When it comes to depression, we imagine a gloomy, apathetic person. His judgments are negative, his mood is decadent, his self-esteem is low, and his outlook on life is quite sad.
But there is also so-called hidden depression (it is also called masked). A person in this state hides his experiences deep inside, often not even realizing that something is wrong with him. He looks for the cause of failure in outside world. But at the same time he experiences physical suffering (disorders of the stomach and intestines, problems in the sexual sphere, sleep disturbances, horse races) blood pressure etc.). He often suffers morally, feels unsatisfied, plunges into heavy thoughts, and tries to avoid others.
He sees no way out of this state, plunging more and more into depressive states and stress, but outwardly often remains friendly and even cheerful person, often resorts to friendly irony and buffoonery.
Let's consider the main actions and habits that people in a state of masked depression are prone to.
Hidden depression: symptoms and signs
Hidden depression is not always noticeable to others.
Signs latent depression may not appear outwardly. People who suffer deep inside may seem quite calm, cheerful and happy with life. They learn to hide their emotional experiences so as not to burden anyone around them. These are often hyper-responsible people, accustomed to controlling everything. Moreover, your condition.
Sudden outbursts of emotions.
Masked depression is not always noticeable to outsiders, but often manifests itself in the patient’s tears or rare breakdowns. If you notice that your friend (colleague, relative) is often or can be rude, then this may be a symptom of hidden depression. After an outburst of emotions, a person calms down, citing fatigue, problems at work, and more. But it doesn't reveal the truth.
Poor or too good appetite.
People with mild depression often eat too much or too little. Often, those who suffer from such a disorder have a tendency to refuse food (anorexia), take large quantity food, but quickly getting rid of it (bulimia), overeating. A person with hidden depression tries to compensate for his experiences through gastronomic experiments. If you suspect that you loved one hidden depression, symptoms of violation of taste preferences and volume of food consumed should alert you. Naturally, if the changes occurred suddenly and are not justified by obvious changes in life.
A sign of hidden depression is sleep disturbances.
A person with such a psychological disorder often quickly falls asleep in the hope of hiding from excitement, but his sleep is disturbed, and awakening occurs too quickly. Another option is long sleep, a person is constantly drowsy, weak and can sleep more than 15 hours a day.
Constant use of medications.
Antidepressants are used to treat depression, and psychotherapy sessions are successfully conducted. But it is not always the case that someone experiencing deep depression strives to visit a specialist. Often he comes up with his own treatment, although this can harm him. Sometimes, even without medication, a person strives to actively please himself with something, to switch from thinking about sad thoughts to listening to his favorite songs, watching films, reading books, and constant walks.
Change of mood.
The mood (and often the behavior) of people with masked depression changes after taking alcohol, sweets, caffeine and other products. Those experiencing an internal crisis often have an aggravated reaction to alcohol, for example. Having drunk too much, these people plunge even deeper into heavy thoughts, often drinking a lot without getting drunk. A piece of cake or eaten chocolate invigorates them and lifts their mood much better than healthy people.
Obsessive-compulsive syndrome.
People with depression often experience: counting something (for example, people on the street in white clothes, pages in a book), twitching an eyebrow (lip, neck, etc.), rhythmic knocking with an object (for example, on a table). If there is a person in your field of vision who does this, perhaps this indicates the presence of internal problems.
People with hidden depression are extremely vulnerable to breakups.
Communication with family and friends is a kind of lifeline for patients. However, it seems to them that if they told about their problems, say, to their friends, they would immediately turn away from them. They will stop communicating. Therefore, people with this type of disorder may hide their inner feelings for fear of losing loved ones.
They are talented and capable, despite their depression.
Those suffering from internal depression can be quite successful financially and professionally. Often these individuals are talented, have higher education, respected in society. It is wrong to think that hidden depression is the lot of those who have not achieved any blessings in life (could not get an education and a good position, do not have enough money).
People with masked depression are constantly searching for meaning.
Exhausting thoughts about the purpose of life, the search for one’s place in the world do not bring an answer. On the contrary, people with depression feel even more distressed after thinking about it. As a rule, it is not enough for them to enjoy some little things (like Have a good day in nature). Ordinary things may bring a little joy, but they cannot bring satisfaction; they constantly feel incomplete. In addition, those who suffer from hidden depression often have thoughts about the inevitability of death. This does not mean that they are suicidal, but this kind of thinking does not help alleviate the condition.
Psychosomatic pain.
People with hidden depression are prone to psychogenic pain. They may be bothered by, for example, toothaches. But after visiting the dentist, it turns out that everything is fine. They meet headache, but the reasons for it are not clarified even after examinations and analysis. Strangely, sometimes people with depression do not feel dissatisfied with life. They look for reasons for depression in health problems. In other words, they invent bodily ailments so as not to have to delve into their own problems.
Excuses "for the good."
Persons with this type of disorder may carefully hide their experiences from others. For example, having refused lunch because of sad thoughts, they can explain this to others by saying that they had a snack earlier. Not wanting to involve anyone in their problems, such individuals come up with plausible excuses so as not to traumatize anyone with their sad thoughts. And they appear in public only in good mood to avoid unnecessary questions.
They are looking for support.
In some cases, a person with hidden depression may hint to his neighbor about his heartache. Therefore, if you suspect that a friend or relative has hidden depression, symptoms may appear in rare frank conversations. Please pay attention if heartache has been shared with you.
How to behave if a loved one has hidden depression
If there is a person in your close circle who exhibits at least some of these signs, you need to be wary. Undoubtedly, it is better to seek help, but no one has canceled the effect of a friendly, life-saving conversation. Latent depression develops in people various reasons. Both a broken marriage and bad relationship in the family, and moving, and changing jobs or positions. Dealing with internal depression is much more difficult than dealing with ordinary apathy.
One of the main problems is that being in implicit depression, even experiencing discomfort, a person is not always ready to admit at least to himself that he needs psychological assistance.
But this does not mean that the situation is hopeless. Kind words, support, a reliable shoulder and timely assistance can help even those who find themselves involved in a latent depressive state.
One of the most common tasks in practice is the implementation of the form feedback. You mean writing its HTML code, designing it in CSS, PHP creation a script that would process the data received from the user and send it to our mail, writing a JS script that would check the form for the adequacy of the entered data, protecting our brainchild from spam so that our mailbox would not collapse from bot attacks.
All of the above points will be discussed in our review and commented on in detail.
So, let's start creating a feedback form:
HTML
First of all, we write HTML code, which specifies the fields that the user will fill in. They will be formalized in the future. The form code looks like this:
< form method= "post" action= "mail.php" > < div class = "left" > < label for = "name" >Name: < input maxlength= "30" type= "text" name= "name" /> < label for = "phone" >Telephone: < input maxlength= "30" type= "text" name= "phone" /> < label for = "mail" >E-mail: < input maxlength= "30" type= "text" name= "mail" /> < div class = "right" > < label for = "message" >Message: < textarea rows= "7" cols= "50" name= "message" > < input type= "submit" value= "Send" />
And visually it now looks like this:
I agree, so far everything is ugly and nothing is clear, but we have just begun.
Let's look at the above code in detail:
< form method= "post" action= "mail.php" > …
In order to create a form you need to use the form tag. It is he who determines the beginning and end of the form for the code interpreter. It, like any tag, has a whole set of attributes, but there are only two required for the form to work, these are method (the method of sending a request to the server, post is used as standard for forms) and action (indicates the path to the form handler file, namely in This file will contain a PHP script, which will then send the user-entered values to us by email. In our case, we see that this file is called mail.php and it is located in the same site directory as the page we are considering).< input maxlength= "30" type= "text" name= "name" />
Next we have inputs. These are actually the form fields themselves into which users will enter the information we need (type="text" indicates that this will be text). The maxlength attribute specifies how many characters the user can enter in a given form field. The most important attribute is name - it specifies the name of a specific field. It is by these names that the PHP script will subsequently process the information entering it. If desired, you can also set the placeholder attribute, which displays text inside the field that disappears when the cursor is placed inside it. One of the problems with placeholder is that it is not supported by some older browsers.< label for = "name" >Name:
Used if we have abandoned placeholders. A regular field signature, the for attribute tells which specific field this signature refers to. The value indicates the name of the field we are interested in.< textarea rows= "7" cols= "50" name= "message" >
Just like input, it is intended for the user to enter information, only this time the field is tailored for long messages. Rows specifies the field size in rows, cols in characters. In general, they set the height and width of our field.< input type= "submit" value= "Send" />
Type="submit" tells us that this is a button for submitting a form, and value specifies the text that will be inside this button.< div class = "right" >
are used only for further visual design of the form.
CSS
In order for our feedback form to look presentable, it needs to be formatted. To get the following result:
We used this code:
form ( background: #f4f5f7; padding: 20px; ) form . left, form . right ( display: inline- block; vertical- align: top; width: 458px; ) form . right ( padding- left: 20px; ) label ( display: block; font- size: 18px; text- align: center; margin: 10px 0px 0px 0px; ) input, textarea ( border: 1px solid #82858D; padding: 10px; font- size: 16px; width: 436px; ) textarea ( height: 98px; margin- bottom: 32px; ) input[ type= "submit" ] ( width: 200px; float: right; border: none; background: #595B5F; color: #fff; text- transform: uppercase;
I don’t see the point in describing CSS in detail; I’ll only draw your attention to the key points:
- There is no need to write a design for each tag in the form. Try to build your selectors in such a way that you can design all the elements you need in a couple of lines of code.
- Do not use unnecessary type tags to break lines and create indentations < br>, < p> and so on, these tasks are handled perfectly by CSS with the display: block property and margin with padding. More about why you shouldn't use it < br> in layout in general, you can read in the article Tag br, but is it really necessary? .
- You should not use tabular layout for forms. This contradicts the semantics of this tag, and search engines love semantic code. In order to form the visual structure of the document, it is enough for us div tags, and the display: inline-block (arranges the blocks in a row) and vertical-align: top (prevents them from scattering across the screen) properties specified in the CSS, set them to the required height and voila, nothing superfluous and everything is located the way we need .
For those who want to save their time on website design, I can recommend using CSS frameworks when creating websites, especially self-written ones. My choice in this regard is Twitter Bootstrap. You can watch a lesson on how to design forms using it.
PHP
Well, it's time to make our form work.
We go to our root directory of the site and create the mail.php file there, to which we previously specified the path in action attribute form tag.
Ultimately his code will look like this:
His number: " . $phone . "
His mail: " . $mail . "
His message: ". $message, ) ; echo "Your message has been sent successfully!
You will receive an answer shortly
$back "; exit ; ) else ( echo ; exit ; ) ?>
You can skip the discussion of the HTML and CSS portions of this document. At its core, this is a regular website page that you can design according to your wishes and needs. Let's look at its most important part - the PHP script for processing the form:
$back = "
\" javascript: history.back()\" >Go back
" ;With this line we create a link to return to the previous page. Since we don’t know in advance from which page the user will get to this one, this is done using a small JS function. In the future, we will simply access this variable to display it in the places we need.
if (! empty ($_POST [ "name" ] ) and ! empty ($_POST [ "phone" ] ) and ! empty ($_POST [ "mail" ] ) and ! empty ($_POST [ "message" ] ) ) ( //internal part of the handler) else ( echo "To send a message, fill in all fields! $back "; exit ; )
Here we add a form check to ensure that the fields are full. As you guessed, in the $_POST["name"] part, in quotes, we write the value of the name attribute of our inputs.
If all the fields are filled in, then the script will begin to process the data in its internal part, but if at least one field was not filled in, then a message will be displayed on the user’s screen asking them to fill out all the fields of the form echo “To send a message, fill out all the fields! $back” and a link to return to the previous page, which we created with the very first line.
Next we paste into the internal part of the form handler:
$name = trim(strip_tags($_POST["name"])); $phone = trim(strip_tags($_POST["phone"])); $mail = trim(strip_tags($_POST["mail"])); $message = trim(strip_tags($_POST["message"]));
This way we cleared user input from html tags and extra spaces. This allows us to protect ourselves from receiving malicious code in messages sent to us.
The checks can be made more complicated, but this is at your discretion. We have already installed minimal protection on the server side. We will do the rest on the client side using JS.
I don’t recommend completely abandoning form protection on the server side in favor of JS, since, although extremely rare, there are unique ones with JS disabled in the browser.
After cleaning the tags, add sending a message:
mail ( "[email protected]",
"Letter from your_site_address", "Wrote to you: " . $name . "
His number: " . $phone . "
His mail: " . $mail . "
His message: ". $message "Content-type:text/html;charset=windows-1251")
;
It is this line that is responsible for generating and sending the message to us. It is filled out as follows:
- “[email protected]” – here you insert your email between the quotes
- “Letter from your_site_address” is the subject of the message that will be sent to your email. You can write anything here.
- "Wrote to you: ".$name." < br /> His number: ".$phone." < br /> His email: ".$mail." < br /> His message: ".$message – we form the message text itself. $name – we insert the information filled in by the user by accessing the fields from the previous step, in quotes we describe what this field means, with the tag < br /> We break the line so that the message as a whole is readable.
- Content-type:text/html;charset=windows-1251 - at the end there is an explicit indication of the data type transmitted in the message and its encoding.
IMPORTANT!
The encoding specified in the “head” of the document ( < meta http- equiv= "Content-Type" content= "text/html; charset=windows-1251" /> ), the encoding from the message Content-type:text/html;charset=windows-1251 and in general the encoding of the PHP file must match otherwise in messages received by mail instead of Russian or English letters“krakozyabry” will be displayed.
Many people do not explicitly indicate the encoding of the message being sent, but on some email clients this may cause problems in the future (unreadable emails are sent to the mail), so I recommend specifying it anyway.
Checking the form for adequacy of the entered data
To ensure that users do not inadvertently miss fields and fill out everything correctly, it is worth checking the entered data.
This can be done both in PHP on the server side and in JS on the client side. I use the second option, because this way a person can immediately find out what he did wrong and correct the mistake without making additional transitions by page.
We paste the script code in the same file where we have the HTML part of the form. For our case it will look like this:
< script>function checkForm(form) ( var name = form. name. value; var n = name. match(/ ^[ A- Za- zA- Jaa- z ] * [ A- Za- zA- Ja- z ] + $/ ) ; if (!n) ( alert( "The name entered is incorrect, please correct the error") ; return false ; ) var phone = form. phone. value; var p = phone. match(/ ^[ 0 - 9 + ] [ 0 - 9 - ] * [ 0 - 9 - ] + $/ ) ; if (! p) ( alert( "Phone number entered incorrectly") ; return false ; ) var mail = form. mail. value; var m = mail . match(/ ^[ A- Za- z0- 9 ] [ A- Za- z0- 9 \. _- ] * [ A- Za- z0- 9 _] *@ ([ A- Za- z0- 9 ] + ([ A- Za- z0- 9 - ] * [ A- Za- z0- 9 ] + ) * \ ) + [ A- Za- z] + $/ ) ; if (! m) ( alert( "The email entered is incorrect, please correct the error") ; return false ; ) return true ; )
Well, now the usual analysis:
For that, so that when you click on the form submit button, we check it We attach the launch of our script to the form tag:
< form method= "post" action= "mail.php" onSubmit= "return checkForm(this)" >
Now let’s take the checklist point by point:
As you can see, such a mini check is written for each of our fields. I highlighted the check for one field in the screenshot with a red square; for other fields it has a similar structure, and if there is a need to add a field or remove it, you can now easily do this.
It would seem that women understand perfectly well that these are conventions: about St. Valentine, and about Clara Zetkin and Rosa Luxemburg, but still they cannot help but wait for confirmation that they are needed, loved, in demand, and not forgotten. And if they don’t receive it, then hello, melancholy and depression. The lack of love has not been filled, the feeling, not always conscious, is something like this: “even today he cannot do something nice,” “even today I don’t feel loved.”
There is general excitement and high spirits all around; at work, green, unopened tulips are centrally given, but this makes it even more painful. As is known, the worst loneliness- loneliness in the crowd. If, for example, a neighbor, a familiar store clerk, or any passerby in general can congratulate you on the New Year, then in mid-February and early March women expect congratulations from men, and precisely from those who occupy important place in their lives.
But for the male gender, the situation with the word “should” in relationships always fails greatly. It provokes stubbornness, rejection, fear of not living up to expectations, opposition and the question: “Why do I owe something?”
It turns out that if I didn’t congratulate you, I screwed up, and if I congratulated you, it’s still bad
Most of them may well give flowers to their wife or friend just like that, spontaneously buy a gift or respond to a hint about a ring they like... But when something is expected of them, and they are expected demandingly and biasedly, as in an exam, they fall into a stupor.
Further the situation may develop in different ways. For example, a man congratulated, but was late with congratulations (he is in a stupor, it’s difficult for him) - the woman is dissatisfied. The man gave a gift, but did not choose correctly (wise friends make a wish list in advance) - her holiday was spoiled. The man did not congratulate her at all - she expressed everything she thought about it, remembering past failed holidays and old grievances.
And finally, the man did everything right: on time, with flowers, with a gift and a kiss, but she reacts something like this: “Well, of course, today is March 8th, it’s mandatory, he had nowhere to go, he didn’t want to run into an open conflict,” “ duty flowers”, “duty perfumes” and the like. It turns out that even if he didn’t congratulate, he made a mistake, and even if he congratulated, it’s still bad.
The fact remains: these holidays, instead of unburdening everyday life, provoke resentment, melancholy and depression
These stories are not from the head, but from practice. Because dealing with the consequences of celebrating Valentine's Day and International women's day psychologists have to, and these consequences occur in clients of both sexes. For some, depression hits in advance, for others after the holiday.
It’s not very clear who has it more difficult: those who are in a relationship, or those who are single, those who are just starting to get to know their partner, or those who have broken up with him, moreover, recently. It's bad for everyone. The fact remains: these holidays, instead of unloading everyday life, provoke resentment, melancholy and depression.
What to do with all this? I suggest playing on Valentine's Day and Women's Day, and not taking them seriously. As you know, Valentine's Day is celebrated with particular enthusiasm in America, where a modest European saint has been turned into another representative of mass, postcard pop culture.
In the USA, this is a real adult holiday. In our country it is popular mainly among children and teenagers. For them, this is the day of notes, and even girlfriends and teachers write notes to each other. And all these rituals look a lot like training in expressing real feelings. And young people are doing the right thing by training, formulating any of their feelings, including sympathy and friendship.
But it is, of course, wrong and even dangerous for neither children, nor even adults, to base their sense of self on such frivolous attributes of a frivolous holiday like “Valentines”. One of the main differences between the Russian mentality and the Western way of thinking is that in the USA there is a very clear guideline towards which all life aspirations are aimed - success, success, external well-being.
IN American families several times a day they assure each other: “I love you.” That's how it is. But that doesn’t make their problems any less.
There are several signs of the American dream come true: a career, money, a family whose members assure each other several times a day: “I love you.” That's how it is. I'll just say that family problems It doesn't make them any less. But many people are forced to give up searching for themselves, following the approved script, so that God forbid they do not earn the stigma of “loser” from society.
So, one of the generally accepted signs of success is the number of congratulations received on February 14th. If there is none, things are completely bad: you couldn’t win sympathy, you couldn’t present yourself correctly and sell yourself! A false approach that could be called funny if an entire nation did not suffer from it.
March 8 is a different story. This is a grand Soviet public holiday, imposed “from above”, almost forced. A holiday when bosses are congratulated with a large gift, and secretaries with a smaller one, although they social status does not make them less or more women.
It’s time to overcome all these historical imbalances, at least in your mind, and not expose your relationships and your peace of mind test of the holiday, do not make them dependent on the timeliness and cost of gifts, have a little pity on the men who, covered in red spots, are trying to find out something from the consultants in the lingerie store.
Let's remember that true love does not wait for a special occasion to be expressed or confirmed. Valentine's Day is not a holiday of love itself, a red heart is not its symbol, because in life love is not a toy. The aesthetics of Valentine's Day is not the aesthetics of love, but the anticipation of it. And March 8 is a holiday not so much of femininity as of the struggle of women for equal rights with men in production and in government bodies.
I highly recommend taking the initiative into your own hands and having fun these days to the fullest. Don’t freeze in an expectant position, but play at love and focus on the joy of expressing your own emotions, and not counting other people’s confessions.
In the chapter “Beshalach”, describing the exit from Egypt, the Torah says: “The children of Israel left free and fearless (“beyad rama” - Hebrew). In Aramaic these words sound like bereish gale. This is exactly how Onkelos interprets them, who two thousand years ago translated the Torah into Aramaic ( spoken language of that time) for those Jews who even then did not understand the holy language. It is surprising that in the word “breish” (letters bet, reish, yud, shin) the sages see an encrypted abbreviation of the name of the Baal Shem Tov - “Rabbi Yisroel ben Sarah”. But let's talk about everything in order...
First of all, we should recall the famous letter of the Baal Shem Tov, in which he mentions his spiritual ascent in higher worlds. Having entered the palace of Moshiach, the Baal Shem Tov asked him: “When will the master come?” And Mashiach replied: “When your springs (the teachings of Hasidism) overflow.”
Some books also say that in the word “breish” there is an allusion to Rashbi, the author of the Zohar, since it is an abbreviation of the words “Rabbi Shimon bar Yochai”, as well as an allusion to the great Kabbalist Arizal: “Rabbi Yitzchok Ben Shlomo”. The teachings of Rashbi and Arizal thus lead to Liberation. And it is also said in the Zohar that with this book the Jews “will come out of exile in mercy.”
Rashbi and Arizal revealed the inner part of the Torah only for especially exalted people. But only when inner part The Torah will spread everywhere - even to places where there seems to be no place for the Divine - then Moshiach will be revealed in the world. This is exactly how Rabbi Yisroel Baal Shem Tov began to reveal the teachings of Hasidism - to all Jews, without any restrictions.
Let us also note that in the Torah everything is expressed with the greatest precision. Even the fact that the allusion to Rashbi and Arizal lies precisely in the translation into Aramaic– the language of the diaspora, that is, exile – carries a deep meaning.
The literal meaning of the Torah speaks of the exodus from Egypt. However, the Egyptian Galut (exile) is the root of all subsequent exiles, and the Torah verse talking about the exodus from Egypt also hints at the future Geula (liberation) that our righteous Moshiach will bring.
In the Aramaic translation this allusion is more clearly visible. The translation of the Torah from the holy language into the language of Galut was done because during the period of exile, not everyone understood the holy language. Thus, the everyday Aramaic language was raised to the heights of the language of the Torah - the unholy became holy. And this is the preparation for the future Geula.
Although during the first Geula - liberation from Egypt - evil was defeated, it still retained its power. Therefore the children of Israel were forced to flee from evil 1: “for the people fled.”
This is not how it will happen after the arrival of Moshiach. It is said about this 2: “And I will remove the spirit of uncleanness from the earth,” since then evil and uncleanness will completely disappear. Therefore, in the future Geula there will be no need to flee: “For you will go out slowly and not run away” 3, in addition, “and all flesh will see...” (that is, even physical flesh) will be able to observe the Divinity with their own eyes, with complete clarity.
Therefore, allusions to the names of Rashbi and Arizal are contained precisely in the Aramaic translation. Their Torah, their teachings became those “springs that overflowed.” Not trying to hide, to escape from the external, everyday, but on the contrary, bringing the holiness of the Torah into the everyday, i.e. “outside”, they brought us closer to the coming Liberation.
On the 10th day of Shevat, Rebbe Rayatz – the previous Rebbe of Chabad – ascended from this world. The abbreviation of his full name - Yosef Yitzchok ben Sholom - is also “breish”! And this is no coincidence.
As has already been said, the revelation of Hasidism to the entire Jewish people, including women and children, without any restrictions, was started by the Baal Shem Tov. He went from village to village, from city to city and expounded the ideas of Hasidism to even the most ordinary people. This was also the way of Rebbe Rayatz. He expounded the teachings of Hasidism to everyone. Wherever he was: in Leningrad, Warsaw or New York, no matter who stood in front of him: the Hasidim or their opponents, the Rebbe paved the way for the springs of the Baal Shem Tov.
Let us meet the long-awaited Geula, “as in the days of the exodus from the land of Egypt.” As it is written in our Holy Torah: “And Israel saw the great hand (great deed) that the Lord had done... and they believed in the Lord and in Moses...” In other words, for the coming of Moshiach it is not enough to “believe in the Lord”; it is also necessary to “believe in Moshe” - the head of our generation!
