Why and how do people hear their inner voice? First communication (contact) with your mentors.

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Typically, this question is answered with Vygotsky's and Watson's ideas about micro-movements of the vocal cords accompanied by an inner voice, but I believe that these explanations start from the assumption that people who say they hear an inner voice are actually hearing something. But what behavior is meant by “hearing” and how does “hearing the inner voice” differ from simply “hearing the voice”? I believe that we talk about the inner voice not because there is an immaterial voice or because of the micro movements of the vocal cords, but because it is easier to talk about events that have already happened or have not yet happened, as if they were happening right now, but " in my head." We hear the inner voice, because if we do not hear it, it will be very problematic to explain behavior controlled by distant events in the past or events in the future. I'll explain now.

I believe that "hearing" is "acting as if there is a sound source", i.e. I say “I hear” when I can in response to the question “Where does the sound come from?” indicate the source in space. The phrase “He hears a sound” appears when behavior changes in the presence of a sound source that can be removed and the behavior returned. For example, I say “He is listening to music” (meaning that the location of “saying that he is listening to music” coincides with the location of my body in space and time) when someone sticks to the window or does not respond to my cues with headphones plugged in , which look like they are working (connected to the phone, and the phone looks like it is working). I don't say "He's listening to music" when I have headphones disconnected from the phone, or when a person with headphones is talking to me (obviously, the use of the phrase "He's listening to music" is not limited to these situations, but let's take them as an example). To hear a sound is to behave as if there is a sound in the presence of a sound source.

Accordingly, “hearing a voice” can be understood as a special case of “hearing sound” (just as a special case is “listening to music”), i.e. act as if there is a voice in the presence of the source of the voice. I say “John heard Jane's voice” when John, after hearing a sound, behaves as if the sound was associated with Jane (e.g., calling her; saying it was Jane). I say “I heard Jane's voice” when “hearing Jane's voice” (acting as if the sound was associated with Jane (looking for her, calling her, saying it was her)) coincides in time and space with my body.

I believe that "hearing the inner voice" means "behaving as if there is a voice when the source of the voice is separated from the behavior not in space, but in time." "Hearing the inner voice" from "hearing the voice" can only be distinguished by details of the context - I say "John heard Jane's voice" when there is Jane whom I can ask to shut up and John's behavior will change. In the case of “John thought he heard Jane,” John acts as if he hears Jane's voice, but there is no Jane whom I can ask to shut up in order for the behavior to change. At the same time, such a situation does not require reference to an unobservable voice in John's head for explanation.

Why does John act as if he can hear Jane's voice when Jane is not present? Let's look at the behavior that is meant by "hearing Jane's voice." For example, I'm walking next to John and suddenly he says that Jane's voice makes him come home. To explain this behavior, do I need to say that there really was some unobservable voice (Jane at the time on the other side of town) that provoked John to tell me that Jane was forcing him to come home and go home? Not necessarily, this behavior can be understood by looking at the broader context, not spatially (as in the case when the sound source is far from the behavior), but temporally.

For example, when John quarrels with Jane and goes outside - upon his return, Jane scolds him for running away from the conversation, respectively, when I call John outside - he goes out, because I respond to attempts to refuse with persuasion, but he tells me that Jane when he returns will nag him so that I still let him go home and acts as if Jane is already nag him when I try to argue with the fact that Jane will nag him, because 1) it helps convince me, 2 ) talking about Jane provokes behavior as if Jane is there, because the word "Jane" and events associated with Jane are connected. Accordingly, the phrase “Vanya, I’m sorry, I’m going home, I can just hear how she’ll nag me if I take another walk” can be understood as “Vanya, I’m now acting as if Jane is already here and nagging me, so I’ll go home to reduce sawing frequency." The reference to the inner voice can be analyzed without reference to the immaterial inner voice, it can be understood as a reference to the material voice that sounded once upon a time or will sound in the future.

The picture below shows the difference in context that provokes conversation about the “real” and “imaginary” voice. I talk about a real voice when I see the voice controlling the current behavior next to the current behavior (for example, they say “Go home” and I go home - the behavior and voice are almost at the same time, but at different points in space). I talk about an imaginary voice when I see the current behavior, and the voice that controls it either has not yet been heard, or has been heard a long time ago (see picture).

Another example. The sound from the speaker is “real”, because if you turn off the speaker (“remove the sound”), the behavior will immediately change (if a person dances when the speaker is on, and stops dancing when the speaker is off, we say that the sound is real). The sound of thoughts is “imaginary” because it is not clear what to do to “turn it on” or “turn it off”, i.e. make behavior consistent with other thoughts or lack of thoughts appear. For example, if a person is dancing and I don’t see a speaker around that can be turned off so that he stops dancing, I say that imaginary music is playing in his head. But does it make sense to say that there is some kind of music playing in his head if all I see is that the person behaves as if there is music playing somewhere? I don’t see any music and cannot distinguish between “dancing to imaginary music” and “dancing to real music.” Having looked at the behavior itself, I come to this conclusion due to the absence of an external factor that can be influenced to change the behavior. This is a dubious criterion, because just as “dancing to real music” can be explained by the work of the speaker (an external factor), so “dancing to imaginary music” can be explained by an external factor (for example, in advertising on the street in a group of people, dancing was followed by smiles and laughter , so in the company of friends I start dancing, they smile and laugh). No "imaginary music" is needed to explain this behavior. Dance in the absence of sound can be understood in terms of events that have happened before or will happen later.

Similar logic applies to cases that seem extremely difficult to explain without “imaginary” sound—for example, cases where a person sits and “listens to thoughts.” It seems that this behavior cannot be explained without recognizing that the sound of thoughts is immaterial or trying to pretend that it is material, we simply do not have the equipment to record it (Vygotsky tried to resort to such tactics), but such meditative behavior can be explained by external material events - for example, that “listening to thoughts” is simply sitting motionless with your eyes closed, which is denoted by the word “listening to thoughts”, because if you say “I am sitting motionless with my eyes closed,” this raises questions (“haha why are you sitting like that?” ), and self-report of thoughts that are “heard” is controlled by the questions asked and the situation (for example, “What are you thinking about now?” provokes “About what I’m thinking about now” or “Nothing” or “What to eat for evening" or a bunch of other options that are controlled by the history of interaction between verbal behavior and the environment, and not by "unobservable" thoughts located inside the head).

To summarize, I am talking about a "real" voice when current behavior can be explained by current events. I talk about the inner voice when current behavior cannot be explained by current events; to explain it, one must refer to events remote in time, and not just in space. The practice of everyday communication encourages us to talk about the real voice, which has already sounded or has not yet sounded, as being in our heads, because if we explain our behavior through such complex spatio-temporal connections, our speech will become terribly overloaded. We hear the inner voice, because if we do not hear it, it will be very problematic to explain behavior controlled by distant events in the past or events in the future.

For some people, the word "intuition" means nothing. For them, this is an abstract concept that has no place in their life. Such people are accustomed to looking for and seeing logic in everything, drawing conclusions only after a series of rational explanations.

And I really feel sorry for these people. After all, intuitive insight, by and large, is much more honest and correct than logical conclusions. Realized by a person, the mind fails, but intuition never does.

What is intuition

Intuition is the comprehension of truth without substantiating it with evidence.

The concept of intuition came to us from ancient times. Plato also separated rational knowledge from intuitive knowledge. However, philosophers absolutely precisely determined that although evidence is not required for intuitive comprehension, it is based, like rational knowledge, on empiricism. Or simply put, from life experience.

During intuitive cognition, deep in the subconscious, all the experience accumulated over the years of life seems to merge together. This experience is instantly processed and presented to the person in the most accessible way.

These methods are expressed in different ways: the first my heart starts pounding or, conversely, shrinks before an act that is not worth committing. For others, a clue picture pops up before their eyes, and for others, a thought is born in their head - so bright and clear that it is impossible to ignore it.

The most interesting thing is that when intuition is turned on, that is, on an unconscious level, a person can instantly process 10 million times more information than on a conscious level. Memory, sensations, and perception are used. Sometimes even the smells and tastes in the mouth are analyzed. And this whole mixture is presented to a person as an instant epiphany.

So it would be wrong to say that when intuition manifests itself, logic and reason do not work at all.

Intuition is not a magical, not mystical gift, inherent only to a select few. Every person has this property.

But not everyone knows how to use it.

Depending on the situation, one of two types of intuition is activated in the subconscious - sensual or intellectual. In the first case, sensations, perceptions, emotions, memory, imagination, and will are first analyzed. And in the second - intellectual and logical experience.

A striking example of sensory intuition is inspiration, familiar to many poets, writers, musicians and sculptors. And after the creative process is launched, intellectual intuition comes into play. So even though talent is called God’s gift, our own subconscious mind takes a very direct part in the expression of our talent.

If speak about creative intuition, then often the idea of ​​a future creation arises when a person is engaged in a completely different activity - physical labor or everyday, routine work. However, this is also intuition, just extended over time.

Everyday, everyday intuition like a flash of lightning. It is formed instantly, as a reaction to an approaching danger or to the possibility of missing something. This is precisely the expression of intellectual intuition.

Another subtype of intellectual intuition is formed as follows: a person consciously seeks a solution to a complex problem or task, but not a single option, not a single way out of the current situation suits him. The person consciously returns to thoughts about the problem again and again. But at some point he stops thinking about it, switches to something else, and suddenly a clear, precise thought comes into his head - he knows the right answer, knows what to do.

From a psychological and philosophical point of view, we can talk about intuition for a very long time. This is a topic for an entire scientific treatise. But we will move on to the next point - how to learn not only to hear, but also to listen to your intuition?

It should be noted that, despite scientific evidence, there is a possibility that a flash of intuition is nothing more than a hint from higher powers.

Learning to listen to your inner voice

As already mentioned, every person has intuition. The only difference is that some people trust their inner voice, while others successfully ignore it, preferring to rely solely on logic.

Surprisingly, intuition is more developed in people belonging to the air and water classes. zodiac signs than those who were born under the auspices of the elements Earth and Fire. Although there are happy exceptions.

In order to develop intuition in yourself, first of all, you need to learn not to brush aside sudden insights and listen to your premonitions, and not let logic crush the timid sprouts of intuition.

By the way, premonitions are also a kind of intuition. Only they do not offer a direct solution to the problem, do not provide specific guidance for action, but simply warn: it is not safe to walk here; what you are about to say will harm you; this food can cause poisoning, etc.

Intuition: learning to listen to your inner voice

Learning to use your intuition is not that difficult. To do this, there are several exercises that are very accessible to you:

Exercise No. 1

When you receive a letter by regular mail or email, do not rush to open it. Look at the address and relax. Now imagine what could be written in this letter. Listen to your heart - whether it beats smoothly or suddenly begins to beat loudly and alarmingly.

Analyze your other physical sensations - whether your palms have become wet, whether your mouth has become dry. Or, on the contrary, you suddenly felt calm and peaceful. Just by these signs you can understand what kind of message awaits you - pleasant or unpleasant.

After some time, you will be able to intuitively recognize not only the positive or negative content of the letter, but also its overall meaning.

Exercise No. 2

Your phone rang. Don’t pick up the phone after the first ring and, of course, don’t look at the caller ID. Try to feel who is calling you.

There is no mysticism here, and clairvoyance has nothing to do with it either: your unconscious begins to urgently analyze the situation and urgently gives you an approximate list of people who can call you at this particular moment. The main thing is to choose the right option.

After you learn to identify the caller, you can, as in the case of letters, intuitively feel whether you are about to have a pleasant conversation or not.

Exercise No. 3

This exercise is not for the faint of heart. It comes from the opposite - one must not listen to intuition, but act contrary to it. Scary, unsafe, but very effective. After such an experience, you will no longer have doubts about whether you should listen to your inner voice or politely ask it to shut up.

So, your intuition says that there is no need to do something. You, on the contrary, not only act contrary to it, but also aggravate the situation. And you get a full range of unpleasant consequences.

After the third time, intuition becomes extremely sharp. And most importantly - you are already with everything your desire you won't be able to ignore it.

Exercise No. 4

And finally, a consolidation exercise. Before you make any logical decisions, try to listen to what your inner voice is whispering to you. And don’t be alarmed - sometimes the clues of our intuition are so paradoxical that they do not fit into the framework of consciousness. But, as a rule, they are actually the most faithful. Only this does not become clear immediately, but after some time.

For example, under completely harmless circumstances, you are offered some amount of money. The mind shouts joyfully: let's take it, you can buy it for yourself new sandals . And the inner voice whispers: stop these money will not bring any benefit. You choose the voice of reason, and then either it turns out that you were simply set up, or you twist (or even worse) your ankle in your new sandals, and they themselves tear so much that they cannot be repaired.

There is also a completely reasonable explanation for this - you yourself, on an unconscious level, feel the threat emanating from the person giving, but you cannot logically explain your feelings. And your subconscious has already analyzed all possible factors and conveyed the final result to you.

So the more often you turn to your inner voice when making decisions, the easier your life will be. Just perceive intuition as the result of the activity of your own body, and not as some little person who sits inside you and whispers irrational decisions. And it’s not far from “ward number 6”.

But seriously, intuition is a subtle tool that is better to use than not to use. After all, the mind often takes into account such factors as momentary benefit, behavioral norms embedded in us from childhood, stereotypes and blocks. And intuition is higher than all this. It is not for nothing that it is called not only “unconscious”, but also “supraconscious”.

How developed is your intuition?

Nadezhda POPOVA

In life you have to see and hear unpleasant, difficult, even scary things. There's nothing you can do, that's life. It is impossible to cover your ears and close your eyes, although, to be honest, impressionable adults do this sometimes - during a scary movie. Or they quickly switch the channel. And in life there is no switch button. And we voluntarily listen to people's sad and tragic stories. Friends, acquaintances, relatives... Or the complaints of patients, we listen and sympathize. We see their suffering. Or we learn about a tragic incident from the media and become imbued with sympathy. We are people. It's normal to hear, see, know, participate.

But my soul feels so bad afterwards! We constantly think about what we have learned. This affects our mood and ultimately our health. What could happen is this: a similar story will happen to us. Illness, accident, injury... Why? But because we subconsciously became involved in someone else's scenario. We kind of said to ourselves: “this can happen to anyone! No one is safe. Life is unpredictable!". Actually, sympathy occurs because we imagine ourselves in the place of another. And from the idea to the actual implementation of the event, there is only one step. Especially if you are an impressionable person.

We need to help and sympathize. But there is still a “magic button” for switching channels. Even the children know her. There is a children's saying: when you see a dead dove, for example, you must quickly say: “pah-pah-pah three times, not my infection!” Funny? A little funny. But this is a moment of mental hygiene. We realize that this is not our situation. Not our destiny. What happened has nothing to do with us. This is not our story, this is the sad story of another person. It doesn't belong to us.

We will provide assistance if needed. If necessary, we will express indignation or support. We will take all possible participation if necessary. But sometimes nothing depends on us at all, we saw something unpleasant, scary on the Internet or on TV... And we must immediately, as quickly as possible, realize: this is not our story. We have our own destiny. Your life path. We do not take this unpleasant story for ourselves and do not imprint it in the subconscious. To capture means to seal. Accept. But there is no need to do this.

So tell yourself mentally: “this is not my story. Alien. I don’t take it for myself!” And this is quite enough to protect a vulnerable soul. And save your energy for active help if you need it. A doctor cannot think about every patient for 24 hours; he will lose his ability to work. And the doctor is obliged to apply safety measures against infection. So it is with a kind, impressionable person. We need to switch to constructive activities. And continue to live and work. And the switching “button” is easy to press. “This is not mine!” - give yourself a mental order and clarification. This is enough for self-preservation.

Anna Kiryanova

The great Caruso was once booed at the premiere. And the famous Puccini was not just booed; the audience meowed, squeaked, and laughed in the most tragic places... They shouted offensive words at both Pavarotti and Strauss. They disrupted performances with the participation of great actresses... And then they cried in the dressing room - the public didn’t like it! People criticized the performance, expressed contempt and dissatisfaction. We must leave the stage!

No need. First you need to understand who booed you and why; “criticized,” as one failed writer said. This writer went to dinner with famous and successful colleagues. And then he said in a satisfied voice: they say, he went to visit, ate the bourgeoisie, and at the same time thoroughly criticized everything there! My soul felt lighter! Much easier…

Even if depreciating and “critical” reviews are numerous, do not rush to despair and doubt what you are doing. You may be booed on purpose; There are such people - clackers. They were hired to destroy the reputation of the author of a play or an actor; humiliate and deprive one of self-confidence, drive one into a state of despair. Clackers were hired by envious people and ill-wishers. Or extortionists - they offered to pay money so that the singer, actress or author would not be booed and pelted with rotten tomatoes.

Such extortionists also came to Chaliapin. They say, give us the money, otherwise we will publicly boo you and “criticize” you during your speech. We will destroy your career and reputation! Chaliapin immediately contacted the newspaper and made the case public. Like, some robbers are extorting money from me. I won't pay! He was a man with character. And he did the right thing - he didn’t pay a penny. He went and sang his arias. He knew his worth.

So it may well be that you are being criticized out of envy. Or they are trying to put pressure on you and get something. To force you to capitulate and give something to the clacker-critics: a position, money, an excellent project, respect from management... There are always several clackers. This group. But they agreed in advance how they would devalue and criticize you. There are usually two or three of them. Sometimes they are relatives, sometimes they are colleagues... As soon as you go on stage, so to speak, they start saying bad things. Whistling and throwing tomatoes...

This has nothing to do with you, that's what's important to remember. The task of the clackers is to instill in you uncertainty, to force you to abandon your goal. And give what you have - pay them. Humiliate yourself before them, start currying favor, trembling... Firstly, you don’t need to believe their “criticism” - these are rotten tomatoes that they brought in advance. We haven’t watched the play yet, but we’ve already arrived with tomatoes in our bosoms. Secondly, we must act like Chaliapin. Openly say that you understand the reason for the attacks. This one whistles because he is jealous. And this one meows because he wants to take away this and that. And this one grunts because that is his true nature. All he can do is grunt.

Clackers can ruin your reputation and mood; but only temporarily. Pavarotti and Caruso are world famous. They still succeeded. Because the main thing is to do something that normal people will appreciate. And they are the majority. Although at first it seems that the whole public is against you! But that's not true. Take a closer look - the same people are making toxic criticism. And you shouldn’t throw beads in front of them, sing arias or invite them to dinner...

Anna Kiryanova

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Often practitioners of Transurfing set the intention for wealth and abundance and begin to actively work with it: perform practices, rebuild their thinking, increase the level of personal energy... But for some reason, everything does not always work out exactly the way they want. For example, money comes, but not in the same quantity or not so quickly.

Check yourself - are you doing everything correctly? Or are you missing something? In order for the Transurfing and Tufte techniques in the field of money to work for you 100%, you need to follow a number of rules and take into account all the nuances. We offer you a checklist that will allow you to check in 5 minutes whether you are on the right path, moving towards wealth and success!

1. DO YOU HAVE AN INSPIRING PURPOSE?

One of the basic principles of Transurfing in the financial field is: “Money is an attribute of a goal.” And it’s best if this goal is related to your mission and purpose. As Vadim Zeland repeatedly emphasizes in his newsletters, “Money doesn’t just fall from the sky.” But they are automatically applied to your goal. If you find your uniqueness, which you are called to bring into this World, and begin to move along your true path, then money comes on its own along this path. Therefore, you need to focus not on money as such, but on what you share with the surrounding reality, what purpose you are realizing.

Ask yourself: what do I do perfectly? Or at least what am I going to be good at once I develop my skill? It can be anything: oil paintings, accounting reports, negotiations with partners, car repairs, interior design... The main thing is that this goal really “ignites” and inspires you. Having found such a goal, broadcast thought forms: “I am a highly paid specialist”, “I create real masterpieces”, “My work benefits people”, “People like my work and are willing to pay for it”, “I brilliantly manage projects and make deals ", "I am a brilliant manager." There can be many options here - choose what resonates most strongly in your Soul and inspires you.

2. DO YOU HAVE A LIST OF WHAT YOU WILL SPEND THE AMOUNT YOU WANT TO RECEIVE?

Money doesn’t come just like that, but it comes for specific things. Ask yourself: what will you do when you get the amount of money you want? Buy a country house and a car? Are you going on a trip around the world? Will you open your own business? Get an education in a new specialty? Sit down and write it down, even if you have at least 10 or 20 points - the more the better, allow yourself to dream a little. And then, thinking about money, transfer your attention from specific amounts to these things that you desire.

Remember: for the Universe your request “I want a lot of money!” does not mean anything. But the intention to become the owner of a country house on the shore of a lake is a more “working” option. The whole point is that money is energy, and energy must be in motion all the time: you receive it and immediately put it into circulation, invest it in some specific business or thing, and use it to realize what you really want. The question here is not how much money you have, but what you are going to spend it on.

3. DID YOU SPELL YOUR INTENTION CORRECTLY?

Intention in the sphere of money is formulated in the same way as in other areas: in 5-6 sentences you describe the final image of the result, what you want to get in the end. Write only in the present tense, in the affirmative form, without particles “not”. Try to write as specifically, succinctly and to the point as possible. Do not go into a detailed listing of all the details and nuances; show only the essence.

To make it clearer, let’s look at several common mistakes that are often found in intentions for money. First example: “I receive 20 million rubles and buy an apartment in the city center.” What's wrong here? The fact is that the focus is on money, not on goals. It would be more correct to write it like this: “I live in my own 3-room apartment in the city center.”

Second example: “I earn from 300,000 rubles a month.” The error here is that your mission is not displayed. It’s better to formulate this way: “I find a job I love and reveal my talents, I generate and implement brilliant ideas and get paid from 300,000 rubles a month for this.”

Third example: “I receive a large inheritance, make a contribution and live on the interest, without denying myself anything.” This intention is not very effective since there are no specific things that require money. “Without denying yourself anything” is a phrase too vague and vague for the Universe. It would be more correct to write this: “I travel 6 times a year and relax at popular resorts, dine in expensive restaurants, dress in clothes from world brands.” In addition, the error here is that a specific way of realizing the intention is indicated: “I receive an inheritance.” And, according to the principles of Transurfing, you should not think through ways of implementation, you need to focus only on the goal itself.

4. HAVE YOU FREEDOM FROM STEREOTYPES RELATED TO MONEY?

From childhood we are told: “Money is evil!”, “All the rich steal,” “It is impossible to be an honest businessman,” “The main thing is to have enough to live on,” and so on. Gradually, these negative attitudes and stereotypes, like anchors, dig into our consciousness and slow us down on the path to success. Often we don’t even notice them, but they can become a serious reason that prevents us from truly getting rich.

It turns out that very rarely people think about money in a positive way, even those who have already achieved some success in their career or business. But our world is an endless space of options, in which there is enough money for everyone. You are not limited in resources if you do not force yourself into limits. Free yourself from stereotypes - and you will see how wealth and abundance enter and fill your life!

5. DO YOU HAVE A DETAILED AND VIBRANT TARGET SLIDE OF WHERE YOU LIVE IN ABUNDANCE AND LUXURY?

It’s not enough to just write down your intention and forget about it – you need to work with it regularly. You can use absolutely any Transurfing and Tufte techniques: “Intention Generator”, “Glass of Water”, “Two Notepads”, “Doors”, working with a braid of intentions. But one of the most effective tools that works most powerfully in the money sphere is the target slide.

Re-read your intention, close your eyes, imagine that it has already come true and for a few minutes immerse yourself in this picture from the future. Where are you at? What do you do? Who is around you? What do you feel? Visualize everything in great detail. If your intention is to become a successful businessman, visualize your office in every detail. What kind of chair do you have: expensive, with a high back, made of black genuine leather? What suit are you wearing: from a famous world brand? What kind of paintings are hanging on the walls: from a prestigious exhibition of contemporary art or classics, or perhaps diplomas and company awards? What kind of view opens from the office window: of the city center, of busy avenues, of a park or a river? How do you feel when your partner agrees to a deal that is profitable for you: joy, satisfaction, excitement? Stay in this slide for a while and return to your current reality.

6. HAVE YOU REDUCED IMPORTANCE?

Importance is all your unbalanced feelings and emotions: anger, impatience, lust, fears. This is the hook that the pendulums constantly catch you on, subordinating you to their will and turning you into a puppet. By lowering your importance, you become invulnerable. But this is especially difficult to do when it comes to reducing importance in financial matters! We are often asked: “How can you not worry when bank collectors call every day?” Or: “How to cope with impatience if the business still can’t pay off, but you want to turn a profit?”

Reducing your importance regarding money begins with the realization that if you rush things, doubt, strive to control everything and fall into anxiety, nothing will change, it will only get worse. By overestimating the importance, you create excess potentials and squeeze the energy of External Intention. And instead of starting the transition to a new line of life, full of wealth and abundance, you only move away from it or even start moving in the opposite direction.

7. DO YOU BROADCAST THE ENERGY OF A CONFIDENT AND SUCCESSFUL PERSON?

Only by acting from a place of richness can you achieve true success. And, since the world, according to the principles of Transurfing, is a dual mirror that reacts with a slight delay, you must first acquire the state, thinking and psychology of a rich person, and then become one in material reality. In other words, you need to “pretend” that you live in luxury and abundance, and act accordingly. Don’t worry when it comes to money, look for new opportunities and sources of income, increase your level of permission, for example, drink coffee in expensive restaurants or buy accessories from famous brands.

Follow the rules that all rich people follow and which will help you gradually change your thinking. Firstly, have a positive attitude towards money and luxury, do not condemn those who, in your opinion, “waste money”, do not consider yourself “above all this”, do not say that money is evil. Secondly, expand your comfort zone, love yourself and allow yourself what the Soul asks for. If there are not many options yet, you can start with the little things: drinking coffee from an expensive porcelain set, and not from a cheap Ikea mug; eat fresh fruits and farm products, not processed foods from the nearest store.

Switch from thinking that you don’t have enough money again to thinking: “How can I earn more? What else can I do? Where to invest your energy and talents? What sources of income should I find, what should I learn, what skills should I get, what opportunity should I use?” This is exactly how a rich and successful person thinks. He looks not for obstacles, but for opportunities. Focuses not on problems, but on prospects. He thinks not about the fact that there is no money, but about how to increase the amount of money. He does not blame the state/boss/competitors, but takes responsibility for his financial situation into his own hands. He declares to the Universe: “I deserve the best.” And this best comes to him on its own - in the shortest and least resource-intensive way!

HOW TO GAIN FINANCIAL FREEDOM IN THE NEW TIMES?

Fragment of the live broadcast "Transurfing and money"

The live broadcast with Tatyana Samarina, which recently took place at the Transurfing Center, caused widespread excitement. More than 4,000 people have already watched the recording and heard answers to the questions: what Transurfing and Tufte techniques for increasing income work most effectively in the conditions of the New Time? How to enter the state for which money is “used”? How to achieve financial freedom?

The human brain thinks all the time and enjoys it. He was created for thinking, and therefore he has no reason to stop.

“The habit of thinking all the time kills us. Slowly but surely we are approaching our end. We think and think and think, but the human mind still cannot be trusted. And it’s a deadly vicious circle.” - Anthony Hopkins.

I know it's easier said than done, but if you can harness your mind, you will increase and improve your concentration while maintaining a clear head. Get rid of this bad habit and your life will change dramatically.

Below are 11 inspiring quotes that can help you overcome your urge to ruminate:

1. You will never feel free while you are locked in the cage of your faulty reasoning.

2. Listen and then speak. Think about it and then act. Wait and then criticize. Forgive and then pray. Try and only then give up.

3. Stop worrying about possible failure. Be optimistic about what you want to succeed at.

4. Thinking too much means creating problems out of nowhere.

5. There is nothing in this world that could cause you as much trouble as your thoughts can cause.

6. What do rocking chairs and anxiety have in common? When you move, you don't move from your place.

7. Stop thinking so much. You can't control everything and everyone. What must happen cannot be avoided.

8. Dear brain, please be quiet and switch off until the morning. I can't stand it anymore and I need to sleep.

9. The main reason for dissatisfaction is what occupies all your thoughts.

10. Don’t ruin your whole day with thoughts about yesterday. Let go of your past.

11. Great minds listen to their inner voice, despite fear.

12. If you are powerless in something, then it is not worth your worries.

Not everyone in this world believes in the Law of Attraction. And I will try to explain why many people fail to use this rule in practice.

When we create attraction in our true self, the Universe begins to work to fulfill our desire, which is proof that the Law of Attraction really exists. But it is important that you use this law correctly.

If the desire comes not from our heart, but from the ego, then we will not succeed. You just shouldn’t treat the Universe like a magical fairy that fulfills our every whim.

Let's just say that if you're like a child making wish lists of all the different things you want to have, the places you want to visit, and the people you want to be close to, it means that you don't really understand why The Law of Attraction works.

Living by the “I want to get” principle, we stop experiencing happiness and satisfaction from what we have, who we are and the kind of life we ​​live. Which forces us to constantly be in search of something bigger, better or newer.

It makes more sense to try a different approach. For example, allowing the Universe to choose, rather than making demands on it. Let her lead and show you the way.

By taming our ego and trusting, we give ourselves the chance to live our unique destiny. All we need to do is simply listen to the Universe. Go in the direction she points to you.

It is foolish to think that now that we are adults, we know better what we need, compared to those times when we were children and made lists of gifts for the New Year and birthdays. In fact, our desires have changed little. Now, instead of toys, we dream of money, high social status, an expensive car, trips to fashionable resorts. Only the form has changed, not the context.

Satisfaction with a new car disappears within a year, after a new model appears - a more improved one.

We begin to ask the Universe to send us another other half, since the previous partner did not live up to expectations. So we meet a new person, but very little time passes, and we are already trying to change him, because this again is not what we need.

Money... There is no need to even talk about how dependent we are on it.

Our constant thirst for possessing something new is simply not capable of making us truly happy.

Why don't we stop asking altogether? Instead, start paying attention to the signs that the Universe gives us that show us our true path in life.

Begin to be guided in your actions by your true desires. Our destiny is attracted by who we really are.

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A wise Chinese proverb says: “A green reed shaking in the wind is stronger than a mighty oak breaking in a storm.”

Strong people are responsible not only for themselves or their loved ones. They are responsible for the whole world present in their lives.

Strong people cannot be called more resilient and healthier than everyone else. But they realize that they cannot afford to simply lie among the sick and dying while someone else's fate depends on them.

Even during a heart attack, such individuals still find the strength to rush into the water to save a drowning child, carry him out of the water and make sure that his life is no longer in danger. Perhaps after this they will feel their own pain. Doctors have witnessed such miracles more than once.

And strong people suffer greatly from loneliness. And it's not that they can't be in the company. It's all about their strength! Let's be honest - few of us would ever think that a strong person suffers from loneliness, is depressed, or has his own needs and problems.

They stand their ground, pay their bills on time, encourage other people, share their positive vibrations with others, and generally keep silent about their own difficulties. It’s always easy to work with them, they are very consistent and reliable, although sometimes communication with such individuals is not comfortable or pleasant.

Sometimes strong people find themselves locked in their own vicious superhero cycle, trying to save everyone around them while losing their own self.

Therefore, whenever possible, try to remind a strong person that he also needs care.

After all, as in films, such people are the first to come to the rescue at the most difficult moment. And you never know for sure when you will need their help again.

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You should ask yourself one simple question right now: how to stop absorbing the negative energy of other people?

Empathy is the ability to recognize and feel the feelings and emotions of other people. Sympathy is the ability to feel empathy for other people.

Empathy is usually a good thing, it's what makes us human, but sometimes having too much empathy means you're absorbing too much of the pain and suffering around you. This can ultimately affect your ability to work and even your ability to live a full life.

If you've ever been in the same room with a negative person, you know how toxic their energy, and even their very presence, feels. Considering that the world around us is chock-full of negative people, it is very important to learn not to absorb the negative energy emitted by them like a sponge. Here are five ways to help you stop doing it:

1. Remember once and for all – you won’t be able to please everyone around you.

If someone doesn't like you, constantly complains about you, or shuns you, don't make it your life's work to convince that person that you are worthy of love, friendship, or even decent treatment. This will only drag you deeper into his field of attraction and make you dependent on his opinion of you.

Not everyone in this world will treat you well - whether you like it or not, but this is a fact. Every person comes to earth for a purpose, and these goals may differ radically from yours. Try first of all to love not someone else, but yourself - this will create a kind of force field that will prevent you from becoming dependent on other people’s opinions, like a drug addict.

Also remember that you cannot change everyone. Believe me, in most cases you are not destined to melt the icy heart of such people and make them even a little kinder. The best thing you can do when faced with them is to simply stay away from them and the negative energy they give off.

2. Take a close look at those you let into your life.

Your body, mind and personal space are your temple. Think about who you are letting into this temple, and are you doing this voluntarily? Do you force your guests to at least wipe their feet at the threshold or, thanks to your connivance, do they leave dirty marks all over your soul?

In the Brazilian dialect of Portuguese there is a slang word "folgado". It is used to mean “freeloader.” In our language there is no exact equivalent to it because it is not even a lifestyle, but a special mentality.

There are people who, figuratively speaking, are ready to sit on your head and dangle your legs if you show kindness towards them. If you give such a person a piece of bread, tomorrow he will ask you for two. If you let him stay at your place for the weekend, he will try to stay with you for a week (or even two).

I once thought that my wife's interactions with some of our neighbors were unnecessarily cold and unfriendly. But over time, I realized that she simply respected herself, her home and her personal space, and began to behave exactly the same.

Kindness and generosity are, of course, good, but when showing them, you must be very careful so that those whom you are trying to help out of the kindness of your heart do not wipe their feet on you. Because it will most likely prevent you from helping those who really need your help. Learn to say “no” and not feel remorse about it.

3. Stop paying attention to toxic people.

Some people simply empty the drain tanks of their soul in you and move on with their business, getting rid of the negativity. It is, of course, good that you are always ready to listen to even a complete stranger and sympathize with his troubles, but there is a line that should not be crossed if only you value your inner peace and peace of mind.

Each of us, at some stage, became a person’s “favorite ears,” constantly splashing out on us their irritation about work issues, relationship problems, and so on. All these other people's emotions can exhaust you in their own way, and force you to measure your life by someone else's standards - which is completely unproductive.

Love yourself enough to drown out their annoying buzzing, tell them you're not interested. Or at least say that you don’t have time for this right now. Believe me, this is not rude or callous if you simply do not want to be a reservoir for someone else's toxic energy.

4. Breathe in nature.

Go into nature, meditate, relax and take a deep breath. Purify the air and water within yourself, engage in beneficial physical activity and surrender to the will of the flow. Like a butterfly, glide gently through the air... gently, but with incredible speed.

First of all, pay attention to your own breathing. Proper breathing improves blood circulation throughout the body and helps reduce the absorption of negative energy from those around you.

Walk through life with confidence, walk with your head held high, and don't let anyone make you feel less or less than them.

The caterpillar only crawls and eats everything around, it is chained to the ground. In order for a beautiful butterfly to soar into the sky, it must first find lightness.

5. Take full responsibility for your thoughts and emotions.

How you feel depends not only and not so much on the people around you, but only on you – 100%. The Universe sends people into our lives for a reason, but in order to put us to the test. How we perceive ourselves is much stronger and more important than how other people perceive us.

You are not a victim at all, and no one has more power over you than yourself. Think about the fact that it was your thoughts and expectations that could bring to life most of the situations that caused and cause you inconvenience. What if it's because of your level of patience, irritability, or over-empathy?

If you don't bother to stop at least for a second to look into your own soul, you will continue to consider yourself a victim of the whole world, even if in reality this is not at all the case.

Once you accept full responsibility for how you feel and how you react to external stimuli, you will begin to understand yourself better and more deeply. And when you begin to understand yourself better, it will not be so easy to throw you off balance.

Try as often as possible to place yourself in situations that increase your level of internal energy, rather than decrease it.

When communicating with a person, think about whether you feel good in his presence, and whether he feels good in yours. Believe me, you deserve the best, and it’s time for you to understand this.

In order to learn to protect yourself from other people's negative energy, you must first learn to love yourself. So always remember that you are worthy of happiness and peace, that saying “no” is okay, and that you create your own energetic state.

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We all find ourselves in such a situation from time to time - we cannot (do not want) to fulfill a request, take on obligations, accept an offer, or meet halfway.

Some don’t see this as a problem and resolutely refuse, without thinking about how their word will be responded to. Others, with their awkward refusal, close the necessary door for themselves.

Still others are tormented by doubts, afraid of offending, cloud the true state of affairs and say “yes”, meaning “no”, and thereby confuse the relationship even more.

Everyone has the right to refuse, but how to do it and what will be the penalty? There is a simple and effective way. It allows you to avoid burning bridges, maintain relationships and prospects, and at the same time it is completely unambiguous and does not create a false impression on the other side.

And it’s called the “Sandwich Principle,” which consists of four successive layers (for example, a situation is considered when the management of a studio/club offers a novice yoga teacher with no experience to lead a large group for all levels of training):

• YES. Positive at the beginning: expression of understanding, recognition of the importance of the task (request), gratitude for the request, trust, compliment, etc. “Thank you for your trust, this is very interesting and responsible for me, and I, of course, would like to lead large groups”...

• NO. Polite refusal... “And yet, today the optimal number for me is 6-7 people”...

• WHY NOT. Explaining the reason, giving arguments... in view of my limited teaching experience so far and to ensure the necessary quality of practice”...

• YES. Positive at the end: offering a reasonable alternative, offering other help, once again understanding, gratitude... “In the next two to three months of regular practice, I hope to gain the necessary experience and be able to lead a large group. Thanks again for the offer"

Almost every person is familiar with their inner voice, but not everyone knows what it really is. inner voice(intuition?), and when you can listen to it and when not.

Everyone can easily realize, and after some training (observing themselves and others), and identify their inner voices in almost any life situation, including fictitious, unreal ones.

For example, you wake up in the morning to an alarm clock for work, school, university, but you don’t want to get up, and you seem to hear the inner voice of the “Child” - maybe you can’t walk, you can go for a walk, you’re tired of everything... if only you could sleep some more... But then the inner voice appears “ Parent” - I’ll give you a walk, so quickly get out of bed and go to work... Then the Adult “I” joins in the “internal conversation”... assesses the situation here and now, tests reality, makes forecasts for the near future, and makes the final decision - “I get up and I go to work”...

All this happens quickly, and in reality, literally, you may not hear these inner voices (dialogue) - unless, of course, you have schizophrenia and have not taken psychotropic drugs, psychedelics - rather, you can feel them, notice them in your own way behavior and some thoughts.

In the same way, in any life situation, including a stressful one, a person has an inner voice of one of the RVD ego states (Parent, Adult, Child). It all depends on which self is more developed (endowed with psychic energy, strength and power) (RVD test).

Is it worth listening to your inner voice, and which one if there are three of them?
Of course, listening to your inner voice is useful, but you must first learn to distinguish subpersonalities within yourself—I-states (I-states). It's quite simple, just watch yourself: your thoughts, feelings and behavior in various life situations.

Yes, sometimes it is quite difficult to determine what ego state you are in at a particular moment in time, especially in a critical, stressful situation. But it doesn’t matter, you can always work through this situation later, in your imagination, vividly and colorfully remembering the past situation, and watching it in your head like a video - at this moment you can analyze which inner voice (IVR) told you something and What I-state did you follow?

And since your reactions in similar situations are almost the same (this is due to the script, the life program recorded in childhood), you can easily listen to the necessary and useful inner voice, adviser and often protector and assistant.

As you already understood (see above), that the inner voice emanating from the Parental “I” criticizes, condemns, scolds, orders, prohibits, prejudges... His “favorite” words: must, must, cannot, must, do - don’t do , required, whether or not, etc. Sometimes the inner Parent both allows and protects, you can use words...and be careful, etc.

The favorite feelings and emotions of the inner Parent are anger, anger, irritation... sometimes, tenderness and joy... but rarely...

His posture and gestures, along with his facial expressions, are threatening, arrogant, arrogant, dominant, etc.

The Inner Child lives according to the “I WANT” principle, therefore the Parent I-state and the Child I-state are essentially antagonists - they often oppose each other, which can lead to conflict within the individual, and therefore to personal and psychological disorders of a person, up to neuroses and psychoses .

Favorite words of the child's I-state - I want, I don’t want, I will, I won’t... speech is usually shortened, short phrases and interjections are often used, such as Wow!, Cool!, Cool! “Great!...Oh, Ah, etc.

What remains is the Adult, realistic and rational ego-state, with its own inner voice; by the way, this “I” in a harmonious personality should have the right to the last vote, i.e. making a decision in a given situation.

The adult “I” is emotionless and emotionless—like a robot. Only dry logic, intelligence and reason are like a living computer. Even gestures and postures, “stony” facial expressions, a calm and even voice... Verified, precise words and phrases without “water”... For example - “what time is it” - “five o’clock”...

This rational “I” literally perceives reality, without childish inventions and parental stereotypes, without ignoring the situation “here and now.” It is the voice of the inner Adult “I” that should give you the last, decisive information; it is in the inner Adult that you need to process the voices of the Parent and the Child, including demands and intuition, and make a decision.

However, a common problem is that for many people the Adult Ego state, which, in fact, is the arbiter between the contradictions of the Parent and the Child, does not have the necessary strength and power (energy), so people often find themselves in a psychological impasse and stuck in psychological games, not knowing which inner voice to listen to. Emotional, psychological, mental suffering, withdrawal, apathy, passivity and depression begin...in other cases,

Hi all! Friends, many of us like to listen to our inner voice. Only we can understand our thoughts and get answers to important questions. Time does not stand still and today psychologists are creating techniques and methods that can help hear a person’s inner voice.

How to develop intuition

Some people like to ask friends and relatives for advice, and also go to magicians and fortune-tellers. They do not understand that this only makes it difficult to understand their inner world, in which a lot of interesting and useful information is hidden.

For many, this is a very important question that is difficult to answer. There are several recommendations that will help you hear and understand your own thoughts. First of all, we should remove negative emotions that distort our ideas about ourselves and the world around us.

The main rule for developing intuition is faith in its existence. There are several methods that can help you hear your inner voice:

Personal space

You should definitely choose a place and time where you can be alone with yourself. Relaxation and peace will help you find the right answer to your questions.

Attention and self-care

Do what you want, not other people. This is the right way to

Diary of Emotions

Write down your feelings throughout the day so that you can look at them from the outside and understand the essence of the events that are happening. This will help you take care of your emotional state and understand your own desires.

Record your dreams

We ourselves understand dreams best, because everyone’s inner world is unusual and unique. Associations and symbols of dreams will help you get answers to life situations and pressing problems.

Praise for personal achievements

Praise yourself for anything. You can compliment yourself both for a deliciously prepared dish and for your courage in visiting the dentist. Just by praising and complimenting yourself you can gain confidence in your strengths and capabilities.

Remove unnecessary information from life

There is a lot of harmful and distorted information on the Internet and TV that has a negative effect on every person. Get information from other sources, read more books.

The thing to remember is to always be yourself. Listen to yourself and trust your inner instinct. Remember that the main director of your life is only you.

Many people consider intuition to be an acquired gift. In fact, every person has this gift. Intuition is a kind of instinct. It helps you make choices in some life situations, as well as avoid certain types of mistakes.

Intuition can be trained, it is only important to want it and know the techniques that help develop the Sixth Sense.

Here are some simple tips that help develop a person’s inner voice (intuition):

• When meeting someone for the first time, you can try to create a psychological portrait of the person. You can even write it down, and after a while compare what was written and who the person actually turned out to be.
• Stereotypical thinking is a barrier to the development of intuition. You can try to reset your stereotyped thinking. When making a decision, you need to look at the situation from different angles. Sometimes the most absurd decision, made spontaneously, is the most accurate.
• Sometimes it’s worth diving into the past and remembering the moments when intuition worked flawlessly. Every person has had such a period. You need to remember as accurately as possible your feelings and state when your intuition was working in the most active mode.
• For example, when watching football matches, try to guess the final score or try to predict the outcome of a movie.
• You can keep a journal of thoughts. Don't think about anything specific, but just write down what comes to mind. Reading your own thoughts on paper in the face of seeming absurdity can help both in training your inner voice and in self-knowledge.
• If you are surrounded by pregnant women, you can try to determine the sex of the child in advance.
• Sometimes imagining yourself in someone else's place gives amazing results. You can, with some training, learn to feel the thoughts of your interlocutor.

Quotes about intuition

• “Don't let the views of others drown out your own inner voice. And it is very important to have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you really want to do. Everything else is secondary"
• “Intuition is the most complex calculations of our mind according to the laws of mathematics not yet known to us” B. Andreev
• “When I start thinking logically and not trusting my intuition, then I will get into trouble.” A. Jolie
• “There is something in us that is wiser than the head. It is precisely at important moments, in the main steps of our lives, that we are guided not so much by a clear understanding of what needs to be done, but by an internal impulse that comes from the very depths of our being.” A. Schopenhauer
• “If prayer is your turning to God, then intuition is God talking to you” Mother Teresa

Friends, share your experience and advice on this topic “The Inner Voice of a Person.” 🙂 Thank you!