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When we talk about unrequited love and Magic, various love rituals come to mind first. But not every person will decide on such a strong magical effect. And then runes will come to our aid, the effect of which can be terminated at any time, simply by destroying the formula that has worked or is no longer needed. The runic form “Cause Melancholy,” which we will now talk about, also belongs to the same category of light ones.
In what situations can you use bets to induce melancholy?
Unrequited love
We have already mentioned the first case - this is unrequited love, when we so uncontrollably want the object of our affection to think about us, notice, pay attention. If we do not want to bind him to ourselves with powerful magical spells, we can use the simplest runic stave. Of course, it cannot cause intense melancholy that would make a person climb the wall, but, nevertheless, a slight “therapeutic” effect still takes place. The person you are interested in will often return to you mentally, but whether or not this awakening of any serious feelings will cause is unknown, it all depends on the person’s initial disposition towards you, on the presence of at least a little sympathy.
Argument
This is another sphere of action of such formulas - a situation when partners quarreled, separated for a while, had a row and do not talk to each other. An offended person can use a runic stave to induce a feeling of guilt in his other half, whom he undeservedly offended. In this case, thoughts about his loved one will constantly come to him, he will begin to remember all the pleasant moments associated with their relationship and, as a result, he will feel guilty and will be the first to agree to a truce. Do you feel the difference with the first option? Here we already have a certain love relationship between people, implying the presence of feelings, therefore, most likely, in this case the runic script will work more effectively.
Establish a connection
And finally, the third option is to use it so that the person calls, writes, or somehow makes himself known. It happens in our lives that we lose touch with those who are close to us, disagree due to some disagreements, or simply for some reason get caught up in the whirlpool of life events, forgetting about the people who are important to us. And it’s especially offensive in situations where we ourselves don’t know how to find the person we’re looking for, because a person can change their phone number, delete their page from a social network, or move to another address. Runes are also useful here - you can use them to evoke longing for yourself in the thoughts of another person. But let's get down to practice.
Becoming “Cause Melancholy” from Trap
The runic form “Cause Melancholy” from Trap (a practicing runologist known under the nickname lov_ushka) has proven itself to be excellent for use in all of the above cases.
It includes the following working runes:
- Nautiz makes a person need the company of the operator
- symbolizes his thoughts associated with him
- Mirror Vunyo adds “tragedy” - it forces a person to feel sad, sad, and in a bad mood until he maintains contact with the operator
- Laguz attracts dreams, premonitions and various signs associated with the person who causes melancholy in him
- In the background, another Nautiz and Teyvaz force him to take real action - call, write, talk, make himself known to the one he misses.
It is important to apply the runes in “Cause Melancholy” from the Trap with your blood on a photograph of a person. If you draw them with a marker or paint, then he will simply be sad for no reason - the blood is needed specifically to bind him to the operator. It can be activated in any convenient way, it can be specified depending on your desire - you can set it to cause severe melancholy, or you can set it up to cause mild melancholy.
Runic becoming “Snowflake” to challenge melancholy from the author Zver
This ligature is most suitable for situations when a couple has broken up, lovers have quarreled, or for some reason they are separated by kilometers (business trip, moving due to life circumstances, etc.). Runes specifically work here to cause melancholy in a loved one at a distance. Effective and at the same time not too complicated.
If he uses the runic stave “Cause melancholy” for an exclusively selfish purpose, just like that, out of nothing to do, as an experiment - and does this constantly, updating the formula as it weakens, and causing a lifelong state of depression in a person - then this is already an intervention into his destiny. And such an act can be subsequently punished. Therefore, before any magical ritual, think carefully about whether you really need it and what goals you are pursuing.
This is one of the most unpleasant feelings that can poison your life. It can appear at any time - after a conversation with your parents, after a conversation with a friend, or after a big conversation with a teacher. Every person, if you know him at least a little, is capable of convincing you that you are to blame for something.
Some people are not very sensitive to other people's reproaches, and therefore it is not so easy for them to feel guilty. They understand perfectly well in which cases they are really to blame, and in which others are simply trying to impose their point of view on them. Some do not succumb to the influence of others due to their calmness and common sense. And others, on the contrary, possessing boundless arrogance and self-confidence, are not inclined to feel guilty at all. It seems to such people that they are always right and do not cause anyone the slightest inconvenience. Thanks to this, they are never able to feel that they are doing something wrong. But this is an extreme case; all people, to one degree or another, tend to experience feelings of guilt depending on the “severity” of the situation. It’s especially inconvenient in front of our loved ones, because this is how it always turns out - whoever we love more gets more.
If you constantly feel guilty towards different people or something similar, it means that you are very easily influenced by this. The same can be said about those cases when you begin to experience some discomfort after words spoken not to offend you or make you feel guilty, but simply to point out some shortcomings in a friendly manner. In this case, we can say that you have increased sensitivity to the words of people around you.
How does this unpleasant feeling of guilt in front of other people arise? Yes, very easy. For example, you got a bad grade on a test at school. Your parents said that you are stupid and not capable of anything, but they support you, and they would not want to have such an ungrateful daughter. Of course, this is an exceptional case, which is why we decided to talk about it.
If you easily succumb to such influence, then after a while you will begin to think of yourself as the worst person in the world. You will convince yourself that you are really not capable of anything, that you are unworthy of your parents, and so on. And the incident with the parental assessment is gradually forgotten, but the feeling of guilt remains for a long time.
Or here's another example, typical for girls your age. You and your friend went to a disco, and there was a boy there who your friend likes. But he didn’t know about it and asked you to dance. You danced and went your separate ways, but your friend got offended and stopped talking to you. In the end she said that real friends don't do that and she doesn't want to be friends with you anymore. And after that you begin to experience real remorse. You can be influenced by her words and for a long time you will be sure that you really destroyed her happiness.
Now do you understand how to instill feelings of guilt in another person? And absolutely anyone can be this suggestive, as we wrote about this above. But there may still be moments when strangers try to impose this feeling, and yet it is quite unpleasant. And it’s especially unpleasant when, in addition to reproaches, you are forced to listen to various insults. If you are a delicate person, you can easily succumb to instilling feelings of guilt, even if completely in vain. So, in some city transport you took a seat, not seeing that a grandmother or a woman with a child was standing next to you, and one of the compassionate women began to reproach you for not giving up your seat, but taking it yourself. What followed, as usual, was the usual statement about modern youth and so on. Naturally, you gave up your seat, but the mood completely deteriorated. Realizing in the corner of your mind that you didn’t see anyone and in general were not to blame, you still succumbed to someone else’s suggestion and felt guilty.
Now you understand perfectly well how a disgusting feeling of guilt can arise. And now we need to learn not to give in to it. Of course, if you offended someone, you must apologize, because when you are to blame for something, your apology is simply necessary. Now we are talking about something completely different - an increased sense of guilt. How can you get rid of it if you notice that you have such a tendency to take everything said to you too personally. First you need to understand what they are telling you and what they are accusing you of. For example, in the case described above with your parents, you are to blame for not preparing well for the test and getting a bad grade, but nothing more.
And if you think a little, you will understand that your feeling of guilt did not arise because you began to treat your parents much worse. And they are trying to instill this very idea in you. If you figure everything out yourself, it will be much easier for you, and the feeling of guilt will go away. Maybe your parents were just tired, that’s why they allowed themselves to say such words.
Almost the same can be said about the story with a friend, when the boy she liked invited you to dance, and she was offended. If you always feel guilty, then, of course, after such words the same thing can happen. But let’s understand the situation a little - is it your fault? What did your friend try to accuse you of? If you invited this boy yourself, knowing that your friend liked him, then this would be more or less understandable, although there is nothing terrible in this either. But in the example described, the boy invited you himself, which means you are not guilty of anything, especially the betrayal of which your friend accuses you.
One of the most effective ways instilling feelings of guilt, which, as they say, can “get through” the most insensitive person, is a message that they have been disappointed in you, everything has changed and you are no longer loved as much as before. After all, every person wants to be treated well, for this he will do everything in his power. If you understand that they are talking to you in this way, then try to talk to the person who started the conversation about it and convince him that this is not the way to do it. The most important thing in such a situation is not to take seriously the words that are spoken to you. Perhaps after some time this person will forget everything he said in a fit of anger, and you will worry for a long time.
Let's say you are actually guilty of what you are accused of, for example, you did not take out the trash can, which your parents asked you to do in the morning. They started saying that you never do what you are asked to do, and all the reproaches continued in the same spirit. How should you react? First of all, find out whether this is actually your fault or whether it is somewhat exaggerated. Sometimes people use the method of comparing completely incompatible things. In the case of the trash can not being taken out, your parents may say that you don’t love them at all and so on. And you tell them that you love them very much, and the trash can and your feelings for them are completely different things. We are sure that a small quarrel will simply exhaust itself here.
If some conversation left you with an unpleasant aftertaste, then try to immediately find out why this happened, and then, perhaps, it will become much easier for you to cope with causeless remorse. This is exactly how kids often feel after an unpleasant conversation with a teacher, when he scolds them for some prank. Something similar happened to you at least once too. For example, one of your classmates, a day or two before an extracurricular event, became disorderly and, for example, broke a window. The teacher gathers everyone in the class and informs that there will be no holiday at school because one student behaves inappropriately, that is, you have ruined the whole holiday. Naturally, everyone is upset, but not only. The perpetrators of this incident will feel guilty, because because of them the holiday was disrupted. And in this case, in order not to fall into such a delusion, you need to figure out whether there really is a share of your fault in this incident. And if you don’t feel it, then you can tell your teacher that the whole class should not suffer because of one or two people, although this action requires some courage. But this is not even necessary, the most important thing is that you do not start to feel guilty that you have committed an ugly act, although some girls tend to take on someone else’s guilt.
So, in each such problematic case, you need to first of all think about how guilty you are for what happened. And if your guilt is much less than others say, then you need to try to convince them that you are right. Of course, if you are inclined to always believe everyone, then it will be more difficult for you to convince yourself and others, but it’s still worth trying. You need to understand that if a person is guilty of something, he still should not torment himself with constant reproaches. The main thing in such cases is to realize your guilt.
The task of our chapter is not to save you from all sorts of remorse when you are really guilty of something, but to teach you not to feel guilty for what you cannot change and for which you are not personally to blame . Therefore, we would like you not to perceive all our advice and recommendations as a means of getting rid of guilt. But endless remorse, even if you were guilty of something, is also not the best way out of such situations. It is enough if you simply apologize to the person you offended. Even if something really unpleasant happened, prolonged remorse will not help matters.
Many people, when they realize that their interlocutors feel guilty, begin to do everything to aggravate this feeling. This is especially unpleasant when you are actually guilty of what you are accused of. So it’s not even tactful on the part of the person who will tell you all this, because you have already apologized.
It seems to us that we should not take such words to heart, but to achieve this, this method can help. Try to convince your interlocutor that you are not so guilty, just say it not in an apologetic voice, but with absolute confidence that you are right, then your words will have some power. And the most important thing is to believe in what you are talking about, otherwise the interlocutor will feel insincerity. You can’t fix what happened, so is it worth lamenting now in vain? As they say, after a fight you don’t wave your fists.
Now let's talk about another important problem that can affect anyone who has ever experienced an unpleasant feeling of guilt. This creates an excellent opportunity for the offended person to control the actions of others, and some take advantage of this, forcing them to commit certain actions as atonement.
If something like this happened to you only once in your life, there is nothing wrong with it. But if such manipulations become quite regular, then overcoming this will require some effort from you. Think about why you feel almost obligated to fulfill the “requests” of, for example, your friend. Just be extremely sincere with yourself, otherwise you will not find out anything, and everything will continue in the same spirit. But you want to change the situation?
Perhaps your friend often tells you that you were once to blame for her, but now it would be nice if you atone for your guilt and do this and that. As a sensitive person, you understand perfectly well that you really were wrong in that case, and you are still trying to make up for your guilt with some small favors. But all this would not be so terrible if the need for such services did not appear more and more often. You should have stopped this protracted apology a long time ago, even if something really out of the ordinary happened then. But this happened a long time ago, and it’s time to forget about it.
You should definitely tell your friend about this, who constantly demands some services from you. It’s just that some people are very pleased to know that someone owes them something (but we still hope that your friend is not so evil and cruel as to use you to achieve her goals), and they take great advantage of this. This friendship becomes like slavery. It is important to notice in time if they begin to use you for their own purposes, and try to change the situation as quickly as possible. But do not forget that such a person can be not only a friend, but also anyone - grandmother, parents and just strangers.
We discussed another problem that may befall you when communicating with friends and loved ones. Now, we hope, you understand what a constant feeling of guilt towards someone can lead to. Besides, you already know how you can get rid of him or prevent everyone else from manipulating you.
The most important- do not forget how to apply this knowledge in practice. Only in this matter it is better not to overdo it and not turn from a person sensitive to all kinds of words into the completely opposite one.
Imagine a plate full of strawberries. There are very ripe berries on the plate. They are big and red. There are smaller berries. There are very small ones that have managed to turn red on only one side. The plate is yours alone. No need to share. There's no need to rush.
And so you start eating. Which berry will you take first? Do you eat the ripest berries first? Or will you save them for last?
About 10 years ago I caught myself thinking that it was unpleasant for me to travel alone in a minibus. It seemed to me that the driver was annoyed that no one was getting in. He doesn't make money. And I seem to somehow indirectly influence this. And it’s clear that I have no influence. But this is a strange feeling... And also in the store, when I don’t have “no change.” And the seller doesn't. It seemed like I had nothing to do with it. But this feeling again... Or the man suddenly says that he waited all evening and wanted to talk. And I was late at work. Without knowing his desire at all. But this feeling appears again. And recently a friend asked to borrow money. She didn’t give it, for fear of losing her friend. And there it is again. This feeling…
Feeling of non-existent guilt.
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Those of you who left the ripe berries for last may feel a sense of guilt that doesn't exist. Or perhaps they feel it right now.
Let's figure out what it is and why we feel so bad from this feeling.
Why is guilt non-existent?
When we have offended or deceived someone, we feel guilty. It is a feeling that allows us to think and correct the situation. But the same feeling can also arise when we have done nothing wrong. Or in general - to be imposed on us on purpose.
Friend’s question: “Are you still single?” Or a mother’s statement, as if into space: “Grow up the child, and then persuade him to help you.” Or a comment from your boss: “Are you going home on time? Oh well".
Many people need our conscience. Family, friends, teachers, neighbors, passers-by, colleagues. It is important for everyone that our conscience does not sleep from childhood. And repentance for wrongdoing is also a must. And punishments for disobedience. It's so convenient for adults. With these tools, education happens faster and more effectively.
The feeling of non-existent guilt is a whole complex of destructive emotions. Pangs of conscience, fear, aggression, the desire to defend against this aggression, the desire to hide. Sometimes we blame ourselves without even waiting for accusations from others. We've been scolded for being untidy - we feel guilty for accidentally spilling coffee. We were told: “If you don’t kiss your aunt, she will be unhappy” - and now we are responsible for the happiness of everyone around us. They asked us: “You’re a kind girl and you’ll share some candy, right?” - and we feel guilty for bringing only one apple to the office.
Gradually, feeling fear and remorse becomes habitual. We stop controlling our emotions and can no longer calmly eat berries and ride in a minibus.
Who is to blame and what to do?
Of course, you can’t do without feelings of guilt. It is what keeps us from doing things that we will probably regret. But it is better to learn to replace the feeling of non-existent guilt with awareness.
When this feeling arises, ask yourself: am I to blame? And answer honestly.
If yes and the fault is obvious, correct it. Apologize. Offer an alternative.
If not, stop thinking about it. Enjoy traveling in an empty minibus. Feel free to say no. And feel free to eat your strawberries in any order.
Text: Anna Lipatova, relationship coach between men and women, co-author of the “Conscious Family Building” method
Mental influence on another person allows you to obtain consent or support from him. Suggestion of thoughts by runes occurs with the activation of special signs. For influence, staves are used - this is a combination of several powerful symbols at once. Formulas have a limited duration and carry certain consequences for the conspirator or victim.
The impact of runes on humans
The strong impact is not limited by space. The only limits in using runes are time. With their help, it is possible to instill simple attitudes or complex conclusions. The number of signs used directly depends on the goals of the conspirator.
With runic spells it is possible to create the following effect:
- complete obedience to another person;
- partial suggestion - a person will do what you say and order;
- coercion in certain situations, but such slander does not affect the general perception of reality.
The power of suggestion is determined by the strength of the person who has decided to take such a radical step. For simple influence, runes are used and together the symbols create cruel submission. It is allowed to be done on a person nearby. At a long distance it becomes ineffective.
Isa
The Isa rune is the first to affect a person. It looks like the Latin letter I. It has a strong effect on any person, even the owner of a mental body with powerful protection. Refers to and the meaning of the symbol does not change in the upright and inverted position.
Translation of the symbol is ice. The rune describes coldness and alienation. Suggestion using a sign occurs gradually. First of all, the victim forgets about things that bring pleasure and joy. She gets stuck in her thoughts. Not only the train of thought changes, but also the perception of reality.
Isa allows you to run a program: a person is told what to do, and without thinking, he does so. Isa ensures obedience without disturbance. The victim does not worry about himself, does not think about the future. Whatever you tell her, she will take as her own conclusions. The rune freezes any extraneous processes. This type of coercion is hardly noticeable to other people.
Nautiz
The main effect of stav is provided by the Futhark Nautiz rune. It creates a powerful message, as a result, an inspired thought for a person. He is unable to get rid of the idea, replace it with other thoughts. Nautiz creates real submission. The more often people collide, the stronger their connection.
For a person, the strong impact manifests itself in poor health. Headaches and confusion are the first symptoms of a working runic spell. The suggestion of thoughts takes place during the activation of the stave.
The Nautiz rune has an unusual appearance. It is drawn after Isa, using the first symbol as a basis. Nautiz looks like a cross with a displaced horizontal line. Forcing such a rune works from the second day. After this, it is difficult to instill a new attitude in the victim.
Fehu
The final rune for forcibly planting thoughts is Fehu. The symbol closes by becoming, making it complete. Fehu works to strengthen the effect so that it is prolonged. Fehu is used to protect the conspiracy from outside interference.
An inverted negative character position is used. After applying it, it becomes activated.
The influence through the runes Isa, Nautiz and Fehu lasts at least a couple of months, and the suggestion does not lose power throughout the entire period.
To instill thoughts, use the runes of the Rod of Coercion. The combination can force a person to obey the will of the conspirator without the desire to get rid of influence. This formula allows you to gain control over the thoughts and actions of another person.
Stav action:
- suggestion of obsessive thoughts;
- feeding negative thoughts that benefit the conspirator;
- substitution of concepts or principles;
- suppression of will.
The formula looks like a rod, with its sharp ends pointing upward. Runologists deciphered the stav and divided it into runes such as Nautiz and
The Thurisaz rune looks like a pointed letter R. It is a prototype of the god Thor and symbolizes the power of lightning. Has a strong impact. In the stave, the Rod of Submission plays the main role - it completely suppresses the will of a person. He loses the ability to independently and critically assess the situation.
The victim accepts the instilled concepts as his personal conclusions and fiercely defends them. The rune is used in a stave for a long-lasting effect. During its activation, the period of validity of the formula is specified.
Thurisaz is supplemented with the Nautiz rune and activates the formula.
Instilling feelings of guilt
To instill feelings of guilt, they use becoming a Forcer. It allows you to inspire a person with any thought and any accompanying feeling.
To force the victim to obey and feel guilt, they use a formula consisting of the following components:
- Nautiz;
- European glyph.
There is a dot in the center of the stave. It symbolizes the object of future coercion. The Sol runes located around enhance the work of the formula. The inverted position of Ansuz is responsible for the weakened will of the victim. Submission strengthens Nautiz. The final part of the formula is the European glyph Will over man. He makes a slave out of a full-fledged personality.
Activation of symbols
Suggestion with the help of strong runes will go faster if you use a reservation or connect one of the natural elements. Statues are spoken in order to direct their action and create the right feeling in the soul of another person.
They create a reservation for themselves. First of all, the conspirator turns to the runes, after which he forms his request to them - clearly and concisely. The disclaimer ends with words of gratitude.
The mother regularly makes it clear to the child that it was because of him that she did not arrange her personal life: “I could get married more than once, but I was afraid that my stepfather would treat you badly” or “Who needs me with a child, there are so many free women " Seeing the child as the cause of her troubles, the mother gives him an ongoing feeling of guilt towards her. This greatly traumatizes the fragile child’s psyche.
Manipulation “Infallible Parent”
Some parents strive to create their own image of a “superparent” - a person who is never wrong and always right.
What is manipulative about this parental position? It is comfortable for the parent, since the consciousness of his own infallibility flatters his pride. But comparing oneself with an “infallible” parent causes a heightened sense of guilt in the child for being so helpless, and this hinders his development as an individual. That is, the parent receives positive emotions, causing negative ones in the child. The one-sided nature of the benefits received by the parent is obvious.
As a result, the child will either fight for himself, or submit, or pretend to submit. In the first case, an ongoing conflict arises, in the second, a person without initiative will grow up, in the third, a child, submissive in the family, will compensate for this with aggressiveness outside the family (how can one not recall the saying: “There are devils in still waters” or the surprise of others: “From prosperous family - and into criminals").
The fact is that the manipulative nature of the influence is revealed over time. The teenager sees that the mother, who blames him for her “ruined life,” actually has such a character that no one will marry her even without a child. And the “infallible parent” makes no less mistakes than any other.
Having felt the power of the manipulations of which he was a victim, the child understands that they can achieve (at least in the short term) their goals. But it is the immediate goals that are paramount for him! This is how parents, with their manipulations, without knowing it, raise manipulators.
Manipulation “Imaginary victim”
If desired, it is not difficult for parents to organize “offense” against their children in order to use it to make them feel guilty.
Here are some key phrases that are said in such situations, since just a pained facial expression is not enough:
“Go and be happy, and don’t think about the fact that I have a headache.”
"Do not worry about me. Why should you think about such trifles?”
"I'm glad it happened to me and not you."
Manipulation “Abuse of prohibitions”
Prohibitions are intended to cause a feeling of guilt when they are violated. When there are too many of them and they are far-fetched, prohibitions acquire a manipulative nature: adults receive additional opportunities to punish the child. However, childish spontaneity often overturns the most cunning tricks of adults.
A visiting girl asks for more. The hostess reprimands her:
“Dear girl, didn’t your mother tell you that well-bred children don’t ask for extra money?”
- Of course, she did, but she didn’t know that you would cut the cake into such small pieces.
The hostess chose the child’s feeling of guilt for violating the “norms” of children’s behavior as the target of influence. The girl redirected the reproach to the hostess herself (counter-manipulation).
Manipulation “Trade in Love”
“I don’t love you like that”, “I won’t love you if you don’t obey” - how often children hear this from their parents!
The manipulative nature of this technique is obvious: only the parent benefits from what is said - he makes it easier for himself to control the child. But these words are very painful for the child. After all, the love of parents is extremely necessary for children! And the threat of losing this love causes internal discord (frustration) in them. This negative experience is subsequently transformed into a kind of revenge on the parents in the form of a response manipulation: “You don’t love me.”
About her in the next paragraph. In the meantime, let's return to parental manipulation.
Manipulation “Pay off the child”
Wealthy parents, those who are busy with themselves or their own business, do not find time for their child and, as “compensation,” shower him with expensive gifts, toys, fashionable clothes, and generously allocate pocket money.
The manipulative nature of these actions is determined by the fact that parents receive one-sided advantages: not wanting to waste time on the child, they create the appearance of love for him. The child is deprived of the most necessary things - the attention of his parents, their love and affection. In fact, by such actions, parents expect to get rid of the feeling of guilt in front of the child.
Manipulation “Eternal Children”
Parents can make their adult children feel like they are always guilty little boys and girls. Many people know too well their reactions to their mother’s significant silence on the phone, or their father’s frowning eyebrows, or the disapproving look of their mother-in-law or mother-in-law.
Power is intoxicating, and you really want to drink more from this intoxicating source!
Abuse of parental power can deprive adult children of their privacy and a family of their own. The following two stories are about this.
Manipulation “I feel bad...”
The daughter lives alone with her mother. And every time she gets ready to go on a date with a young man, the mother “feels bad.” Dates fail over and over again. Suitors marry others. The girl is left alone... with her mother.
The target of influence on the daughter is fear for the life of the mother and the associated feeling of guilt if something happens to the mother due to the absence of the daughter.
But this is how this can happen to sons.
Manipulation “She’s not worth you”
The son is taught to listen to his mother in everything. She subjects each of his chosen ones to devastating criticism, proving: “She’s not your match.” As a result, the son remains an old bachelor.
Obedience instilled from childhood leads to feelings of guilt whenever a person disobeys (as already discussed in Chapter 1). This is precisely what serves as the target of influence on the adult son.
In this and the previous cases, mothers provided themselves with care and care in their declining years, and their children suffered a lonely old age.
Manipulation "Home Sage"
A family member (usually the eldest in age) constantly lectures the others on any matter. If any of them fails, he always makes the remark: “I should have done it wrong...” When they turn to him for advice, he replies: “Ah! What can I tell you, you will still do it your own way!”
This manipulation is aimed at achieving a psychological advantage over those who, according to the manipulators, are “guilty” of “not respecting them” and “not listening.”
This is how elderly parents, mothers-in-law, mothers-in-law and other relatives prolong the power they had over young children.
Consequences of manipulating children
The harm to children is twofold. On the one hand, children are capable students and pick up manipulation techniques on the fly. This is how manipulative parents raise new manipulators.
On the other hand, a deeply ingrained feeling of guilt (namely, it is most often the target of influence) will turn an obedient child into an indecisive person who wants to please everyone.
The mask of obedience is also manipulative, since an obedient person abdicates all responsibility for the decisions made. He just doesn't make any decisions! The film “Autumn Marathon” eloquently testifies to what it’s like for those around you. The hero of the film, Buzykin, does not refuse anyone, and as a result, both he and those close to him suffer.
