Practice Forgiveness Forgiveness is a daily, and sometimes hourly, practice. Sometimes you can't forgive and forget, but you can let go of the pain that another person causes you without holding on to it. You can decide for yourself how much you allow others to influence you.

Practice Self-Acceptance A great way to accept yourself is to celebrate all aspects of who you are. What aspects of your personality make you happy? What weaknesses of yours can you live with? We began our story with self-acceptance. I hope you're happy with who you are and

Practice Self-Regulation Any spiritual practice requires you to be able to regulate yourself to some degree, spend time daily in reflection and contemplation, or control your behavior in accordance with your values ​​and for the benefit of others.

Practice Compassion All spiritual practice includes compassion. Compassion involves treating people with kindness and wanting the best for them. The Dalai Lama says compassion is “a worldview based on the desire to free people from

Practice Mental Clarity In this chapter we already touched on mental clarity as a way to be aware of yourself and others, and in Chapter 3 we looked at the benefits of learning to experience life. Clarity of mind is not just at the core of developing spiritual self-awareness; she stimulates everyone

We don't know what causes our actions or the actions of others - we can only simulate our minds. Everyone has a different idea of ​​how a thermostat works. Some people think that if you set it to 30 degrees, the batteries will get hotter,

An excellent exercise to remove “Evaluative dependence”, i.e. dependence on the opinions of others, and the fear of being judged,

a harmful thing that the vast majority of people have and prevents us from living freely, creating and expressing ourselves.

Actions can be absolutely anything, provided that it does not interfere with others and is non-standard for you. Options: Walk on all fours, read poetry on the bus, dance in a store, walk with a bucket on your head, walk around the city with a baby pacifier in your mouth, for men - walk around the city with brightly painted lips, for women - march, for overly educated and sophisticated ladies don’t care about the asphalt and swear, for not very well-mannered and rude men – politeness, gallantry and restraint, there are an endless number of options.

Behavior and communication style can also be non-standard.

The effect is enormous, from a significant increase in self-confidence and the acquisition of amazing inner freedom, to the development of strong leadership and powerful leadership qualities. I recommend it to everyone.

Dumb

Consists of 2 steps.

The first is that you simply remain silent, taking an active part in surrounding events with the help of gestures and gaze.

The second is a very deep exercise, when you remain only an observer of life and completely switch off from the processes happening around you, so that even those around you soon stop noticing you. The exercise is especially recommended for active people, although it can be useful for everyone. Attention! It can give rise to deep philosophical feelings and very interesting conclusions. "Let the world exist without you."

Blind

Home meeting exercise. It’s simple: during a home meeting, a person turns off his vision using a blindfold. There are more than enough impressions. Usually a lot of internal discoveries and new understandings. You can do it at home, following safety precautions.

If I loved...

Love for yourself, for people, for pieces of furniture, motherly love (all-forgiving), fatherly love (“I’ll make a man out of you!”). To begin, choose 1 type of love that you will constantly radiate throughout the week or during a home meeting. You can assign a specific time for each type of love. We choose a person we don’t really like and begin to behave towards him as if you loved him.

Blonde

You behave like the blonde from the jokes. I especially recommend it to men.

I want- start any action or request with these words.

Please help– ask complete strangers to help you, although you can also ask your acquaintances...

You can take background tasks for a home meeting (to quickly receive high-quality feedback) and for a week, for the most effective and quick practice of the exercise.

It is recommended to take exercises according to the principle: “This is the hardest thing for me to do than anything else, but in life, oh, how useful it will be.” Those. If you are a darling and kind person in life, and giving negative feedback and scolding unlucky colleagues is a difficult and rather unpleasant thing for you, then the “Swearer” exercise is exactly what you need. Or if you are used to thinking that the world is cruel and unfair, and the glass is, of course, half empty, then the best option for you is, of course, the “Okay” exercise.

We practice and use it in communication.

GDP technique

Attention

Support

When communicating with a person, it is important to provide him with GDP.

Attention - give compliments. A smart compliment comes from the outside in. We note the quality or attribute of the interlocutor that we like and draw conclusions about what internal property is characteristic of him.

For example: “Your suit is so beautiful, it shows that you have good taste.”

Power - identify a quality or something that the interlocutor can do very well or better than others, sincerely admire it, say that you would like to be able to do that too.

For example: “You speak so easily without preparation, I would like to learn how to do this”

Support is a promise of help. Help can be personal or help in finding information.

For example: “By the way, I have a manicurist friend, if you need it, contact me, I’ll give you the phone number.”

“I-speaking” technique

In any situation of good or bad behavior of someone, talk not about the person’s offense or action, but about how this action makes you feel.

For example: “I’m so glad that I don’t have to wash the dishes today and can relax right away” (the child washed the dishes by the time you returned).

Or: “What a pity that now I have to spend time washing dishes instead of relaxing after work” (they came and found a mountain of dishes in the sink).

All examples are exaggerated, because are educational.

5 Exercises to Develop Creativity

1. Two accidents

Take a dictionary and choose two random concepts at random. Just point your finger at any page. Compare them, try to find something in common between them. Come up with a crazy story and put a connection into it. This exercise is great for training your brain.

2. Crazy geneticist

Take a blank sheet of paper and a marker. It’s very good if you don’t know how to draw, because beauty and results are absolutely not important here. The main thing, as I said above, is the process. Now draw something that combines as many features as possible of all the animals you know. You will get, for example, a fox with fish scales, or a long-necked hare with hooves. The purpose of the exercise is to kill any vestiges of logic and common sense, focusing on creativity.

3. Mad Architect

Let's move on from animals to architecture, let's draw a house. But before we start this activity, choose any 10 words. Imagine that you, as an architect, have been commissioned to design a house. But the customer set 10 mandatory requirements. These are the chosen words. Anything could happen here. For example, “orange” - and the roof of your house should be orange, “plate” - make round windows in the bathroom, etc. While drawing on paper, at the same time imagine what it might look like in real life.

Choose any word, it must be a noun. Now write 5 adjectives that you think suit him best. For example, “socks” - black, warm, woolen, winter, clean. Did you do it? Now try writing 5 more adjectives that don't fit at all. This is where everything stalled. It turns out that this is very difficult to do. Delve into various spheres of perception and find the right words.

5. Title

Try to come up with a name for it every time a subject interests you. It can be short and biting, or long and unfolded. The purpose of the exercise is that you will definitely like the name.

Repeat the exercises several times every day and you will definitely become a creative person.

Without non-standard actions, life would be gray and dull. In addition, a person gets to know himself better and sometimes even discovers hidden talents. But we are all different, and it is easy for some to do such things, not so much for others.

Turns out, it all depends on self-esteem and understanding of yourself as an individual. If a person knows and accepts himself, then he stops playing roles and putting on masks. It is more important for him to realize himself in all areas, and he does not retreat if something does not work out. Just looking for other approaches. Insecure people, when faced with obstacles, think first of all that they are unsuccessful. If it didn’t work out, then there’s no point in trying. As a rule, such individuals were not given the opportunity to self-actualize in childhood.

We all come from childhood
It all starts in early childhood. At first, the baby gets to know the world through his mother, and from about two years old he begins to explore the world on his own. If at this time the parents forbid the child a lot, then they begin to form an insecure personality. And even as an adult, a person will always look back at the opinions of others. It is difficult for such people to show themselves and express themselves.

Therefore, it is important that parents help the child become independent as early as possible, gradually transferring responsibility into his hands. Often parents take care of the child, solve problems for him, thereby doing him a disservice: such a person will have a difficult time in life. A simple example: parents teach homework instead of their children, so as not to call their child stupid. But in fact, even a C earned by a child’s efforts will bring him more benefit. After all, this develops skills that will help him make his way in life.

Unleash your talents!
Insecure people need to understand themselves. They are missing out on a lot. In addition, often, even if they have some qualities, they may never demonstrate them. This is the worst thing when a person, having lived his life, does not even suspect what he is capable of. People who have managed to realize themselves understand what it means to be happy. You can even be a janitor, but do your job with pleasure and feel harmonious.

But there is a way out even for people who are unsure of themselves, when they desperately want to do something unusual, to prove themselves. Perhaps, thanks to them, such a phenomenon as a flash mob arose (flash - “flash”, mob - “crowd”), when, with the help of ICQ, an nth number of people instantly appear in a certain place and act according to a certain scenario. Moreover, people do not know each other, and the script does not have a specific goal. Every time it’s something new and original: a lot of people sit with fishing rods by the fountain, do exercises, stand in line for a bagel.

The flash mob lasts no more than 5 minutes. But it brings a lot of emotions and positivity. After all, not everyone is able to do this alone. And the crowd effect, on the one hand, increases the significance of the action, on the other hand, it removes responsibility. Mostly teenagers participate in the flash mob: it is important for them to realize their own identity and understand what they are capable of.

By the way, young people do unusual things more often. Age leaves its mark. Negative experiences arise when people are faced with their lack of success in life. In addition, with age, the psyche becomes more rigid (rigid - inflexible, stubborn, unyielding, etc. - ed.). Young people's psyche is still developing. They explore the world, gain experience and are therefore more open. Although even among young people not everyone can behave spontaneously. It all depends on how a person developed, on his self-esteem and knowledge of himself as an individual. If there are any problems with this, then, of course, there will be many internal restrictions that will not give him the opportunity to open up.

Do unconventional things!
But remember: action is different from action. It's one thing if we simply don't look at the opinions of others. But most often, unconventional actions are performed in order to shock society.

For example, Salvador Dali, a brilliant man, a universally recognized artist, constantly fueled his self-esteem by doing unusual things, and people began to talk about him. He wore incredible suits and a wig that looked like a broom, decorated his hat with a rotten herring, appeared at one lecture dressed in a space suit, poured a mountain of cauliflower into his Rolls-Royce, walked around Paris with an anteater on a gold chain, kept his suite in a luxurious Parisian goat hotel, signed his books at a New York presentation, dressed as Santa Claus, and staged erotic performances. Once in a restaurant, he threw a plate of soup at the customers sitting next to him; they rushed to him for autographs.
Such self-demonstrations are associated with doubt. Those who are confident in their capabilities do not need any other confirmation. Therefore, it is important to understand what psychological meaning is behind the action and why it is done.

To act outside the box, you don't have to do something out of the ordinary. Sometimes, instead of the usual rest, you should occupy yourself with something else, change the course of your life, overcome the routine. And if your action, in addition to the thrill, brings benefit to someone, it is doubly worth doing.
Non-standard actions are harmful only in one case - if they cause harm to someone, infringe on rights, or hurt feelings. And so... do such things for your health, fill your life with new sensations. And remember: life is striped, but we have a palette!