Each of us has been in situations where unreasonable aggression and shouting completely spoiled the mood, resentment and even complete loss of strength appeared. The question arises in my head: “Why is it so unfair to me?” But it turns out - just like that! I was just in a bad mood, I had a fight with someone recently, I was bored, sad, lonely - and as a result, everything spills out on the first person you meet (including you). Why is this happening?
Psychologists have defined this as emotional vampirism.
Its signs: unreasonable insults, aggression, negative evaluations, rudeness and even causing physical pain.
The basic principle of the emotional vampire: The worse it is for others, the better it is for me.
Many of them do not even notice how this process is happening and do not give an account of their actions. Often we ourselves become such vampires.
How does emotional vampirism occur?
A person feels the need to receive or release emotions;
Urgently looks for a victim (the victim may be the first one who catches his eye);
Attacks (brings the victim off balance and forces him to violently throw out negativity);
Saturates or discharges;
Infects the victim (the victim herself begins to feel the need and becomes an emotional vampire).
It is up to you to break the chain or pass it on.
Causes of emotional vampirism :
The need for care, loneliness, envy, low self-esteem, poor physical well-being, the need for emotions, internal resentment caused by someone earlier.
Once a person feels the taste of human pain, he cannot stop, because the mechanism for obtaining new emotions in this way is very simple. And the result, as a rule, is quick: the victim either feeds the vampire, giving him vivid emotions (getting into an argument, showing resentment, reacting vividly to actions, etc.), or the victim acts as a trash can into which the vampire pours the excess your negative emotions. Do you want to be food or trash?
What to do:
First of all, love yourself and know your worth! This will allow you not to react to stupid aggressive attacks, groundless insults and reproaches. Don’t depend on other people’s opinions, don’t take everything at face value (you believe, and that’s what a vampire needs!). Always forgive the offender out loud and with self-esteem, even if he is wrong! This will allow you to keep the resentment out and protect you from further attacks.
Love yourself! Know your worth, and do not pay attention to those who are trying with all their might to infect you with this terrible disease!
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It sounds strange, but we are often surrounded by real vampires. The only difference with the heroes of films is that to maintain life they do not need our blood, which can be seen without using a cystoscope, but they need our energy and emotions.
How to recognize an emotional vampire? From a psychological point of view emotional vampires are divided into several groups:
1. Provocateurs.
These are the individuals who vigorously use their elbows on public transport and burst out into an angry and lengthy speech at any remark. They always criticize everything: the government, the country, their work, low salaries, the people around them, ungrateful children. It’s even more difficult if such an instance lives next door to you or, even worse, is your boss. The vampire will not miss a single opportunity to hook you.
Advice. Learn not to experience reciprocal aggressive emotions. After all, this is exactly what a vampire achieves. It is fueled by your bad mood, self-doubt and loss of strength. Stay calm and don't raise your voice. The reaction to this behavior of yours will initially be increased aggression, but over time the energy bloodsucker will be forced to switch to another donor.
2. Mother Teresa.
These are people who are ready to help you in everything, even if you don’t need it one bit. They live the life of their victim, they have no interests of their own. Under such total care, a feeling of guilt for one’s ingratitude towards a “responsive” person flourishes.
Advice. You have the right to your privacy. Do not dedicate the vampire to the details of your life and always speak clearly and clearly when you do not need his help and support. Otherwise, the artificially grown feeling of guilt will emotionally devastate you.
3. Poor relatives.
It's not a matter of blood relationship. Such people, even at the first meeting, evoke pity and a desire to console them, although most often nothing terrible happens in their lives.
Advice. Do not become the only “straw” for your ward. A person must understand that you are not obligated to solve his problems and spend all your time on sympathy and consolation. Otherwise, you risk taking the position of a person who needs to be pitied.
Parasites. Although this classification has no scientific basis, these people bring us to a state of emotional collapse that is very difficult to bear.
Emotional connections change depending on what we feed them with. If it's sadness, envy, complaining or constant anger, that's for sure.
There are relationships that can harm us, undermine our mental and physical health, and even lead to tragedy.
There are people who, whether they want it or not, make us feel depressed, overwhelmed, angry and completely disempowered.
In fact, Without effective defense strategies, it is not easy to resist manipulators. They feed on our energy. Ultimately, this leads us to excess weight, rapid mood swings, fatigue and emotional isolation.
They are not inherently bad people, but their immaturity does not allow them to evaluate their actions. They simply do not understand and do not think about whether they are good or bad.
Albert Bernstein and the book "Emotional Vampires"
The best way to protect yourself in this case is to appreciate their good qualities. At the same time, we should remain realistic when we expect something from them. Don't let people like this keep you down. This is their need, dictated by narcissism.
3. Angry people
These vampires gain energy by attacking, humiliating, and criticizing other people. Such people love to provoke conflicts. They often become angry and take their anger out on other people.
The best way to protect yourself from the anger of others is to work on your self-esteem. Take your time, pause and breathe deeply.
Try to hold back and respond to the flow of anger only when you calm down.
4. Martyrs are emotional vampires
They are called the kings of drama. They constantly put pressure on the patient and are able to find bad things anywhere.
The best way to protect yourself is to not try to be perfect and be responsible for everything. Everyone makes mistakes. If you feel guilty, change your environment, think about what happened and cry if necessary.
You can also react to their attack with the following: “I understand you, but when you say that...you hurt my feelings. I will be grateful if you stop doing this.".
5. Gossipers
These are curious people who spread information behind the backs of their acquaintances and undermine their reputation. When they do this, everyone around them feels humiliated and underappreciated.
The best way to protect yourself in this case is not to think about what such people say and think. Don't take their gossip as something personal. The best thing to do is to take a step forward and ignore them.
If you are in the same company with such a person and he starts talking about someone, try changing the topic. The main thing is to never share your or other people’s secrets with him.
Try contacting the gossiper and telling him something like: “Your comments are hurtful to others. How would you feel if I said something like that? Please stop talking about me."
Learn to recognize people who cause emotional pain. Develop self-defense mechanisms that will allow you to maintain your mental health.
Emotional vampires are all around you, masquerading as ordinary people until their inner needs turn them into predatory beasts. But they feed not on your blood, but on your emotional energy.
We are talking about real creatures of darkness that can not only harass you, but also hypnotize you, clouding your mind with false promises until you fall under their spell. Emotional vampires lure you into their web and feed on your energy.
These are people who act warm and cordial with you, but spread gossip behind your back.
At first, emotional vampires make an even more pleasant impression than ordinary people. You feel sympathy for them; you trust them; you expect more from them than from other people - and ultimately you fall into their captivity.
from Albert Bernstein's book "Emotional Vampires"
Emotional connections change depending on what we feed them with. If it's sadness, envy, complaining, or constant anger, it's definitely an unhealthy relationship.
Emotional Vampires
These types of relationships make us feel depressed, overwhelmed, angry, and completely disempowered.
In fact, without effective defense strategies, it is not easy to resist manipulators, since they feed on our energy and in the end this leads us to overeating, rapid mood swings, fatigue and emotional isolation.
Although this classification has no scientific basis, these people bring us to a state of emotional collapse that is very difficult to bear.
They are not inherently bad people, but their immaturity does not allow them to evaluate their actions, they simply do not understand and do not think about whether they are good or bad.
Today we will identify 5 types of people who poison our emotions, suck our energy like vampires and abandon us like predators.
1. Passive-aggressive people
They are experts at masking and sweetening hostility. They express their anger with a smile on their face or with excessive anxiety, with a reserve that is always annoying.
We all resort to these methods from time to time, but people who abuse them constantly embarrass us.
The best self-defense strategy in this case is to defend your beliefs and draw boundaries that no one has the right to cross.
We deserve to be treated with love and sincerity, and should not allow anyone to tell us that we are supposedly “wasting our lives.”
2. Narcissistic people
They consider themselves the center of the universe. They are self-centered, vain, and crave attention and admiration. They may seem smart and charming until they see something undermining their status as a genius, guru, or role model.
They can work with enthusiasm as long as your goals are aligned. If this is not the case, they show their claws.
Guided by the motto “me first,” they do not pay any attention to other people’s anger or sadness. They often lack empathy or bury it within themselves because it is difficult for them to love someone other than themselves. They should always come first, and if they don't, conflict arises.
The best way to protect ourselves in this case is to appreciate their good qualities, but remain realistic when we expect something from them. Don't let such people suppress you; this is their need, dictated by narcissism.
You can cooperate with them if it is in their interests and you can prove that it will benefit them.
3. Angry people
These vampires gain energy by attacking, humiliating, and criticizing other people. Such people love to provoke conflicts. They often become angry and take their anger out on other people.
The best way to protect yourself from the anger of others is to work on your self-esteem. Take your time, pause and breathe deeply.
Try to restrain yourself and respond to the flow of anger only when you calm down.
4. Martyrs
They are called the kings of drama. They constantly put pressure on the patient and are able to find bad things anywhere.
The best way to protect yourself is not to try to be perfect and be responsible for everything.
Everyone makes mistakes. If you feel guilty, change the situation, think about what happened and cry if necessary.
You can also respond to their attack with the following positive statements: “I understand you, but when you say that...you hurt my feelings. I would appreciate it if you would stop doing this."
5. Gossipers
These are curious people who spread gossip behind the backs of their acquaintances and undermine your reputation. When they do this, everyone around them feels humiliated and underappreciated.
The best way to protect yourself in this case is not to think about what such people say and think about us and not to take their gossip as something personal. The best thing to do is to take a step forward and ignore them.
If you are in the same company with such a person and he starts talking about someone, try changing the subject. The main thing is to never share your or other people’s secrets with him..
What they do harms you and your reputation. Try approaching the gossiper and telling him something like: “Your comments are hurting others. How would you feel if I said something like that? Please stop talking about me."
Learn to recognize people who hurt you emotionally and develop self-protection mechanisms that will allow you to maintain your mental health.
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“They appear to be ordinary people until their inner needs turn them into predators. They are not looking for blood, but emotional energy. They can not only pester you, but also hypnotize you to drown your mind with deceptive promises until you fall under their influence. These emotional vampires pull you in and then empty you out.” Albert Bernstein.
Emotional vampires seem like nice and friendly neighbors, but they spread rumors behind their backs.
At first they seem better than ordinary people. They are charismatic and charming. You love them, you trust them, you expect more from them than from other people.
You expect more, but you get less, and in the end they take over you. You invite them into your life and rarely realize the problem before they are gone, leaving you empty, your wallet empty, or perhaps your heart broken. Even then you wonder... Is it their fault or mine? Their. These are emotional vampires.”
Excerpt from the book “Emotional Vampires” by Albert Bernstein.
Just like other relationships we develop throughout our lives, emotional connections grow depending on how we nurture them. Of course, if we feed them sadness, envy, complaining, or constant anger, then we are creating an unhealthy relationship.
It is well known to everyone that there are relationships that can be overly harmful to us, that threaten our emotional balance.
There are people who, intentionally or not, can make us feel depressed, overwhelmed, angry, or can even destroy us emotionally.
The truth is that without effective self-defense strategies, we become food for emotional manipulators, which causes us to develop unhealthy behaviors and symptoms (overeating, isolation, mood swings, feeling constantly tired...).
“They are not inherently bad, but their immaturity allows them to act without thinking about whether their actions are good or bad” (Albert Bernstein)
Below we will identify 5 types of people who are toxic to our emotional health, absorb our energy like vampires and lie in wait for us like predators.
Passive-aggressive people
They are experts at hiding and sugar-coating hostility. These people express their anger with a smile on their face or with excessive worry, but always with a restraint that is annoying.
Most of us have used this technique at one time or another, but such people abuse us by making us lose peace in their presence.
The best self-defense strategy to guide their behavior is to fully maintain your beliefs, create boundaries and stick to them.
We deserve to be treated with love and sincerity, and we should not allow them to talk to us as if they had mercy on our lives.
Narcissistic people
They believe that they are the center of the universe. Selfish, vain and craving admiration and attention. They may present themselves as smart and attractive until they see their status as a guru or intellectual power as a threat.
They can work with enthusiasm and creativity as long as your goals align. However, when your needs are incompatible, they show their fangs.
Since their motto is “I come first,” getting angry at them or aggressively expressing your needs will not have any impact. Because they usually lack empathy or hide it well, it can be difficult for them to understand unconditional love. They are the first, and when this is not the case, they start a conflict.
So the best self-protection is to take advantage of their good traits, but be realistic in your expectations. At the same time, do not allow yourself to be crushed or feel inferior, but understand that narcissism is their own need.
You can always get help whenever you appeal to their own interests and show them how your business will be of great benefit to them.
Angry people
These vampires spend their time blaming, attacking, humiliating, criticizing, and creating conflict. They are addicted to anger and often punish people. Such people can tear you to pieces out of anger.
The best self-defense strategy: Protect your self-esteem so that their anger doesn't cause you to lose control. Take your time, pause and breathe deeply. Try to control yourself against their attacks and don't react until you calm down.
This way, you can disarm this person and make her realize the importance of acknowledging and considering your opinion on the matter.
“These people suffer a lot from their own attacks. A calm attitude towards their requests will help you find a common language with them.”
Eternal Martyrs
Martyrs are the kings and queens of drama. They can be found everywhere. They know how to make you feel bad. They constantly push your insecurity buttons and rub salt into your wounds.
The best self-defense is to let go of the idea that we have to be perfect and responsible all the time. Everyone makes mistakes. However, when you feel guilty, it is better to go somewhere else, think about what is harming you, and cry if necessary.
You can also respond to their attacks with positive statements such as: “I understand your point, but when you say that, it hurts me. I would appreciate it if you would stop saying that.”
Jealous people and gossipers
These are noisy people who take pleasure in talking about others behind their backs, ruining people's reputations and spreading harmful rumors. When they do this, everyone around them feels humiliated and depressed.
The best way to defend yourself is to not worry about what this person says about you and not to take gossip to heart. It's better to ignore them.
On the other hand, if you are in a group where people start talking about someone, then it is better to change the topic and never spread gossip.
However, it is appropriate to let them know that you know what they are doing and you don't like it. We can address them and say something like, “Your comments are offensive. How would you feel if I said this about you? Please stop talking about me like that.”
Identify the people who cause you emotional pain and build self-protection mechanisms so that your psychological well-being is not damaged.
