When there is peace in the soul, what a spirit. About the spiritual world

- Father Joseph, how important is it for an Orthodox person to gain spiritual peace?

The Lord commanded: “Peace I leave with you, My peace I give to you,” “Come to Me, all you who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest,” “...Learn from Me, for I am meek and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.” . And the Apostle Paul says that the fruits of the Spirit are “love, joy, peace...” This peace is given to man from God. What prevents us from acquiring this world are human passions that torment everyone. It is not some circumstances that cause the internal disorder of the soul, although a person often tries to fight precisely with them. Peace of mind and peace of heart can only be found within oneself, living according to the commandments of God.

If we look at the word humility, then the root there is also “peace”. And humility, as you know, is one of the most important virtues of a Christian. The Lord calls us to be imitators of Him, learning humility from Him. This is the main quality of a Christian.

- “Irini” - in Greek “peace”, the grace-filled spiritual world of the soul, peace from God.

Yes. “Irini” is a peaceful, serene, dispassionate state of mind. There is another concept of “hesychia” - “silence”. The word “hesychia” is used in relation to ascetics who strive to achieve inner silence. This is not possible in the world. In search of hesychia, one must live somewhere on Mount Athos in complete solitude.

- At the beginning of the morning prayer rule there are wonderful words that before you begin to pray, you need to bring your feelings into silence.

Yes, but it doesn't always work out. It often happens that only in the process of prayer does a person feel calm. One of the holy fathers said that long prayer rules are needed so that a person can move away from the bustle and calm down. Brevity is also necessary, but one of the goals of those same long all-night vigils and other lengthy prayers is to renounce vanity and gain spiritual peace.

- Is it possible to “turn on” such an internal state of silence, figuratively speaking, during the day?

We need to strive for this. To remain calm constantly, under any circumstances, is one of the main tasks of a Christian.

- How, no matter what, maintain inner peace?

This comes with experience. The main obstacle here is passion and, above all, anger. Saint John Climacus says: “The beginning of freedom from anger is the silence of the lips when the heart is indignant.” That is, first of all, it is necessary to restrain your lips when something takes you out of your inner balance. And when we conquer ourselves in this way over and over again, inner peace comes. Acquiring inner peace begins with the outer, like any other virtue. Every resistance to passion weakens it, and, conversely, every indulgence in sin strengthens its effect. This is spiritual warfare. Gradually, such internal work becomes a habit, or rather, becomes a certain state of a person’s soul, despite enemy attacks through people or circumstances.

- How can calm-indifference be distinguished from “Orthodox” calm?

Godly calmness is based on humility. Abba Dorotheos has an example when one monk was asked how he managed to remain calm, and he answered: “Why should I be offended by these dogs?..” If a person is a Christian, then he does not judge anyone, does not think badly of anyone , considering himself an unworthy servant of God. And based on this, he perceives all events calmly, as sent from the Lord. He thanks God for all life circumstances, even for sorrows. And peace remains in his soul.

It is always necessary to remember: the Lord leads us to salvation in different ways, and often a person must go through sorrow and suffering to cleanse his soul.

- People say: “Whatever God does is for the best,” and in the Word of God it is written: “for those who love God... everything works together for good.”

Through temptations and sorrows, a person must find peace of mind.

- After confession, do you tell parishioners to go home calm and try to maintain this state?

Certainly. I talk about the same thing during the confession process. For example, spouses often try to educate each other, while throwing out their anger and irritation. But the main thing for family relationships is to keep peace. Here we are no longer talking about inner peace, but about peace in the family. You need to be able to give in to everyday little things. It is better for the more spiritual spouse to humble himself, and his other half will begin to improve, looking at the Christian behavior of the other. In this sense, humility and peace of mind are more important than all family circumstances. The Lord will then arrange everything for good. Often a quarrel begins over a trifle, but it is better to give in and keep the peace.

If someone fights for the truth, wants to achieve justice, then this must be done while maintaining inner peace. It would be wrong to defend the truth with feelings of irritation, hostility, anger, and enmity. This is already from the evil one. When even a just deed is done without peace of mind, it does not bring benefit to a person, but only harm.

- Why do you think there are so many irritable people in the world?

Human pride is to blame: someone, for example, considers himself better than another, therefore he gets irritated and cannot calm down. Does not accept everything as the will of God. Irritability is a lack of humility. A humble person takes everything calmly.

- Is it difficult for a priest to confess people?

If the priest has contact with the confessor, if he sees that the person has felt relief after the sacrament, then this brings joy and satisfaction to the clergyman. This is what happens most often. People come to our monastery with their sorrows and problems, nevertheless, we understand each other. When a person feels that the priest understands him, then it becomes easy for both: the priest and the confessor, and after a spiritual conversation the person leaves with a calm soul and good feelings.

- Probably the priest gets more tired if confession doesn’t work out?

There are different people. If they are our parishioners, those who come to communion every week are one thing. But with those who come to confession for the first time or come from afar, it is more difficult. We have many parishioners-pilgrims, and with God's help we try to help them solve their problems.

- Some secular people understand peace of mind as self-satisfaction. Is this wrong?

Certainly. You can never be satisfied with yourself. This is the opposite of humility: pride and spiritual narcissism lead to a state of delusion and fall.

- One girl started to join the church, but her family was against it. She turned to the priest, and he told her that the main thing in the family is peace, and it is better not to go to church for now, and the priest and parishioners will pray for her.

Compromises are needed, of course. But each situation is individual. But speaking in general: on Sunday you must, no matter what, go to church. But I agree that there should be no conflicts and scandals in the family. It happens that a person is clearly prevented from going to God. In some situation, it may be necessary to endure “persecution” from relatives. The parents of that girl will gradually calm down; to some extent, the evil one is working through them. You cannot indulge this by abandoning the saving faith of Christ.

- And if a person is upset, he has received unpleasant news. How can he calm down?

We must remember that everything is sent from God, and thank Him for everything. There is even an akathist “Thank God for everything.” We must try to be calm about different life circumstances. But we cannot perceive some of them calmly, since we are living people. It is human nature to perceive the loss of relatives or other sorrowful circumstances emotionally. But unlike unbelievers, we should not panic, become desperate and cause others to suffer. We draw strength from prayer and trust in God.

- How can those who live in the world get away from the hustle and bustle?

In the morning it is good to read the prayer of the Optina elders, which contains the following words: “Lord, let me meet with peace of mind everything that the coming day will bring me...” We must remember that everything happens according to the Providence of God. As it is said in the same prayer of the Optina elders: “Lord, in all unforeseen cases, do not let me forget that everything was sent down by You...”. If a person understands this, then he perceives everything correctly. If, for example, at work, a person behaves calmly, then others around him will calm down. As St. Seraphim of Sarov said: “Acquire a peaceful spirit, and thousands around you will be saved...”

- By the way, how to correctly understand “the spirit is peaceful”?

This is the spiritual world, which is not indignant at anything, is not irritated by anything. This is not a mental state, but a spiritual one. It is achieved precisely through the fight against passions, years of constant internal work on oneself. When a person complacently endures insults, does not remember evil and correctly perceives troubles in life, he gradually reaches a state where he treats everything that happens to him with calmness and gratitude.

- Therefore, there is a direct relationship between spirituality and tranquility. The more spiritual a person is, the calmer he should be.

Yes. By nature, all people are different in temperament. For some it is harder, for others it is easier.

- Saint Ephraim the Syrian wrote that at first he himself was very irritable...

However, we should all strive to achieve peace of mind. But everyone has their own passions, and they need to be fought.

- Does physical activity, such as playing sports, help you achieve peace of mind?

Yes. In urban conditions, there is now no other way to give the body sufficient physical activity other than through physical education. In general, the holy fathers always advised to work. It is difficult for a person to calm down in prayer, but in work he finds peace from thoughts and vanity. This is one of the remedies. Prayer and work lead to a state of inner peace. It can be difficult to pray, especially in a state where a person is irritated, but work calms him down.

If obsessive thoughts do not give a person peace, how to deal with them?

They come in different types. You can read about this from the holy fathers. There are blasphemous thoughts that are not confessed in detail, but there are obsessive ones. All people are different. For example, women often have very developed suspiciousness, and it is difficult for them to get away from it. The saints teach: if blasphemous thoughts come, then say: “It’s not mine, I don’t accept it.” This state is not from God, since the enemy of the human race instills evil thoughts in a person. There is no sin in this.

I have heard from many unchurched people: “When we go into a church to light a candle, everything calms and pacifies.”

This is facilitated by the atmosphere of the temple - the Kingdom of God on earth. This can be felt in any temple. Entering there, a person finds himself in another world. The House of God, even among the bustle of Moscow and any big city, is like an island of peace. When people go there to even light a candle, then, in worldly terms, they are “charged” with grace. We explain this spiritually: after being in church for even a few minutes, people receive grace from God and come out changed. A lot also depends on a person’s heartfelt attitude. He can come to the temple simply formally, then grace will not touch him: God looks at our hearts. If a person is ready to accept grace, the mercy of God, he accepts. Most often we see good people in the monastery. Reverent people come to us because they receive what they ask from God and change for the better.

It also calms you down when you think only good things about another person, you see only positive traits in him.

Yes, especially if it concerns our loved ones or colleagues. Of course, you need to see only the good in people, while understanding that everyone has their own shortcomings.

Moreover, God gives the strength to be loving and kind.

Yes. In every person we try to see the image of God, his good qualities and not notice anything bad. And if we see something negative, then we treat it as human weakness, as a disease. For example, we see that young people in the world commit sin, but we do not have a bad feeling. There is a feeling of pity and compassion. It's a pity for the generation that is disappearing. We love the sinner, but we hate the sin.

And if you say the Jesus Prayer, does this also promote calm?

Yes. Some holy fathers say that doing smart things is difficult, difficult and even dangerous - you can fall into delusion. But there is the experience of the holy fathers who advise how to do this correctly. It is known that the Optina elders blessed their already churched spiritual children to practice the Jesus Prayer. She has very great power. It helps, first of all, to calm your passions and find peace of mind in all circumstances. It is short, making it convenient for her to pray throughout the day. It is easier for a person to concentrate on the words of a short prayer than a long one. In the world, of course, it is difficult to do this, but still everyone is calling for this, many books have been written about this, “Philokalia for the Laity,” for example.

I read that thinking about God helps one to find peace of mind. What is it?

This is reading the Holy Scriptures, spiritual literature and thinking about the Divine. If some word of Holy Scripture touches a person’s heart, then the saints advise stopping and reflecting on it.

In general, reading the Holy Scriptures and spiritual literature is calming. Of course, sometimes it is difficult for a person to begin spiritually beneficial reading, but you still need to force yourself to do it. We have to work hard. Reading helps a lot.

Orthodox psychotherapist D.A. Avdeev advises learning to switch attention to calm down: “Switching is a simple and effective technique. Everyone knows how calming it is to walk along a forest path (listen to birds singing, admire flowers) or do handicrafts. One person enjoys working in the country, another enjoys meeting a friend. The ability to relax for the benefit of the soul is wisdom that is worth mastering. Solitude and silence are absolutely necessary. Each of us needs to retire for a while (at least for half an hour), remain silent, put our thoughts in order, pray in silence, disconnect from everyday worries, be alone with God and ourselves.”

Of course, you need to be able to be distracted. It happens that a person talks to someone, has an argument, and begins to relive the situation inside himself: why didn’t I say this, didn’t do that, etc. More often than not, this does not lead to anything good. And in general, everyday disputes do not lead to either humility or goodness. When two humble people are talking, ready to hear each other, the truth can be born. But this is a rare case. And when they do not hear each other, the truth will not be born. We see this often. I just communicate with my spouses, sometimes I make peace with them.

Do women or men come to you more often about disagreements in the family?

When one priest married a couple and conducts it, it happens in different ways. It’s good when a husband and wife go to the same priest. If the wife walks alone, it is more difficult. In this case, I just tell her to humble herself and be patient. When one person begins to improve, the other will also improve. But we must come to this state of humility.

Do, say, a mother-in-law and daughter-in-law turn to you when there is a disagreement?

Father Andrei Tkachev says that modern parents violate God’s commandment: “A man will leave his father and his mother and cleave to his wife.” And parents interfere in the relationship between their children and spouses. Even often the destruction of marriages occurs because of this.

In such cases, we say that if possible, you need to live separately from adult children. But there is no such opportunity - to endure with love, to remain silent. Since the Lord sent such a cross, we must bear it. This means that this period of life, we must be patient... Previously, our parents, grandparents lived in the same house and twenty people lived together - normally, they lived together.

What else would you like to say on our topic?

Without spiritual peace, no virtue will bring any benefit, no deed will be accomplished for good. There should be peace in the soul in any situation. This is especially necessary in modern society, where passions and vanity are in full swing.

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Andrey Sigutin

Calmness and order, general peace of mind are the desired states of every person. Our life basically goes on a swing - from negative emotions to euphoria, and back.

How to find and maintain a point of balance so that the world is perceived positively and calmly, nothing irritates or frightens, and the present moment brings inspiration and joy? And is it possible to find lasting peace of mind? Yes, it's possible! Moreover, with peace comes true freedom and simple happiness to live.

These are simple rules, and they work religiously. You just need to stop thinking about HOW to change and start APPLYING them.

1. Stop asking, “Why did this happen to me?” Ask yourself another question: “What great happened? What good can this do for me? There is goodness for sure, you just need to see it. Any problem can turn into a real gift from above if you consider it as an opportunity, and not as punishment or injustice.

2. Cultivate gratitude. Every evening, take stock of what you can say “thank you” for during the day. If you lose peace of mind, remember the good things you have and what you can be grateful for in life.

3. Exercise your body. Remember that the brain most actively produces “happiness hormones” (endorphins and enkephalins) during physical training. Therefore, if you are overcome by problems, anxiety, insomnia, go outside and walk for several hours. A quick step or run will distract you from sad thoughts, saturate your brain with oxygen and raise the level of positive hormones.

4. Develop a “cheerful posture” and think of a happy pose for yourself. The body has a wonderful way of helping when you need to restore peace of mind. It will “remember” the feeling of joy if you simply straighten your back, straighten your shoulders, stretch happily and smile. Consciously hold yourself in this position for a while, and you will see that the thoughts in your head become calmer, more confident and happier.

5. Return yourself to the “here and now” state. A simple exercise can help you get rid of anxiety: look around, focus on what you see. Start mentally “sounding out” the picture by inserting as many words as “now” and “here” as possible. For example: “I’m walking down the street now, the sun is shining here. Now I see a man, he is carrying yellow flowers...”, etc. Life consists only of “now” moments, don’t forget about it.

6. Don't exaggerate your problems. After all, even if you bring a fly close to your eyes, it will take on the size of an elephant! If some experience seems insurmountable to you, think as if ten years have already passed... How many problems have you had before - you have solved them all. Therefore, this trouble will pass, don’t dive into it headlong!

7. Laugh more. Try to find something funny about the current state of affairs. If it doesn’t work out, then just find a reason to laugh sincerely. Watch a funny movie, remember a funny incident. The power of laughter is simply amazing! Peace of mind often returns after a good dose of humor.

8. Forgive more. Resentments are like heavy, foul-smelling stones that you carry around with you everywhere. What peace of mind can one have with such a load? So don't hold a grudge. People are just people, they cannot be perfect and always bring only goodness. So forgive the offenders and forgive yourself.

10. Communicate more. Any pain hidden inside multiplies and brings new sad fruits. Therefore, share your experiences, discuss them with loved ones, and seek their support. Don't forget that man is not meant to be alone. Peace of mind can only be found in close relationships - friendships, love, family.

11. Pray and meditate. Don't let bad, angry thoughts control you and cause panic, pain and irritation. Change them to short prayers - an appeal to God or to meditation - a state of no-thinking. Stop the uncontrollable flow of self-talk. This is the basis of a good and stable state of mind.

In his new article, Sergei Khudiev reflects on why sin deprives a person of peace in his soul.

Peace of mind is what many are looking for. At best, they go to trainings, at worst, they suppress themselves with pills. I recently read an article by a man who wanted to believe in God in order to find peace in his soul - because his atheist friends did not have such peace.

The desire for peace in the soul is completely understandable, natural, and there is nothing wrong with it - but the word of God approaches the problem from the other side.

The problem with unrepentant sinners is not that they lack peace of mind; their problem is that they have no peace with God. This is not a psychological, but an ontological problem. It exists in reality, not in our heads. Often we don't feel peace for the obvious reason - we don't have it.

Sin inevitably gives rise to enmity - it is enmity. First of all, enmity against God, stubborn and fierce resistance to His will. The root of sin is the refusal to recognize God as God, the center, meaning, content and justification of our lives. As St. Augustine said, “You created us for Yourself, and our heart is troubled until it rests in You.”

We were created to know God and to enjoy Him forever; in Him - and only in Him - can we find true life. We are created this way. And while we are looking for life elsewhere, we are in tragic conflict with reality itself - with God, with our own nature, with our neighbors, with the entire universe. As the Apostle James says, “You desire and do not have; you kill and envy - and cannot achieve; you bicker and quarrel - and you do not have, because you do not ask. You ask and do not receive, because you ask wrongly, but to spend it on your lusts” (James 4:2,3)

Having lost the true goal of his life - God, a person rushes towards false goals. Having rejected the authority of God over themselves, people endlessly quarrel over which of them will rule over whom. Having refused the feast in the Father's house, people tear out rotten roots from each other, with which they try to satisfy their hunger. The root of all, without exception, human troubles is precisely this - “For my people have committed two evils: they have abandoned Me, the fountain of living water, and have hewed out for themselves broken cisterns that cannot hold water” (Jer. 2:13)

As long as a person chooses the path of resistance to His Creator, he is doomed to war - with God, with his neighbors, with himself. As God says through the Prophet Isaiah, “But the wicked are like a troubled sea that cannot calm, and whose waters throw up silt and dirt. There is no peace for the wicked, says my God" (Is. 57:20,21)

And God offers people peace - peace in Jesus Christ, who died for our sins and rose from the dead. As Saint John Chrysostom says: “God was angry with us, we turned away from God, the man-loving Lord; Christ, offering Himself as a mediator, reconciled both natures. How did He offer Himself as a mediator? He took upon Himself the punishment that we had to bear from the Father, and endured the subsequent torment and reproach here. Do you want to know how He took upon Himself both? “Christ redeemed us from the curse of the law, being made a curse for us,” says the Apostle (Gal. 3:13). Do you see how He accepted the punishment that threatened from above? Look how He endured the reproaches inflicted on earth. “The slander of those who slander You,” says the psalmist, “falls upon me” (Ps. 65:10). Do you see how He stopped the enmity, how He did not stop doing and enduring everything, and using all measures, until He brought the enemy and the enemy to God Himself and made him a friend? (St. John Chrysostom. Conversation on the Ascension // Creations: In 12 volumes. St. Petersburg, 1899.
T.2. Book 1. pp. 494-495.)

The highest manifestation of man's hostility to God occurred on Good Friday, when God incarnate was killed by people. Christ took all human hostility upon Himself - and forgave it. Dying, he prayed for his crucifiers.

All the righteous judgment that our sins deserved was accomplished when Christ died the death of the damned, bearing the curse of all sinners. If - through Baptism, the Eucharist and keeping the commandments - we abide in Him, God no longer has wrath for us. As the Prophet says, “For this is to Me as the waters of Noah: just as I swore that the waters of Noah would come no more to the earth, so I swore not to be angry with you and not to rebuke you. The mountains will move and the hills will be shaken, but My lovingkindness will not depart from you, and My covenant of peace will not be removed, says the Lord who has mercy on you” (Is. 54:9,10)

We are at peace with God. As the Apostle says, “Therefore, having been justified by faith, we have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ” (Rom. 5:1)

This world is something much more than psychological comfort, it is the objective reality of the relationship between man and his Creator.

Imagine a person who has committed a serious crime. He is wanted to be punished. Subjectively, he may not worry about this - some inveterate villains have, as psychiatrists say, a low level of anxiety. But objectively, he is in danger - he faces retribution for his deeds.

Now let's imagine a person who is the heir to a huge fortune. Subjectively, he may fall into doubts and even panic attacks - is this true? What if I dreamed all this? - but objectively, he really is the heir, and his wealth is waiting for him.

An unrepentant sinner may feel great - but he has no peace with God. The believer may be anxious and restless - but in reality God has already given him forgiveness and peace.

The peace that Christ gives is an objective reality - God accepts those who come to Him with repentance and faith, forgives and adopts them, makes them heirs of heavenly blessings, and writes them into the Book of Life. A believer may be clearly aware of the reality of this world - or he may doubt and hesitate, but it exists. It is sealed by Holy Baptism and is confirmed with every Communion of the Holy Mysteries of Christ.

Gradually, as we grow spiritually, we become aware of this world - and it penetrates our thoughts and feelings. We learn to perceive God, the world, other people and ourselves as reconciled people, sent with a message of reconciliation to others: “We are therefore messengers on behalf of Christ, and as if God Himself exhorts through us; In the name of Christ we ask: be reconciled with God.”

In this bustle of life, we often simply lack peace. Someone is simply very impressionable and nervous all the time, someone is overcome by problems and difficulties, bad thoughts.

Stop, take a breath, look around, it's time to gain awareness in this race of life.

I dare to give you some tips on how to find peace in your soul, all of them are quite simple and easy to follow.

1. Give - receive!

If any difficulties have appeared in your life and it seems to you that the whole world is against you, do not cry and do not suffer. Find another person who needs help and do what you can to solve their problems.

1. Don't demand and learn to forgive!

Don’t get angry, forget about all your complaints, try not to get involved in quarrels and disputes.

1. Don't be upset over trifles!

Life is largely determined by the internal state of a person. If his soul is dark and empty, then it will be sad, if it is good and clear, then it will be rosy and full of prospects.

1. Look at life differently!

Don't snap, don't get defensive, don't turn into modern "zombies" or "robots" who only think about how bad their life is. Remember that all your thoughts are material. Make only good wishes, and this will certainly affect your mood and your reality.

1. Don't make yourself a victim!

Finally, free yourself from the illusion that you are driven into a corner by some unfavorable circumstances or the aggression of others. Your life is in your hands!

1. Don't judge!

At least for a day or two, don’t criticize anyone.

1. Live in the present!

Rejoice in what is happening to you right now. Are you sitting at the computer? Great! Would you like some tea? Wonderful! Pour and drink. Don't project your negative thoughts into the future.

1. Stop playing and pretending!

There is no need to deceive anyone. Cry when you feel like crying and laugh when you really feel funny. Finally, take off your mask and show yourself to others as the person you really are.

1. Do what you want, not others

Stop acting on someone else's orders, listen to yourself and understand what you really want.

10. Know and love yourself!

Communicate alone with yourself, look for the motives of your actions and desires. Don't judge or criticize yourself. After all, you are the person you are, and that’s wonderful.

11. Do exercises!

• Inhale, count to 4 and exhale smoothly.
• Write down your thoughts and 3 best life events on paper.
• Sit on the porch or on a bench and just relax, contemplate and look for positive and beautiful moments in the space around you.
• Imagine yourself floating above the ground in a transparent protective bubble.
• Talk to your inner self.
• Give your head a massage.

Even these simple exercises will help you take your mind off your problems, calm down and think positively.

12. Meditate!
Solitude and silence, contemplation of nature is one of the best ways to find peace of mind and harmony, use it.

13. Don’t let bad thoughts “come”!

Get rid of anything that might upset you. Use the principle of substitution. Do you have a bad thought? Urgently find something positive that will crowd out your bad thoughts. Fill the space around you with joy and positivity.

14. Listen to calm music!

It will help you relax and slow down your thoughts.

15. Look at the fire of candles or fireplace!

He gives you an inner smile and the energy of magical warmth; it is simply mesmerizing.

In addition to all of the above, you can listen to birdsong and the sounds of rain, smell fresh flowers, contemplate the starry sky and falling snow, relax, do yoga, take a bath with incense, share smiles and love.

Remember that the great Samurai always won thanks to their inner peace and the ability to see beauty in their surroundings. According to them, only those who are looking for it in panic and running around will not be able to find a way out of the labyrinth. Those who are internally calm will always see from above both the labyrinth itself and the exit from it.

I wish you happiness and peace of mind!

Peace of mind is the basis for a harmonious human life. If there is no peace of mind, then a person cannot concentrate on business, enjoy family relationships, and generally act effectively and fruitfully in life. Lack of peace of mind takes away a person's strength. Peace of mind comes to someone on its own. And we need to take an example from such people. Peaceful people follow a general set of rules, and if you learn them, you too will become calmer and happier.

Firstly, stop interfering in other people's affairs so as not to upset your inner balance. Most people have problems in life because they often “poke their nose” into things that aren’t their own business. Some people do this because they think that by being involved in someone else's life, they will be doing them an invaluable service. The desire to interfere in someone else’s business is dictated by the confidence that only our logic is the only correct one. As a result, a person begins to criticize in every possible way the one who disagrees with him, trying to reason with him and direct him to the right path, that is, his own path. This model of behavior is based on the denial of the right of any person to be an individual. But we are designed by nature to be unique creatures. And the life of another person should be beyond our participation. It makes much more sense to focus on the quality of your life. There cannot be two people who act and think the same way. So stop worrying about strangers. Put all your energy into taking care of yourself.

For peace of mind, the ability to forgive and erase from memory is extremely important. Perhaps this skill will be the most effective method for finding peace of mind. Many people carry grudges against someone else for years. But the offense most likely took place only once. And remembering it, we only fuel our dissatisfaction with life. There is absolutely no point in constantly “scratching the same wound.” Don't judge other people for their actions, even if they are not the best. Don't waste your life on such trifles. The person who hurt you will not escape punishment. For your own well-being, it is better for you to forgive him and continue to live your calm, happy life. Many people cannot calm down because they have not found public recognition.

Such recognition is very important for egoists, of whom there are quite a few among us. Egoists cannot appreciate another person without wanting to benefit for themselves. But there are no perfect people. Think about why you need words of approval and praise from mortals like yourself? Why want recognition from someone else when you can simply believe in yourself and begin to act for your own good? Even if you are praised, it will not last forever. Therefore, it is foolish to seek public recognition. Such searches only deprive you of peace of mind. Recognize yourself, and you will be happy. The enemy of peace of mind is envy. Sometimes we are literally oppressed by a feeling of perceived injustice.

For example, imagine a situation in which you worked hard and with great diligence for a whole year, and the promotion went to your colleague, who worked, to put it mildly, carelessly. Don't envy him. In any case, you will also be duly thanked for your work. The life of any of us is subject to the laws of karma. Karma reflects our actions and series of actions in past lives. If, according to the laws of karma, you must achieve wealth, you will definitely achieve it. Nothing in the world can stop this. But blaming someone else for your own failures will only sow anxiety and disappointment in your soul.

Give up envy and accusations of injustice, and you will bring yourself closer to the desired results. If you want change, start with yourself. You still won't be able to change the world alone. So wouldn't it be wiser to try to change yourself in some way? Many find it difficult to decide to take such a step due to common fear. It is human nature to fear everything unknown. But you just need to change at least one of your habits, and the changes will only be a joy to you. By changing yourself, you can turn even an unfriendly environment into a harmonious and extremely pleasant one, bringing you complete satisfaction and peace of mind. If you can't change something, just accept it. Humility is the key to turning negative aspects of life into positive ones.

Inconveniences, illnesses, various misfortunes and other circumstances that cause irritation and negative emotions can appear every day. A number of them cannot be covered by our control. But it is in our power to learn to put up with them. This is very easy to do. If something unpleasant happens, just tell yourself that God wanted it. This will make you more tolerant of life and others. As a result, you will become a very strong-willed, strong and calm person. Many of us tend to take on more tasks, tasks and obligations than we can actually fulfill. For some people, the weight of responsibility makes them meaningful. But this importance serves the purpose of satisfying egoistic needs.

You must evaluate your own capabilities adequately. You should definitely have free time that you could spend on being with yourself. Self-sufficient people are prevented from feeling only by thoughts. Accordingly, the fewer such thoughts in your head, the calmer your soul will be. A mind freed from thoughts will guarantee your peace of mind. Calmness is essentially the absence of tension in the mind. If there is no interfering voltage, then a person’s performance increases. But your mind and brain should not be “idling” at the same time.

It is so easy to plunge back into the swamp of unnecessary and interfering thoughts. Your mind should be focused on something truly worthwhile that allows you to feel positive. The best method to achieve this state would be a hobby. A hobby gives many people the opportunity for self-realization and brings a feeling of success. A hobby allows a person to relax physically.

And a rested person does not suffer from the fact that there is no peace in his soul. Calmness is not possible in such a situation if a person wants to calculate everything in advance. While planning every step of our life, we still won’t be able to predict how it will actually turn out. Planning in most cases only brings disappointment. The universe has its own plan for you. Always remember this. Train yourself to count only your time. Even if something doesn’t work out, it cannot be a reason for grief. After all, nothing prevents you from making mistakes next time and acting more successfully.

Don't hold on to negative or erroneous experiences, constantly returning to them in your thoughts. Learn from your mistakes and move on without regrets. This way you will tear yourself away from the shackles of the past and be able to experience complete peace in your soul. He, in turn, will give you confidence that your life will definitely become what you would like it to become. Peace of mind makes us free and provides the basis for achieving happiness.