan on time, change jobs, ask for a raise, etc.
We need to throw away unnecessary things. Do not take them to the barn or garage, but rather get rid of them or give them to someone. And constantly maintain balance - by acquiring new things, removing old ones. Old things are the ballast of the past. Which follows you until you remove it from your eyes. To remove it, you need to throw it away. Psychologists advise going through your things as often as possible and throwing away those that you have not used for more than one year. The Internet is replete with a large number of projects about getting rid of unnecessary things that really produce results.

An interesting interview with a blogger who promotes and proves by personal example that you can and should get rid of unnecessary things, as well as what this leads to.

It is important to be able to accept the world “with all its giblets.” Refuse assessments and analysis, take a neutral position, or better yet a positive one. Elinor Porter’s wonderful book “Pollyanna” teaches us very well how to see the positive sides in everything. You should read it to the end, this girl, the heroine of the work, will teach anyone to enjoy life, even the most inveterate pessimist.
Leave the past in the past. This needs to be done! To move on! No matter how good or bad this time is, it will drag you back, which is dangerous for positive change. We must say “thank you” to him for the lessons, experience, good impressions, pleasant memories and other positive moments and let him go in peace. The past has no place in the present, much less a happy future.

And you also need:

give more than take,
share your knowledge,
do not be afraid and do not stop in front of obstacles,
do what you like;
develop;
study;
change from within.

Of course, that's not all. There is no limit to perfection. But all the ways to change your life for the better come down to the fact that you need to change yourself first. And then the world will be transformed in response!

But what prevents you from starting to live in a new way? The enemies of positive change are the mistakes reformers make. It is they who lead to the fact that any positive decision ends in defeat and a return to the original position, if not worse.

5 mistakes that stop positive change

The main aggressor opposing positive changes is our brain. Very often people forget that its function is to save lives, and not to make a person financially secure and happy in all areas. And he perceives the usual way of life, the established way of life, as a safe niche for existence. Anything beyond this will be met with hostility. That is he considers everything new dangerous and threatening to human life.

Therefore, when making an important decision to begin positive changes, it is important to first agree with yourself. Failures will be avoided not by the specificity of goals (although this is also extremely important), but by the simplicity of the steps to achieve it. That is, the most immodest aspiration should be described in such a way that our defender does not have the desire to give a signal to record the dream as unrealizable.

This influence itself is easy to notice when, for one specific positive thought in terms of changes for the better, there are a million thoughts-excuses from implementing the goal in life. For example, have you decided to run every morning? What about:

Bad weather?
Will people watch?
There are no normal sneakers!
I have absolutely no strength to do anything today!

Therefore, you need to think through everything down to the smallest detail!

It is often believed that to start changes you just need to make a decision and that’s it, then somehow everything will work out on its own. Of course, a solution is necessary. But to realize a goal, it must be specific. Well, it’s not enough to say: “That’s it, tomorrow I’m starting a new life!”, without having an idea of what it will be like in principle. If there is no clearly defined task, there is no understanding of what exactly the result should be, then all the advice on how to change your life for the better may turn out to be useless. Because the lack of specificity deprives the brain of the opportunity to understand the goal and provide a solution to the problem in the form of steps to action.

The third mistake is the desire to achieve something without an appropriate supportive environment. This is real, of course, but it will require a huge amount of mental strength and nerves, the presence of the most iron willpower in the world and persistent, unbreakable motivation.

There will always be someone (and more than one) who will undermine confidence and strongly persuade you to turn away from a new path in life. Perhaps these will be close friends. Of course, you shouldn’t break off an expensive relationship. But enlisting the support of a community that shares views on a new life is very important.

Another mistake that many people make when embarking on the path of change is the lack of encouragement. They should be for even the slightest achievements. Because everything needs balance. And it is necessary that the discomfort from changes (and it will be) is equalized by pleasant, albeit small, gifts to yourself. For example, after a week of proper nutrition - a good body cream that you have long dreamed of. In a month - a beautiful dress. This is, of course, for women. Men have their own stimulants and motivations.

Mistake #5 - not telling anyone about your decision to start a new life. This happens because of the fear that nothing will work out. And in fact it leads to the fact that it is not possible to implement the plan. A saving thought arises in my head: “It’s good that I didn’t tell anyone anything,” etc. In general, a vicious circle. This is wrong. You need to speak about your decision, loudly and confidently. This fact imposes some obligations and indicates the seriousness of intentions. And gives strength and energy for success!

Boldness and courage in any endeavor are components of future success. But besides this, some other aspects are important.

Start your day right. Avoid office conversations in the morning tapa “I’m so tired of morning traffic jams. The workday would soon be over. The children don’t listen to me at all, I’m exhausted. I'm completely exhausted." Think about the pleasant things in your life, smile more often. Mentally record every time you think about something negative and transform it into something positive.
Appreciate what you have. We constantly want to achieve something, to get something that doesn’t exist at the moment. Always. Having acquired one, we immediately begin to think about the next item on the wish list, which is endlessly updated. And there is no time to simply be happy with what is. And it turns out that life is a game where you have to constantly think about how to move to another level. But still, it is very important to stop at least for a short moment and thank the higher powers for everything. The ability to thank yourself, God, the Universe for having an important moment that is often underestimated. Saying phrases of gratitude to yourself allows you to realize the good things you have and gives you strength to receive new things.
Take responsibility for yourself. You need to realize that everything that happens is the result of a choice once made. There is no need to blame others for your own problems. On the contrary, you should get together and start right now to change the situation created by your own hands and thoughts. And continue to remember that no one else can control your life, cope with obstacles and hold accountable for your actions and actions. It's difficult, but necessary. A third party can influence the choice, but only you make it yourself!
Help other people, take care of loved ones. Whatever one may say, love begets love, and a good deed done always returns to its source.
Listen to your inner voice, trust your intuition.
Forgive yourself and others. We all know that forgiveness is the best medicine for the soul. We know, but we continue to carry grievances in our hearts for years, destroying ourselves and our lives with this poison.
Eliminate forever from your existence such phenomena as laziness and fear. They are the main obstacles on the road to happiness. Laziness arises because you cannot be transported to another life with one click. To do this, you need to work constantly, constantly act, which you really don’t want to do. But fear can only lead to the fact that, having never decided to step into a new life, you will have to end the old one, without ever knowing what real happiness and joy are.
Don't beat yourself up if things don't work out. It is better to praise your efforts and encourage you to take further action, rather than convince yourself of your own worthlessness and abandon all your endeavors.
Accept what is impossible to change. Leave it alone. Otherwise, you can spend all your best years fighting something that is not worth it.
You need to live your own life, not someone else's. Therefore, you should determine your true desires and goals, and go only towards them, and not fulfill someone’s will imposed from the outside.
End the day right. Never go to bed in a bad mood and under no circumstances quarrel with loved ones before going to bed. Go to bed on time, even if you feel that you still have the strength to work. It will be counted for you in the morning.
Remember that there is always potential within to change your life for the better. And for this you don’t need “tomorrow”, “Monday”, “when I lose weight”, etc. You can and should start right now!

Go back to your wish list. Review it again and know that all of this is achievable. But you need to understand that even the most shabby dream will remain so if you do not act and continue to live in the power of stereotypes. Expand the boundaries of your consciousness, learn, develop, change yourself. And then amazing changes will not keep you waiting.

A must-watch video about how to change your life. "Instructions for life"

1. Find out what you really like.

This is both the most important and the most difficult. There will be a separate big conversation about this, but the golden rule is: do what gives you true pleasure, and then you will become much happier. Moreover, having a job that really lights you up is a key factor in attracting the opposite sex. But you need to be prepared for the fact that finding your way is a marathon that can last many (tens?) years.

2. Stop the junk you eat, drink and smoke every day.

No secrets or tricky diets - just natural food, fruits, vegetables, water. You don’t have to become a vegetarian and completely give up drinking - you just need to limit sugar, flour, coffee, alcohol and all plastic food as much as possible.

3. Learn foreign languages.

This will incredibly expand the depth of perception of the world and open up unprecedented prospects for learning, development and career growth. There are 60 million Russian-speaking Internet users. There are a billion English speakers. The center of progress is now on the other side of the border, including the language border. Knowledge of English is no longer just a whim of intellectuals, but a vital necessity. Books, films, audio courses, news, interface on your phone - just immerse yourself in the language headlong, and progress will go very quickly.

4. Read books.

An approximate circle is your professional field, history, natural science, personal growth, sociology, psychology, biographies of great people, high-quality fiction. If you don’t have time to read because you’re driving, listen to audiobooks. The golden rule is to read/listen to at least one book a week. That's 50 books a year that will change your life.

5. Make the most of every weekend.

Go to a museum, an exhibition, play sports, go out of town, skydive, visit relatives, go to a good movie. Expand your zone of contact with the world. When you’ve already traveled and walked around everything, take your friends with you and tell them what you know. The main thing is don’t sit still. The more impressions you let through yourself, the more interesting life will be, and the better you will understand things and phenomena.

6. Record your thoughts.

You can start a blog, or you can just write on the table. It doesn't matter what it's about. It doesn’t matter that you don’t have eloquence - the main thing is that you can think and reason this way.

7. Set goals.

Write them down on paper, in Word or on a blog. The main thing is that they are clear, understandable and measurable. If you set a goal, you can either achieve it or not. If you don’t put it in, then there are no options for achieving it at all.

8. Learn to touch-type on the keyboard

– not being able to do this in the 21st century is the same as not being able to write with a pen in the 20th. Time is one of the few treasures you have, and you should be able to type almost as quickly as you can think. And you should think not about where the desired letter is, but about what you are writing.

9. Ride the clock.

Learn to manage your affairs so that they work almost without your participation. Make decisions quickly, act immediately, don’t put it off “for later.” Either do everything or delegate it to someone else. Try to never let the ball stay on your side. Write down on a piece of paper all the “long-term” things that have not yet been done and are interfering with your life. Rethink whether you need them (keeping in mind point 1). Do what's left for a few days and you'll feel incredibly light.

10. Give up computer games and stupid Internet surfing.

11. Limit reading meaningless news.

All the same, everyone around will talk about key events, and additional noise information does not lead to an improvement in the quality of decision-making.

12. Learn to get up early.

The paradox is that in the early hours you always get more done than in the evening. If on a summer weekend you leave Moscow at 7 am, then by 10 you will already be in Yaroslavl. If you leave at 10, you will be there by lunchtime at best. The same goes for weekend shopping. 7 hours of sleep is enough for a person, subject to high-quality physical activity and normal nutrition.

13. Try to surround yourself with decent, honest, open, smart and successful people.

We are our environment from which we learn everything we know. Spend more time with people you respect and can learn from (especially your bosses). Accordingly, try to minimize communication with people who are negative, sad, pessimistic and angry. To grow taller, you must strive upward, and having people around you to whom you want to grow will in itself be a great incentive.

14. Use every moment of time and every person to learn something new.

If life brings you together with a professional in any field, try to understand what is the essence of his work, what are his motivations and goals. Learn to ask the right questions - even a taxi driver can become an invaluable source of information.

15. Start traveling.

It doesn’t matter that there is no money for Argentina and New Zealand - the quality of the holiday has nothing to do with the money spent, and my best trips were to regions that are not at all distinguished by pathos and high cost. When you see how diverse the world is, you will stop focusing on the small space around you, and you will become more tolerant, calmer and wiser.

16. Buy a camera/ easel/ ballroom slippers.

Try to catch the beauty of the world. When you succeed, you will remember your travels not only by vague impressions, but also by the beautiful photographs that you brought with you. As an alternative, try drawing, singing, dancing, sculpting, designing. That is, do something that will make you look at the world with different eyes.

17. Play sports.

You don't have to go to a fancy sports club. Yoga, rock climbing, cycling, horizontal bar, parallel bars, football, running, swimming, functional training are the best friends of a person who wants to restore body tone and get a surge of endorphins. And forget about the elevator - if you have to walk less than 10 floors, use your legs. In just 3 months of methodical work on yourself, you can change your body almost beyond recognition.

18. Get out of your “comfort zone.”

Go somewhere you’ve never been, take a different route to work, figure out a problem you know nothing about, expand your knowledge and horizons. Rearrange the furniture at home (and do this about once a year), change your appearance, hairstyle, image. The more often you step outside your usual “shell”, the better you will understand what is happening in the world.

19. Invest.

Ideally, you should invest part of your income every month, because a rich person is not the one who earns a lot, but the one who invests a lot. Try to invest in assets, minimize liabilities and control expenses. If you set yourself a financial goal and get your personal money in order, you will be surprised at how easily you will move towards achieving it.

20. Get rid of junk.

Throw away or give away all the items you haven't worn or used in the last year (you won't get to them next year either). Keep only what you really like and need. When buying a new item, get rid of the old similar one so that the balance is maintained. Less stuff means less dust and headaches.

21. Give more than you take.

Share knowledge, experience and ideas. A person who not only takes, but also shares, is incredibly attractive. Surely you can do something that others really want to learn. At one time, coaching became a discovery for me - I began to give trainings and lectures on a voluntary and free basis, which ultimately grew into quite a big story, which brings me great satisfaction.

22. Accept the world as it is.

Give up value judgments, accept all phenomena as initially neutral. And even better – as unequivocally positive.

23. Forget about what happened in the past.

It has nothing to do with your future. Take with you from there only experience, knowledge, good relationships and positive impressions.

24. Don't be afraid.

There are no insurmountable obstacles, and all doubts live only in your head. You don't have to be a warrior, you just need to see the goal, avoid obstacles and know that you will achieve it without a single chance of failure.

25. The last one is the first one.

Do what you like. Learn. Teach. Develop yourself. Change yourself from within.

1. Find out what you really like

This is both the most important and the most difficult. There will be a separate big conversation about this, but the golden rule is: do what gives you true pleasure, and then you will become much happier. With the development of the Internet, everything has become even simpler - the results of your efforts are very easy to convey to the public, and they will definitely appreciate them. Moreover, having a job that really lights you up is a key factor in attracting the opposite sex. But you need to be prepared for the fact that finding your way is a marathon that can last many (tens?) years.
2. Cut out the junk you eat, drink and smoke every day.

No secrets or tricky diets - just natural food, fruits, vegetables, water. There is no need to become a vegetarian and completely give up drinking - you just need to limit sugar, flour, coffee, alcohol and all plastic food as much as possible.
3. Learn foreign languages

An approximate circle is your professional field, history, natural science, personal growth, sociology, psychology, biographies, high-quality fiction. If you don’t have time to read because you’re driving, listen to audiobooks. The golden rule is to read/listen to at least one book a week. That's 50 books a year that will change your life.
5. Make the most of every weekend

It doesn't matter what it's about. It doesn’t matter that you don’t have eloquence and you will have no more than 10 readers. The main thing is that on its pages you can think and reason. And if you just write regularly about what you love, readers will definitely come.
7. Set goals

Record them on paper, in Word or on a blog. The main thing is that they are clear, understandable and measurable (we’ll talk about this separately sometime). If you set a goal, you can either achieve it or not. If you don’t put it in, then there are no options for achieving it at all.
8. Learn to touch-type on the keyboard

Not being able to do this in the 21st century is the same as not being able to write with a pen in the 20th. Time is one of the few treasures you have, and you should be able to type almost as quickly as you can think. And you should think not about where the desired letter is, but about what you are writing.
9. Ride the clock

Learn to manage your affairs so that they work almost without your participation. For starters, read Allen (Getting Things Done) or Gleb Arkhangelsky. Make decisions quickly, act immediately, don’t put it off “for later.” Either do everything or delegate it to someone else. Try to never let the ball stay on your side. Write down on a piece of paper all the “long-term” things that have not yet been done and are interfering with your life. Rethink whether you need them (keeping point 1 in mind). Do what's left for a few days and you'll feel incredibly light.
10. Give up computer games, aimless sitting on social networks and stupid Internet surfing

Minimize communication on social networks (even to the point of optimization - leave only one account). Destroy the television antenna in the apartment. To avoid the urge to constantly check your email, install an agent that will notify you of incoming messages (including on your mobile phone).
11. Stop reading the news

All the same, everyone around will talk about key events, and additional noise information does not lead to an improvement in the quality of decision-making.
12. Learn to wake up early

You can do the simplest one, and try to capture the beauty of the world. When you succeed, you will remember your travels not only by vague impressions, but also by the beautiful photographs that you brought with you. As an alternative, try drawing, singing, dancing, sculpting, designing. That is, do something that will make you look at the world with different eyes.
17. Play sports

You don’t have to go to a fitness club where jocks, pick-up artists, Balzac ladies and freaks hang out. Yoga, rock climbing, cycling, horizontal bar, parallel bars, football, running, plyometrics, swimming, functional training are the best friends of a person who wants to tone the body and get a surge of endorphins. And forget about the elevator - if you have to walk less than 10 floors, use your legs. In just 3 months of methodical work on yourself, you can change your body almost beyond recognition.
18. Do unusual things

Go somewhere you’ve never been, take a different route to work, figure out a problem you know nothing about. Get out of your “comfort zone”, expand your knowledge and horizons. Rearrange the furniture at home (and do this about once a year), change your appearance, hairstyle, image.
19. Invest

Throw away all the things you haven't worn or used in the last year (you won't get to them next year either). Keep only what you really like and need. It's a pity to throw it away - give it away. When buying a new item, get rid of the old similar one so that the balance is maintained. Less stuff means less dust and headaches.
21. Give more than you take

Share knowledge, experience and ideas. A person who not only takes, but also shares, is incredibly attractive. Surely you can do something that others really want to learn. At one time, coaching became a discovery for me - I began to give trainings and lectures on a voluntary and free basis, which ultimately grew into a very big story that brings me great satisfaction.
22. Accept the world as it is

Give up value judgments, accept all phenomena as initially neutral. And even better – as unequivocally positive.
23. Forget about what happened in the past

It has nothing to do with your future. Take with you from there only experience, knowledge, good relationships and positive impressions.
24. Don't be afraid

Do what you like. Learn. Teach. Develop yourself. Change yourself from within.