Each of us sometimes has to deal with human rudeness and listen to offensive words and expressions addressed to us. Some people have a tense atmosphere at home, while others are very unlucky at work, where a scandalous atmosphere prevails, ready at any moment to explode in a stream of abuse and insults. So how to respond to rudeness and rudeness?
Why do you need to respond to rudeness and not remain silent?
Psychologists have found that every aggressive act from the outside gives rise to auto-aggression in a normal person, which over time results in a depressed mood, decreased performance, low self-esteem, etc. This reaction of the body does not bring anything good with it, and, therefore, you need to learn how to effectively protect yourself from manifestations of foreign aggression and the correct reaction to it.
Reasons for rude behavior
One of the most common reasons for rude attacks on a person is his underdevelopment. Such people are much more likely to become victims of rudeness than strong and self-confident individuals. Boors and rude people have a fairly well-developed instinct and will never get involved with someone who can give them a worthy answer.
If in front of them is a person from a different category, then why not amuse yourself and say something rude to him. Most often, the following types of people are among the offended:
- highly cultured and brought up in old traditions;
- having low self-esteem;
- trying to avoid conflict situations;
- with a high sense of guilt;
- fearful of hurting and offending other people.
In this situation, the reaction to rudeness may be different, but first you should work on your own so as not to be a constant victim of poorly behaved citizens. Finding inner strength will forever get rid of outside aggression, because a strong person cannot be an object of attack.
The wit of the poet Fyodor Tyutchev was admired by his contemporaries. The epigrams of actor Valentin Gaft hit not the eyebrow, but the eye. I wish I could learn how to respond to rudeness with dignity and grace, in order to slam the boor to the wall with a biting attack, and hear after him: “Oh, Pushkin!” There is no need for a duel - with one precise verbal shot the offender is disarmed, the cultural gap between the attacker and the object of aggression is exposed.
There are no ways to put the offender in his place. Maybe stickers “Stop, boor!” They didn’t offer to glue on them. And the questions: how to react to rudeness and how to respond to insults are still relevant.
Strong emotional connections will save him from the need to think about how not to react to negativity and insults, giving him a state of satisfaction and joy. Thousands of people around the world have already been convinced of this:
“...I have nothing against esotericism, only now, after the training, I really began to understand what it was all about. That is, for me the question was why I have such reactions to everything. And since the people around me were completely different, they told me who I was born into? In an even state it was unusual at first. I was constantly looking inside myself for that familiar stabbing “oik,” which I couldn’t find, and I realized that the “golden mean” had arrived! Now I know how to stand up for myself, how to define my boundaries and respond to rudeness, negativity, and attacks directed at me...”
Elena K., historian, Moscow
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How often have you encountered inappropriate behavior on the street, in transport, or in any other public place? How many times have you heard rudeness and rudeness in response to your friendly smile or word? I think as often as we do. Why is this happening? Are there more mentally unstable people or have we simply begun to react so sharply to aggressive attacks? And is it possible to protect yourself from “energy vampires”?
Psychologists say: “We create for ourselves the reality in which we live.” What does it mean? If we are angry and aggressive, we will constantly notice negativity around us. If on the contrary, then the aggressive attacks of others will pass us by. But, you see, failures at work, problems in our personal lives and simply a bad mood fuel internal tension in us, and one boorish word in our direction acts like gunpowder - and now, the bomb of accumulated negativity explodes, and we are already in the midst of a scandal.
Release pink mist
There is a certain category of people who are prone to scandals in public places. “These are, most likely, complete neurasthenics, whose meaning in life is to quarrel,” explains the section’s expert, consulting psychologist Victoria Ryabova. – The whole world is bad for such people; for them, proving the real “truth of life” becomes a matter of honor. Moreover, they will prove it in a minibus, in a store, in general, wherever there is a large crowd of people.”
Victoria Borisovna warns: you should not enter into polemics with such people. But what to do if the aggressive phrase is addressed specifically to you? If you simply ignore it, the flow of negativity will continue, and a justified feeling of resentment will not be long in coming. In such cases, it is necessary to use a special technique - psychological aikido or, in other words, the pink mist technique. Its essence lies in the fact that you will redirect the last phrase thrown at you to your opponent. For example, you got on a minibus, there is a quarrelsome woman standing on the aisle who does not intend to let you through and is doing everything to make you hurt her. This is what happens, as a result, mountains of accusatory phrases rain down on you: “There are all sorts of things going on here, you can’t get there safely!” What are your actions? You return the last phrase to her: “Yes, we can’t get there safely.” She shouts again: “You can’t get home safely! What should I do now, take a taxi?” You calmly answer: “Yes, I’ll probably have to take a taxi.”
“Screaming and swearing won’t help here,” the psychologist assures. – Quarrelsome people, by causing scandals, try to attract the attention of others, and their goal is to evoke a positive attitude. They want to be supported (yes, all our minibuses are overcrowded, and everyone has become rude, pushing and being rude). That is, when they start a scandal, they expect support from those around them. When a person begins to use the technique of psychological aikido, that is, returning the last phrase of the interlocutor back, the quarrel comes to naught, causing laughter from others.
If you shout, make excuses or be indignant in response, most likely the whole bus will take the position of your opponent, not you: they are indignant, it seems, for the sake of business, and, importantly, they got on the minibus earlier and drove the whole stop - almost like became familiar to the rest of the passengers.
The main thing is not to look into the eyes
When you encounter aggressive people who are trying to get you to respond, you cannot look them in the eye, otherwise you will pick up on the other person’s aggression, and you will have a desire to respond on a subconscious level. That is, if they say “fool” to you, without hesitation you answer – “you’re a fool!” But aggression has a geometric progression: if they say “fool” to you, you want to answer “fool” twice in response. And so on ad infinitum, getting out of this situation will be problematic. What to do?
– If you hear a rude phrase addressed to you, take your eyes away from the person and look best at his fingertips. Thus, you will end the negative energy circle, and the opponent’s anger directed at you will fall to your feet. He himself will choke on his own anger, which means that there will be no energy movement,” Victoria Borisovna clarifies.
There are many psychological techniques used to deal with aggressive behavior of others: imagine yourself under a glass dome, behind a glass wall, an impenetrable energy field, in a capsule, and so on. If you really want to respond to an aggressive attack, do it, but in a softer form. For example, to the name-calling “stupid”, answer “you yourself are a fool.” This conflict smoothing technique will work flawlessly, because according to the laws of psychology, the opponent will have to respond to you less aggressively, and, therefore, the conflict will be settled.
Pull away politely
There is another category of people who behave inappropriately in a public place. These are mentally disabled people, often schizophrenics, but not dangerous to society. Often such people, entering, for example, a bus, begin to tell something, addressing the passengers. “Under no circumstances should you laugh, because if this is really a schizophrenic, then it is unknown what reaction this will cause in him,” warns Victoria Ryabova. “Such people very easily move from a state of calm to aggression; any laughter with a mocking word can lead to the person throwing his fists at you.”
You cannot enter into a debate with an inadequate person; perceive his behavior as a radio. If he pesters you, there is such a politely distant behavior: you won’t be able to completely ignore him, but you can nod your head at him with a smile and say “yes, of course,” but do not get involved in the conversation. And most importantly, do not look him in the eyes, then, most likely, he will look for another interlocutor.
Be taller!
If you encounter boorish behavior, do not take it personally, the aggressor is never angry with you personally, he just needs to throw out his negative emotions. Don't give him pleasure - don't act as a punching bag for him, on which he can take out all his resentment towards this unfair world. And remember, if you are not internally prepared for the fact that you may be insulted, you will never be offended by aggressive attacks. You are above this!
When you are rude in response to a calm question or request, you should not respond in kind. Just say: “I understand how tired you are today, it must be very difficult for you.” That’s it, the conflict is over, the person will immediately change his aggressive attitude and calm down.
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Useful tips
No one wants to just put up with the rudeness and rudeness that can be heard in public transport, at work, online, and just on the street.
There is no need to play the role of the victim, but learn to react correctly to aggression towards you.
Obviously, for most people, being rude to them can have a negative impact. influence well-being, self-esteem and performance.
How to respond to rudeness
To be able to respond to rudeness, you first need to work on increasing your self-esteem.
It is worth noting that it is not easy to be rude to a person with a strong spirit.
And yet, if you urgently need to know how to communicate with a boor, then you can use one or more methods of struggle.
Responses to rudeness
Calm
When talking to such people, you should never show them that you are confused. Try to express your point of view frankly, firmly and openly.
Try not to get defensive and speak calmly and relaxed.
Most often, rude people are weak, envious people who have difficulty getting used to honesty and calmness, and sometimes do not know these words at all. They take energy for their negativity from precisely those people who succumb to rudeness and begin to get nervous. Don't let them "feed" on your nervousness.
Sneezing
This method is more suitable as a reaction to prolonged rudeness.
If the person who is being rude to you cannot stop, you may well be able to help him do so.
First, try listening to him calmly until he himself is convinced that he is right. After this, sneeze loudly and demonstratively - there will be a short pause, during which you calmly say the phrase: "Sorry, I'm allergic to bullshit." and politely add: "So where did you end up?"
Aikido
Simply put: you give me, I give you. This method transfers your interlocutor’s negativity onto himself. You just need to agree with his attacks against you, thank him for the time and effort spent emphasizing your shortcomings.
You can even praise your interlocutor for his attentiveness and the “advice” that you heard. Do this calmly and try not to show the caustic nature of your phrases.
It is worth noting that the more witnesses to the conflict, the better for you, because a rude person is unlikely to receive the necessary approval from the outside, and will most likely cause laughter and jokes in his address.
Boringness
This method can be used by administrators of forums, websites, blogs and social groups. networks.
Despite the fact that most community members are familiar with the general rules, some still deliberately violate them, after which they express their dissatisfaction with the fact that their access was denied in private messages to administrators.
After all the arguments are over, these characters move on to outright rudeness and rudeness.
The easiest way is to simply ban, but if you want to prove that you are right, try without emotions, describe in detail all the offender’s mistakes. At first, the interlocutor will resist and continue to “have fun” with rudeness, but when he realizes that they are communicating with him dryly, without emotion, he will simply leave behind.
Ignoring
Perhaps the most famous and simple method of dealing with rudeness. Sometimes silence is not only effective and safe, but also beautiful.
If you don’t need anything from a rude person, or you are simply not psychologically ready to enter into a debate with him, or if the “interlocutor” is simply out of his mind and could harm your health, just ignore him. Rude people want to win your attention, don't give them this joy.
It is worth noting that you also need to ignore correctly. No need to include an offensive look and sighs- these are signals that you paid attention to him. Don't show any emotions, a boor is nothing to you.
How to respond beautifully to rudeness
There are several phrases that can be used when you are confronted with a rude person:
"Sorry, is that all?"
"I thought better of you"
"Rudeness doesn't suit you very well"
"Do you want a polite answer or the truth?"
"Why are you trying to look worse than you really are?"
“Like everyone else, I also have bad days. Don’t be upset, everything will work out for you.”
“Yes, of course, go ahead. May luck be on your side” (in case someone jumps in line)
"This role doesn't seem to suit you. What do you really want?"
"Thank you for showing interest in me"
"Do you want to offend me? Why?"
How to respond to insult
If you are accidentally or intentionally cursed, you should not take these words literally and take everything personally.
Understand that if the person who insulted you is in a bad mood or is simply not well brought up, this does not mean that everything is your fault.
In order to be able to react correctly to insults, you need, first of all, to know that the person who insults you in every possible way is himself a victim, namely a victim of the obstinacy of his character.
Most often, those who “attack” and try to humiliate others are weak individuals who are simply not able to cope with negative emotions, which prompts them to throw it all out on others.
What to do in response to an insult
If you are insulted by a stranger
The best option is to ignore it. Just try not to notice the one who is trying to insult you. Of course, there are times when you need to act differently, but most often you need to act as if the stranger is not there, and his words are an empty sound.
If you were insulted by a loved one
From the very beginning, try to dot all the I's. You should calmly and directly tell him that the words spoken hurt you. The right step would be to discuss the situation.
If you were insulted by a work colleague/boss
Under such circumstances, try to carefully avoid the conflict. If a co-worker tirelessly insults you and keeps you silent doesn’t help, try responding with a neutral barb.
In the case of a boss, conflicts are not needed, which means do not respond to insults. Instead, imagine your manager as a petulant, pugnacious little child.
In your head, pat him on the head, feed him porridge and help him sit on the potty. This is exactly the method that psychologists recommend. You will not only endure insults, but also gain a good mood, or at least it will make you smile and increase your productivity. In addition, the boss may also pay attention to your durability.
How to respond to an insult
The person who is trying to insult you wants to assert himself, to stand out, which means you need to give him a cold answer: “Well, have you asserted yourself at my expense?”
When listening to such a person, try to understand what the goal is, why they want to insult you.
* If you don’t know how to respond to an insult, then you need to know one important thing - no wellit is possible to reach the point of mutual insults and rash reactions.
Besides the fact that it may look stupid, you are also susceptible to manipulation, which may end in a trap for you. You don't have to play by the rules that are imposed on you.
* Another main rule is respond to rudeness calmly without losing your self-esteem. But it is worth noting that the cultural response to the “attack” of a boor most often does not produce any effect, because the game takes place on someone else's territory and not according to your rules.
* When it comes to trolling, or other similar situations, it is best ignore the offender.
* It happens that you need to answer, but you know that all your arguments simply will not work against a stubborn rude person. In this case, the best option would be turn around and leave.
* The person who insulted you or is trying to do so may simply be having a bad day. Therefore, from you it will be enough to ask: "Bad day?" . If a person is adequate, he will agree and may even ask for forgiveness.
But, if it comes to a troll, then such a question is not only inappropriate, but can also lead to additional insults towards you.
* Most often, responding to an insult is not a good strategy, and you can get away with it only by neutrally asking the person what he just said to you. Try to pretend that you didn't hear his words or didn't pay attention to them. In this case, only an outright boor will continue his “attacks”.
* If you find yourself in a situation where it is simply necessary to respond to the offender, or you are strangled by the desire to do so, do not rush at him. The main thing is to be calm, cold in words and expressions. It is advisable to silence insults with witty remarks and only after the interlocutor has finished his monologue.
* Sometimes an insult is more like a mockery. In this case, perhaps the best option would be to answer in the form of a joke, which not only will not offend the person, but will also maintain a normal relationship.
One of the common mistakes that people make is an attempt to justify themselves, they say, "no, you're wrong, it's not my fault". Firstly, such a strategy can make you humiliated, and secondly, trying to justify yourself is simply pointless, because... As a rule, no one listens to an excuse.
Inconvenient questions
“How much does it cost?”, “When are you getting married?”, “What is your salary?”- these questions are annoying, and despite the fact that asking them is bad manners, some still cannot restrain themselves.
There are several situations you can consider, but first let’s note a few universal answers.
How to answer in an original way
- “I am amazed at your ability to ask questions that can baffle you!”
- “You are an amazing woman (man). I have always been amazed by your ability to ask uncomfortable (correct, difficult, rhetorical) questions!”
- “I’ll be happy to try to answer your question, just answer first, why are you so interested in this?”
- “For what purpose are you interested in this?”
- “Do you really want to talk about this?” If the answer is yes, then simply answer: "And I'm not very good" - and end the dialogue with a smile.
If you don’t like the person very much, and you have no desire to communicate with him, especially after an incorrect question, you can answer coldly: "It's my damn business."
- Ask again: “I understand correctly that...”
Questions about money
When you are faced with an unpleasant question, you have every right not to give the other person any specific answer. For example, to the question "How much do you earn?" you can avoid answering “Like most, the average salary in the industry (significantly less than Abramovich).”
You can also answer this question with a counter question. For example, to the question "How much is the jacket?" You can ask your interlocutor how much his jacket costs. Another way to answer this question is significantly overestimate or underestimate the figure and then turn the conversation into a joke.
Questions about work
“What do you do?”, “What do you do at work?”
When answering such questions, psychologists advise naming the profession that can give you more confidence in what you do. If your work is different, you do many different things, you can sort all the work for a month into sections. This way you will know what takes the most time.
Questions about your personal life
“Why isn’t there a girl (boyfriend)?”, “When is the wedding?”, “Why haven’t you gotten married yet?”
You shouldn't take such questions seriously. In response, you can ask your interlocutor why such an unusual question came to his mind. In this case, the interlocutor will find himself in an awkward situation.
There is another option - just answer directly as it is. For example, to the question "Why one more (one)?" Proudly admit that you are patiently looking for your soul mate, who would not leave you in difficult times.
The third option would be "mirroring". For example, “Am I correct in understanding that you don’t mind holding a candle over my bed?” , or "...what, today, is your main task to discuss my personal life?" , or "...is interest in other people's troubles normal for you?"
How to respond to rudeness
Boors can be found everywhere. These are people who often experience pressure on themselves, which leads to rudeness as a weapon of defense.
Why are they rude?
Reason 1: Despair
A person is not having a good day - so he is rude. For example, a saleswoman who is tired from the whole working day, a client, a colleague who is brought to stress.
Most often, such people, after throwing out all their anger on someone, feel guilty and may even apologize.
If you decide in such a situation to respond with the same weapon, then the feeling of guilt will go away and the person will think that being rude is normal.
Reason 2: Self-affirmation
When a boor humiliates another person, he feels superior to him, especially if this person, for one reason or another, cannot fight back the offender.
Usually such boors have, albeit not great, but still power. They believe that they can just take their anger out on those who depend on them and get away with it unpunished.
Reason 3: The desire to be noticed
If rudeness is an integral part of a person, then its roots can be hidden in childhood.
A child always wants attention and love from his parents. If he does not receive this, then he begins to be rude so that at least some attention will be paid to him. As a person ages, he uses the same strategy.
Responses to rudeness
Method 1: Don't take everything said to you personally.
Often a person who is rude does not do it specifically to you - rather, it is anger at the world in general: ill-mannered youth, men are assholes, etc. and only the brute himself is white and fluffy.
One can only sympathize with such a boor, because... the world he lives in is not easy to live in. Remember, every person sees the world differently. If a boor says that you are an uneducated person, you can try to refute his statement with your knowledge, but this is unlikely to work.
Method 2: A boor should not become the master of the situation
Try not to give the boor power over the situation so that they don't feel stronger.
If your boss is rude to you, and it is impossible to get away from it, think about the fact that you are not chained to him for the rest of your life. You are not a slave, you are only doing your job professionally, i.e. you help him carry out his work, which means you can call yourself a partner in a certain business. You can demand more respect for yourself because... you have every right to do this.
Method 3: Remember your rights
When someone is rude to you in a public place, you need to fight not with the offenders, but with their superiors.
Find out your first name, last name, position and contacts. You can ask for a complaint book, if there is one. If this does not help, try contacting a consumer protection society or a lawyer.
Use your weapons - human rights and leverage. This method is suitable if the boor is an official, manager, waiter, security guard and other representatives of large organizations
Method 4: Use your imagination
Try to imagine the offender behind a glass wall: you see him, you notice that he is expressing something, but you simply do not hear.
You can also imagine a boor in the image of a big fish in an aquarium: it seems to be moving its lips, moving its fins, but it is not clear what all this is for.
If you watched the movie "The Matrix", then you remember the moment when Neo stopped the bullets fired at him. Imagine that the rudeness thrown at you is like bullets, and you are invulnerable, and all the rudeness does not reach you, falling with a ringing sound on the floor.
Method 5: Try to contact the boor
Try to find out the reason for the aggression. For example, you can say: “Now you are being rude to me, why do you need this?” or “You have a smile on your face and yet you say mean things, so I haven’t figured out how to respond to your words yet.”
Perhaps the person who heard you will think about his actions, look at himself from the outside and rethink his behavior. You can use this method when communicating with people with whom you will have to meet and talk more than once - work colleagues, acquaintances, relatives.
There is a chance that a person will look at himself from the outside and rethink something in his behavior.
How to respond beautifully to rudeness
Rudeness can be easily treated with politeness, which frightens boors, forcing them to be careful when communicating:
- “You see, dear, I do not intend to communicate with you in such a tone.”
- "Dear, you may have confused me with someone"
If the boor just can’t stop after all your attempts, then save your nerves, wish him all the best and leave the place of conversation.
Sometimes a boor needs to be put in his place, otherwise by your silence you will make them stronger. A good answer can close the mouth of a boor. But remember, being rude to someone who is rude does not make you superior.
Try using humor. If someone is rude to you, smile and say "What a fool (fool, idiot) you are!" Such an act can anger the boor even more, whose reaction will make you laugh.
Smiling back often irritates a boor, so smile sincerely.
- “You deign to be rude to me... Why? Is your goal to offend me? Why?”
Answer in such a way that your word is the last and then the rudeness will stop.
Don't pay attention to the boor. Imagine the scenario in your head: “You are a leaf on the road... Everything passes by and doesn’t touch you.” .
Outbursts of anger, quarrels with loved ones and colleagues, rudeness in the subway...WomanJournal.ru learns to respond correctly to aggression, without suppressing or provoking it.
Aggression
Aggression is an integral part of our life. We encounter it all the time: reacting to the attacks of others or being surprised by our own outbursts of anger. At some point, a person realizes that it is necessary to fight not only and not so much with other people’s aggression, but with one’s own - after all, it interferes with communication with people, and there is more harm from it than benefit or pleasure.
How to learn to respond correctly to aggression and protect yourself from its destructive influence? We turned to consultant psychologist Alexandra Grushevskaya with these questions.
Understand the origins of internal aggression
Aggression
To cope with your internal aggression, it is necessary to understand exactly what type of aggressive behavior we are talking about.
So, in case hostile aggression(when the main goal of the aggressor is the very fact of causing harm to the “victim”), you need to try to find its origins. After all, it’s not for nothing that we like to take pleasure in attacking people? Perhaps some childhood grievances haunt us? Sometimes, to take the first step towards change, it is enough to simply realize these moments.
If we use aggression as a tool to achieve a certain goal... which means we should think about another way to achieve our goals. Aggression is colossal energy, it gives us strength, and it is not so easy to completely abandon it, and it is hardly necessary. You just need to direct this energy into a more peaceful direction - into sports or creativity, thereby transforming it for good.
Rules for dealing with an aggressor...
Ignoring aggression
Rules for dealing with an aggressor
First of all, you need to understand what kind of aggression aimed at you: have you fallen into the hands of your boss or are you being deliberately and purposefully bullied?
In the fight against aggression, two components can be roughly distinguished. The first is self-defense or, in psychological terms, strengthening and protecting one’s psychological integrity. The second is direct opposition. Often these components are difficult to separate from each other, as they flow smoothly from one another.
Aggression as a provocation
Ignoring aggression
If you are facing aggression in public places, then the healthiest and safest way to confront it is to ignore it. And the point is not at all to “appear superior” or “not stoop” to the level of the aggressor. It’s just that, as a rule, “tram louts” show their aggression only to ruin someone’s mood. So is it worth giving in to their provocation? After all, you won’t engage in a long philosophical debate with a capricious child about ways to resolve an existential crisis?
Strengthen protective armor
But in practice, this seemingly simplest method turns out to be impossible for many: how is it possible that they throw mud at me, but I remain silent?? Therefore, in order to successfully move to this stage, you first need to strengthen your “protective armor”. Instead of responding with rudeness to rudeness, wasting several hundred nerve cells at the same time, you should think that, for example, the saleswoman who threw mud at you is probably a very unhappy person. As soon as we feel pity for someone...
The boss points with his finger
As soon as we feel pity for someone, we automatically put ourselves above this person and look at his aggressive manifestations from a completely different angle, not with irritation, but with sympathy.
Repel aggression
Another equally effective way of fighting is to repel aggression. Imagine that a person who is saying nasty things to you throws a small ball with spikes at you, and you carefully catch it, break off the spikes and throw it back. Difficult? Let's try to understand this with an example. Suppose someone (for example, a huge lady of menopausal age) on the street says to you: “Hey, be careful, where are you going? You’re completely insolent already!” - just at the moment when you carefully squeezed past her.
The boss points with his finger
The easiest thing at this moment is to respond just as elegantly and kindly, thereby giving rise to a very unpleasant discussion on the topic “who will deceive whom more.” If you are not an energy vampire, the result will be a headache and a bad mood. So it’s better to imagine how hard it is for her, how much she hates herself deep down and that’s why she takes it out on those around her. And just say: “Did I offend you? Sorry, I myself can’t stand it when people touch me.” As a rule, this is enough to nip in the bud the aggressor’s nascent desire to start a scandal out of nowhere.
Humor
Another way to counteract this can be humor. The ability to ridicule an enemy is a terrible weapon. But this method is not so simple, because it is not for nothing that mastery of words is one of the most valuable skills. But there is a simpler way...
