“Be afraid of your wishes - they tend to come true.” I think many are ready to subscribe to this phrase from Bulgakov’s immortal novel. Surely everyone can remember a couple of episodes when a wish was fulfilled, but it did not bring anyone the expected joy. Either it came true at the wrong time, or the consequences of fulfilling the dream were, to put it mildly, not the most pleasant. And in the end, I had to once again be convinced of the truth of the phrase: “I wanted the best, but it turned out as always.”

Do you dream that your wishes come true, and not “as always,” but in the best possible way? Then this book fell into the right hands at the right time.

About the author

Dmitry Aleksandrovich KALINSKY is the President of the International Academy of Psychogenetics, one of the leading psychogeneticists and psychoanalysts in Russia, a member of the International Association of Applied Psychology (IAAP), the Association of Psychological Sciences (APS), and the Association of American Psychologists (APA). For more than 17 years he has been practicing in Russia, America, many countries in Europe and the Middle East. Among his clients are Hollywood stars, famous politicians, successful businessmen, journalists, popular TV presenters and journalists, as well as ordinary people who have successfully solved their problems and found happiness and success.

Dmitry Kalinsky is the author of exclusive techniques that can qualitatively improve a person’s life, neutralize negative genetic predisposition and adjust the subconscious to achieve the goal. You are already familiar with some of his developments. And now in front of you is a unique publication in which you will find the key to making any dream come true.

Chapter 1
We dream correctly

Obstacle race in a closed circle

Lucky are the rare lucky ones, whose wishes always come true, as if by magic! Why is fate so unfair?..

Stop! First, fate is fair: it is the law. There are no coincidences. Do you think why you were born in this particular family, in this country, city, village? Why are your mom and dad your mom and dad and not the royal couple of England? Because for your growth and development, you needed to find yourself in exactly these conditions.

And of course, you should not shift responsibility for your life onto the shoulders of your parents. In previous publications I talked about the basics of psychogenetics. Let me remind you that scientists have proven that by inheritance we receive not only our appearance, certain talents and abilities, a predisposition to certain diseases, but also problems that our ancestors could not cope with in their time. So, these problems are inherited through generations, so parents are just a transmission link: they have nothing to do with it at all. Were you raised wrong? Punished, suppressed, paid little attention? Understand that they acted this way and not otherwise due to their own hereditary programs.

Besides, as I already said, you need this experience. Now you are an adult, so blaming your elderly parents for the fact that they somehow loved and raised you incorrectly is, at the very least, incorrect.

So, dear readers, remember how twice is two: life is fair by definition. If you still think differently (or say something similar out loud), then you are dooming yourself to run in a vicious circle, that is, you are personally attracting the corresponding situations into your life - when people will act dishonestly towards you or circumstances will begin to work out. against you and so on. You yourself said (or thought) that the world is cruel and unfair - well, in that case, as they say, get it and sign it. What you ordered is what you now have. This is how it works feedback law, which regular readers have, of course, heard of. If you are not yet familiar with it, I highly recommend studying it. So, let's get started?

I think many people have their favorite “rakes”. Someone constantly finds themselves in situations where they feel unfairly offended; another continually acts as a tyrant, and then is tormented by a feeling of guilt; the third, trying to please others, always forgets about his own interests, and so on. Why? Are your ancestors friendly? Grandparents, from whom we inherited their problems? It happens, but it doesn’t have to be. Moreover, regardless of your origin, you will have to solve them: firstly, to make your life easier and more enjoyable, and secondly, to save your own descendants from such a “gift”. As sad as it is to admit this, we often attract problems to ourselves by our behavior, our reaction to what is happening. And then we are also surprised: for what crimes are we being punished like this?

Well, let's figure it out. At the beginning of every consultation or training, I ask five questions. The questions are simple, there is no trick in them.

1. When you buy something in a store, how many times do you pay for the item?

Of course, one – what other options could there be?

2. Is it logical to pay for the same thing two, three, or even ten times?

For example, you bought candy. They gave the money and received a check. When you got home, you opened the box, tried it and... Would you ever think of going back to the store to pay for the same box of chocolates again? I highly doubt it. Even if the candies turned out great and you had great fun. After all, you already paid for them! Naturally: we only pay once for a purchase!

3. Suppose you talked on the phone, and after some time the courier brought you a receipt. The bill turned out to be quite large, and you are not thrilled at the thought of having to fork out more money. But who is responsible for the amount indicated on the receipt? That's right, on you.

4. Is it logical to file a claim against the courier who brought the bill? It’s completely illogical: did he really talk long distance for an hour? So, what complaints can there be against him?

5. Should the courier blame himself for delivering a bill for a tidy sum and thereby ruining your mood? Of course not. He was just doing his job. Your state of mind should not interest him at all. His job is only to bring the receipt.

Do you agree? Great. Then imagine a different situation. You are sitting at home, not bothering anyone, and then the phone rings. You pick up the phone: a friend calls and, out of the blue, starts accusing you of almost all mortal sins! And completely unfounded! Here's one for you: the mood is ruined, the day is down the drain...

Now tell me: who, in your opinion, is responsible for what happened? Many, without thinking twice, happily shift all responsibility onto the aggressor. Indeed: by what right does he allow himself such behavior?! Others show nobility and agree to take on a certain share of responsibility - twenty, thirty, or even fifty percent. After all, we have all heard that in any conflict both sides are to blame. Therefore, so be it, let’s share the burden, in the end, for me, white and fluffy, this will one day count.

What if I say that the responsibility for what happened falls entirely on your shoulders? Don’t rush to be indignant, think. After all, the impolite friend is the same courier who delivered the bill. Apparently, not so long ago you committed a fine - you were offended by someone, complained about life, and so on - and now it’s time to pay.

Someone will probably object: they say, I personally didn’t do anything bad to this comrade - so why pay for it? But, excuse me, did you communicate with the courier over the phone? No, he is a stranger, he just brought a receipt. It’s the same here: your friend launched a barrage of accusations at you not at all because you annoyed him in some way. He, I repeat, is just a courier who delivered the bill.

If only you knew what you were paying for... Well, it’s not difficult to find out. Remember situations in which you were dissatisfied with yourself, life or others, felt irritation, resentment, anger - in a word, experienced all sorts of negative emotions. You won’t have to travel into the distant past: all this happened no more than seven months ago. Where does this magical seven come from? There is no magic - quantum physics, according to the laws of which the subconscious works. So, seven months is the maximum time for an impulse to travel in space.

Any of our thoughts and experiences trigger corresponding impulses - and within seven months life bills us.

Let's say that on January 1st you suddenly remembered that you didn't wish your aunt a Happy New Year. “What a horror: the old woman is probably worried, feels abandoned and unhappy. What a scoundrel I am!” In general, you scolded yourself, felt a sense of guilt - and no later than July 1, you will be fully responsible for your experiences. Provided that on New Year's Day you completely closed the topic. For example, they called a beloved relative, which calmed their conscience. Or they happily forgot about the old woman again - it doesn’t matter. The main thing is that your emotional turmoil did not recur. But if, say, on March 1 you remembered that episode and scolded yourself again, you will have to pay for it again. Now no later than October 1st.

If in reality everything happened strictly according to the algorithm, any sane person would sooner or later figure out this pattern. But in life the law works a little differently. When on January 1st I commit a certain action, then until August 1st, whether I like it or not, I will be fully responsible for it. When on March 1 I mentally return to that situation, then by October 1 I will have to pay both for this time travel and for the act itself committed in January. That is, the count increases. If on May 1st I remember the New Year’s situation again, then before December 1st I will be billed triple. Now the question is: how logical is it to pay on October 1 and December 1 for what was fully paid on July 1? In the store we only pay once. So why do we force ourselves to pay again and again in life?

When a person mentally returns back, he transfers a worsened version of the past into his future. And with every return to the past, the future becomes less and less beautiful. In other words, by living in the past, we block the opportunity to be happy in the future.

But why are we all talking about sad things? After all, you can remember pleasant things, right? Certainly. But this is also dangerous, and here's why. This is how a person works: he remembers the joyful moments of the past only when he is dissatisfied with the present. The subconscious perceives such “excursions” as an escape from reality and instantly closes the door to a happy tomorrow in front of us. Instead of solving pressing problems, we begin to feel nostalgic for the old days, think how wonderful it was then and how difficult life is now. Thus, we acknowledge our own helplessness, admitting that here and now we are unworthy of happiness, that we are unable to become happy in the future.

You can and should return to the past: for experience, for knowledge - but not for emotions!

Now let's get back to the situation with unfair accusations over the phone. We have already found out that all responsibility for what happened lies with the “victim”. But what do you think his reaction will be?

There are two options. Firstly, you can mentally express to the offender everything that you think about him. Fine? It seems like yes. The person does not swear at anyone, he is simply trying to analyze what happened, and at the same time, free himself from negative emotions. Right? No, that's not right. He mentally returns to the unpleasant situation, relives it - which means he earns additional penalty points. He doesn’t say “thank you” to the offender - he is trying to prove to himself that that person, if not a complete scoundrel, is at least far from an angel. In other words, he again experiences negative emotions, thereby increasing his score.

The second option: call a friend and tell about this episode. It would seem like a constructive solution: together with a friend, try to understand and analyze the problem. After all, one head is good, but two are better, right? Not at all. Quite the contrary: the situation will only get worse. Not only does the man return to the past again, he also drags his friend into trouble.

The “victim” shares his experiences, blows off steam, hoping that he will feel better. Indeed, he will feel momentary relief, but, by and large, he will only make things worse - both for himself and for “that guy.” Because it is impossible to transfer emotion to the future - and it returns to it, re-launching the destructive mechanism. But you can convey negative information - and the interlocutor’s subconscious will write it down and process it - and after a while this seemingly stranger will begin to encounter similar difficulties.

The subconscious is not able to separate its own from someone else’s: it perceives any problem as its own - and triggers a mechanism that attracts similar problems into our lives.

How will the subconscious act in this case? It will generate situations in which you could solve the problem.

So, easily and naturally, a person presented a problem to his neighbor. And he didn’t get rid of it himself, and he infected his interlocutor.

Such “therapeutic” conversations with friends on two topics are especially dangerous: business and personal life. Suppose a woman meets with a friend, she begins to complain about her husband - they say, he is a scoundrel, a scoundrel, an egoist. And in general, all men are the same... and I’m getting a divorce. A woman sympathizes or simply listens politely to her friend, and within three to five days her subconscious generates conflicts, as a result of which she quarrels with her husband. If the conversation with her friend did not greatly impress her, and such conversations do not occur often, then the family quarrel will not be particularly serious. But still, you must admit, it’s not pleasant enough.

Or, let’s say, a colleague insists that everything is bad: the deal fell through, the partners cannot be trusted, there is not enough money. Meanwhile, everything is going great for you. But several weeks pass, and you are convinced that your friend was right: indeed, difficult situations arise one after another - either colleagues let you down, then bosses are dissatisfied, or things stall. Although, in principle, these troubles should not have affected you - you simply transferred other people’s problems into your life.

What to do? How to behave in unpleasant situations? Let's figure it out.

Tell me, have you ever cooked soup? They probably cooked it. And probably at least once a small incident happened: you added too much salt or pepper or, being lazy, overcooked the noodles. What was your reaction? I doubt that you tore out your hair and sprinkled ashes on your head. You probably calmly admitted your mistake and tried to correct the failed culinary masterpiece - you added water, other ingredients, or, as a last resort, cooked a new broth. And they drew the appropriate conclusions: they understood how much salt was needed for a given volume of food, and when to turn down the heat. If your conclusions turned out to be correct, such trouble would not happen again. And most importantly, very soon, at most the next day, you forgot about your mistake (of course, if no “well-wishers” reminded you of it).

So, friends, This is the optimal algorithm for solving any problems:

1. Admit your mistake, that is, accept the situation.

2. Take all necessary actions to resolve the problem or protect your own interests.

3. Draw the right conclusions and move on without returning to what has already happened.

For the subconscious, it doesn’t matter at all how global the situation is; for it, burnt porridge and the collapse of one’s personal life are problems of equal value. And they need to be solved according to the same scheme. If fate continually offers you similar tasks, you probably haven’t yet come to the right decision: study! You will certainly succeed the second or third time. What if not? This means that the issue is not at all about your analytical abilities.

We only get stuck in those situations in which we initially did not accept ourselves and did not make the necessary conclusions and actions to resolve the problem.

Let's see how the algorithm works in a specific life situation. I was yelled at. Tell me, does a normal person scream just like that, without obvious reasons? No. He can only raise his voice in two cases: if he is provoked and if he is allowed to do so. Not necessarily in open text, but rather on a subconscious level. Surely you have met people to whom you would not raise your voice under any circumstances - no matter how upset, angry or offended you were. But on someone else you can recoup in full.

Well, who is responsible? On the one who raised his voice, showed aggression, tactlessness, disrespect - or on his victim? I think the answer is now obvious to you: a person who consciously or subconsciously provoked or allowed such an attitude towards himself bears responsibility for this. One hundred percent. And one hundred percent depends on his reaction in this situation, on the emotions that he experienced about this, whether a similar situation will repeat in the future. If the reaction is emotional, negative, if he feels unfairly offended, do not doubt that such episodes will still arise in his life.

What about the aggressor? Having let the dogs loose, he can experience a whole range of sensations: guilt, pity, discomfort, dissatisfaction with himself. Then a courier will also appear on his way, who will present an invoice, the contents of which will directly depend on which of these emotions he experienced. And it’s probably already obvious to you that the former aggressor – not the courier – will be held accountable for this.

Perhaps my arguments still seem unconvincing to some. Well, let's do a little experiment. Ask a car enthusiast where he feels more comfortable - behind the wheel or next to the driver. The answer is obvious: of course, while driving. If your grandmother is a great cook, will she trust someone else to cook the holiday dinner? Hardly. Do you know why? Because otherwise a person will not be able to control the situation.

The same rules apply in life: We are only responsible for what we can control.

The reverse is also true: when we shift responsibility to others, we lose control and the situation gets worse for us.

But let's get back to our unpleasant episode. They raised their voice at me. I begin to be indignant: they say, why on earth, and by what right, I am all white and fluffy, and you... That is, I relieve myself of responsibility for what happened, shift it to someone else and lose control over the situation, refuse to solve the task. And I get a failure: I will have to face a similar task again. In addition, I put myself in dependence: a person is in a good mood - he does not shout at me, if he is in a bad mood, he takes his anger out on me.

If I understand that it is no accident that they are shouting at me, that it is I who am responsible for this, then I cannot make any claims against the offender. I I accept the situation.

And after that I have the right to take any actions towards the aggressor, protecting my own interests. Moreover, these actions will be constructive - and the problem will be closed so that it does not happen again.

What can I do? For example, calmly listen to an angry tirade and say: “Stop. Calm down, and when you come to your senses, we will continue the conversation.” Am I irritated, offended, aggressive at this moment? No. Is the situation resolved? Allowed.

Another option. I was yelled at, I understand that I don’t want to get involved with this person - which I have every right to do. I tell myself - yes, I provoked this attitude, yes, I allowed it to happen. I draw conclusions and calmly move on. I don’t blame anyone, I don’t blame myself, I don’t blame the offender – and the problem goes away.

In addition, when I understand that I myself provoke or allow such an attitude towards myself, I have a chance to change the situation so that nothing like this happens to me in the future. That is, I am moving towards self-sufficiency. And such a person is inconvenient: it is difficult to manipulate him. That is why during upbringing there is a shift in areas of responsibility: we are reproached for having offended someone, angered someone, or committed a bad act - in other words, we are accused of something for which we cannot, by definition, be responsible. And they instill a feeling of guilt in order to manipulate us, to use us for their own purposes against our will!

But suppose I myself acted as an aggressor and begin to reproach myself for it. What's happening? I take on someone else's responsibility - and this is greed! By doing this, I attract additional problems into my life. I cannot be responsible for the act that I committed in relation to another person, since the responsibility for what happened lies entirely with him, since he, consciously or subconsciously, provoked me to these actions. I am only responsible for the emotion that I experienced in this regard.

So, let's determine what lies in our area of ​​responsibility, let's understand what we have to pay for.

As we have already said, a person is responsible only for what he can control. This:

1. Attitude towards ourselves: actions and deeds that we perform towards ourselves.

It is very important to understand: how we treat ourselves is how others will treat us. If we do not respect our interests, others will not respect our needs; if we ignore our own desires, others will ignore us; if we feel sorry for ourselves, we will make others feel sorry for us, and so on.

Fulfillment of desires can be easy and simple if you know how to act correctly. We will share the most effective techniques from books and from famous trainers.

There are many ways to bring your desires closer to fulfillment. All of them are based on the power of the human subconscious and the training of positive thinking.

The most popular and effective of them:

1. Affirmations are positive statements that need to be repeated daily. Option for psychological auto-training. It tunes you into a wave of positive emotions and thoughts, as a result of which your subconscious finds all sorts of ways to fulfill your desires.
2. Visualization using a wish map. You draw or look for suitable images, stick them on whatman paper and sign them with positive affirmations. Within a year, all wishes made should come true. We wrote in detail about how to create and activate a wish card in.
3. Meditations and energy practices. There are many of them - below we will talk about one of the most effective techniques for instant fulfillment of desires.

Regardless of the method you choose, practice daily. Develop the habit of thinking positively, and then your dreams will come true as if by magic.

Glass of water technique

This method is presented in two variations. The glass of water technique was proposed to be practiced by Jose Silva and Zealand.

1. Pour clean water into a glass. You need to use distilled or spring water; tap water will not work.
2. On a piece of paper, write your wish as if it has already come true. For example: “I got a manager position in company N.”
3. Place the glass on a piece of paper. Sit down and bring your palms together, but so that they do not touch. Close your eyes.
4. Imagine and feel a dense clot of energy between your hands, for example, in the form of a fireball. Visualize it unwinding and becoming more powerful.
5. Say the wording of your desire out loud, and then “pour” the fiery energy from the ball into the glass. After that, drink water and go to bed.

Jose Silva method:

1. Take a glass of clean water in your hands and hold it at the level of the solar plexus with two fingers - thumb and index.
2. Say your wish mentally, and then drink half the water from the glass with your eyes closed. As you take sips, repeat: “This is all I have to do to solve my problem.”
3. Go to bed and drink the remaining water in the morning.

Important: Zeeland's method is ideal for instant fulfillment of desires. The Silva method is also suitable for getting an answer to some question that worries you. In this case, do not make a wish, but formulate what you want to know. For example: “Where is it better to go to work: company N or B.”

Technique of wish fulfillment “Fireball”

This is a wish fulfillment meditation that works very quickly, in just two days. It is important to choose goals that are easily achievable within this period.

What to do:

1. Turn on some nice music and lie down so that you are as comfortable as possible. Close your eyes. Place your left hand on your heart and your right hand on your stomach.
2. Concentrate on your breathing: take a deep breath in through your nose and out through your mouth. Take 30-50 breaths in and out until you feel completely relaxed and have let go of all emotions, both negative and positive.
3. Place both hands on the solar plexus area. Imagine that a fireball appears in this place of your body.
4. Feel how it unwinds, and the heat from the ball spreads throughout your body. Imagine how it increases.
5. After the ball becomes very large, formulate your desire. Mentally write it on a piece of paper and throw the package into the ball.
6. Continue to breathe deeply, imagining a fireball spinning up.
7. And then release the ball, let it fly away with your desire.
8. Feel your body and slowly return to the room, open your eyes.

Important: if you could not easily imagine how the ball flies into the sky, it means that you are not yet ready to fulfill your desire, you do not believe that it can come true easily. You need to believe that the Higher powers will send all the necessary opportunities.

You can also play a video of this technique and repeat everything the announcer says:

Not a single wish fulfillment technique will work unless certain rules are followed.

Important factors:

1. The more energy you have, the faster your wishes come true. Therefore, it is important to fill yourself up: externally and internally. Take care of your health, do things that bring you pleasure and exclude “toxic” people - energy vampires - from your social circle.
2. Believe that the Universe will definitely send you the necessary opportunities. Then your dreams will quickly and easily come true in the most unexpected way.
3. Train positive thinking. Get rid of negative attitudes, emotions and thoughts - they slow down the fulfillment of desires.
4. Turn desires into intentions - take action. Don't sit still and don't wait for blessings to fall from the sky. Balance is important: sincere faith coupled with real actions is the key to success.
5. Avoid denial when expressing your desires. The universe does not notice the “not” part. If you ask: “I am not sick,” then the Higher powers will hear you as “I am sick.”

And remember: it makes no difference to the Universe what it sends to you. She always sends to a person what he often thinks about and expresses in his thoughts. That’s why it’s so important to abstract yourself from the negative and not focus on problems. It’s better to mentally imagine the result of their decision.

Tell us what wish fulfillment techniques you have already tried - share your reviews in the comments. Did you manage to get the desired result?

The science of making miracles. Author's training for the fulfillment of desires Karavaeva Natalya Gennadievna

The most effective techniques for fulfilling desires