Even my cat Zina knows that you need to do in life what you like, and not what you have to do (who, by the way, adheres to this postulate every day, namely: eats, sleeps and eats again). But, unlike cats, people, thank God, have a much wider range of self-realization. Therefore, many people have a question: in what business to show yourself? Why does my soul lie, my hands stand and goosebumps writhing in herds on my skin? How to find your dream job? And exactly his, but sometimes you can’t tell whether you want it yourself, or whether society and modern trends are imposing another interest on you.
What did I not do in search of myself! Yoga, dancing, basketball, modeling agency, three days of karate (there wasn’t enough for more), swimming, oil painting, poetry writing, theater and acting courses, vocals...
The list could go on and on. But the voice of society says: it’s not good to spread yourself thin! So what should we do?
After searching Google for “I want to find my dream,” I received a ton of information, tests, and techniques. In this article I collected five best methods, which at one time helped me and, I hope, will help you understand the topic of your purpose. They all complement each other, so it will be much more effective if you go through and spend time on each of them. So, let's go.
METHOD 1: MAKE A WISH LIST
Everything here is extremely simple: take a notepad and make a list of your wishes and desires (for the near future and global ones). The main thing to keep in mind is quantity. There must be at least a hundred wishes!
At the beginning of the list, all those dreams that are on the surface usually appear, but the further you go, the more complicated it becomes. The brain begins to actively search for something else to come up with, and this is where the most interesting thing is discovered. Therefore, we book ourselves 30–40 minutes of free time in advance, when no one will distract us, sit down comfortably and start writing.
We write whatever comes to mind. What did you dream about as a child? What would you like now? Maybe go somewhere, do something, but there is not enough time for this or there is no opportunity. Maybe start drawing or take vocal lessons. Or learn foreign languages. You can not compose it at once, but put it aside and then supplement it over the course of several days.
After the list is ready, we go through it with a pencil in our hands and select a shortlist of the 10 strongest, most important and important desires. Of course, it's not that easy. But you have to compare and choose what is more interesting and meaningful for you. Have you chosen? Very good. Now choose three winners out of 10. The very best. This method allows you to calculate your true desires, understand yourself and understand what you still want from life. Well, now, having understood what exactly your soul wants, you can begin to act. First, we develop a plan-strategy, think about where to start, think through all possible steps - and go ahead! Towards your dreams, success, happiness!
METHOD 2: GET YOUR UNCLE'S INHERITANCE
This is my favorite exercise! I'm sure those who like to dream will like it. Imagine that you have received an inheritance from a billionaire relative who suddenly appeared out of nowhere and suddenly died. So, a couple or three million dollars. Now we begin to write a free essay on a given topic, in which we must reflect on the following questions:
- What will you do now, what will you do with your millions?
- What previous activities will you give up now?
- What will you never give up, even if you have millions?
It is better to write an essay using the freewriting method: turn on the timer for 20 minutes and, without stopping, begin to pour out the stream of your consciousness onto paper.
Pay special attention to the second point, since it is this that shows what at the moment you are forced to do it. For example, would you leave your current job (study) if you no longer need to work for a salary? Or maybe you will leave your husband/wife because you were forced to live with this person due to certain circumstances? This does not mean that you need to tear everything up at once, but it is necessary to pay attention and think about it.
After you finish your treatise, sum up the results by writing out all your desires in a column, and then carefully look at what you can realize from what you have written without your uncle’s inheritance. Personally, it turned out that for many of my desires all I need is the desire itself.
For example, in order to become a writer, to write books and articles for magazines, you do not need capital at all. And in order to travel (this point is always present for everyone), you also don’t need fabulous money. I recently met a guy from Finland who, at the age of 32, had already been around the world twice, and at the same time he had never flown on tours, but lived with ordinary people, whom I found through the Couchsurfing community.
METHOD 3: MONITOR YOUR BROWSER HISTORY
I spotted this option on the blog of psychologist, writer and mind hacker Ivan Pirog. He argues that it is possible to become a natural professional only in an area that deeply interests us and of which we ourselves are consumers. Therefore, the search for your favorite activity should begin with the question:
Information on what topic am I endlessly interested in? What topic is my interest in?
To do this, open the browser history, in the right way filter sites in a few last months and compile a rating of the most popular topics that you consume willingly and regularly. We write down all our observations in a notebook. If you come across a site whose topic is already on your list, then add a plus sign next to it. We give pluses every time we come across a site on the same topic. Next, we write down in a separate column the most interesting topics, which received the most positives. For each, you need to check your bodily response, which consists of repeating the phrase “Make money on (topic name)” and observing your feelings, how your body reacts to this phrase, for example:
- Earn money in foreign languages.
- Make money on the topic of cosmetics and makeup.
- Make money with funny pictures.
- Make money on the topic of self-development.
Pleasant sensations mean yes, and discomfort or complete absence any response means “no”. Measure all your topics with feelings on a scale from 0 to 10. After you decide on the leading topics, think about what exactly you could do in this area and how to make money on it.
METHOD 4: RE-CREATE YOURSELF
The main postulate that runs like a red thread through all the texts of an amazing girl, whose articles I read avidly every time, Olesya Novikova (author of the projects “Create yourself again” and “Come back to others”):
You cannot find yourself, you can only create yourself!
The same goes for your business and your path.
At one time I was very touched by her idea that you don’t need to sit, wait and guess what your purpose is. You need to move, become the best in your current field now. If you are a secretary, then become the number one secretary in the whole world. Let your boss go nuts. What will this give? Firstly, you will quickly get promoted; secondly, and much more importantly, you will be able to touch the very path that everyone is looking for through your own conscious contribution and subsequent return.
And then a new one will open before you observation deck, with which the view will be larger and wider than with the one you are on now. And it will be possible to discern and understand what you want to do at stage number two, already having a wealth of knowledge and experience in conscious doing.
Stage number two comes at the moment when you clearly want to do your own thing. Be a creator in in every sense this word and create your own own reality in the form of the matter in which you see it.
True satisfaction brings creative process creating your own business, whatever it may be, from cross-stitching to opening a factory for the production of cans, if this is your soul and ability. And the fruits of this activity, that is, the results (including money) are a wonderful dessert, but by no means the only food that should fill us.
And finally.
METHOD 5: WRITE
Some time ago, I started looking for answers to the questions I posed to myself in in writing. For example, some situation happens, and I don’t know how to resolve it, what to choose or what to do. Then I take a notepad, a pen and start writing everything I think about it.
First, I formulate my problem or question, and then I begin to argue directly on paper what I can do, why this happened and how to live further. Writing practices like these helped me realize that all the answers are within us. And the most interesting thing is that even if I ask my friends or family for advice, I’m actually looking for confirmation, correct wording the same answer that I already have inside.
Writing helps you find this answer in your head on your own, slow down and think about what you really like, what you dream about, what you are proud of, what you are ashamed of, and so on. You don't even have to wait special occasion, and make it a rule that every morning after the soap-and-snout procedures, sit down and devote 15–20 minutes to written practices. Don't know what to write about? Google to the rescue: search on the Internet interesting questions and work through them.
- Who would you invite over for dinner if you could choose anyone in the world?
- Would you like to be famous? In what area?
- Before you do phone call, do you ever rehearse what you're going to say? Why?
- What is your idea of a perfect day?
- When you're in last time did you sing alone? And for someone else?
- If you could live to be 90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30-year-old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you choose?
When you re-read your notes over time, the pieces of the puzzle begin to fall into place on their own. It will be much easier for you to understand who you are, what you want and which way to go next.
That's all, actually.
Live to the fullest and become the best version myself!
As for me, thanks to these techniques, I realized that my many interests are not a minus at all, but a way to develop myself (albeit not in depth, but in breadth). And with all the insights and conclusions that arise along the way life path, I share on my blog “ What if we turn left?”. By the way, a blog is an excellent tool for structuring your knowledge and experience. But more on this in the next article.
As always, I turn this idea into an advice-exercise so that you not only understand, but do it. And then this idea will benefit you.
Advice-Exercise: "How to light a fire in your soul and save your Talent and the Whole World"
A gray and dull life, stability - this is what most people strive for. And this is unattainable. God designed the world in such a way that there are bound to be such psychos as Alexander the Great, Napoleon and the like. They want to conquer the world. They start wars. Millions of people are being killed. This happens in every generation. Stability collapses every 25 years maximum. Why? Because God needs “fire in the soul.”
When stability is disrupted, people begin to “explode” from passion. They pray with sobs, perform feats, and leave carrying tons of cargo. In general, a “storm of emotions” begins. This is obviously what the Creator of the World intended.
A goal is needed as a direction for movement.
Bruce Lee
What am I offering? Want the greatest achievements. Do not evaluate their reality or not reality for yourself (55% of the Forbes list of billionaires started their fortune with 0). And create a gap in the soul between the current state of affairs and the desired one. It's just an Abyss.
I remember how a multimillionaire friend of mine suffered, who spent $150,000 a month in pocket expenses. He suffered every day. He needed 5 billion to be happy. He calculated how much he needed. He prayed every day with tears in his eyes and asked God to make up for his huge lack of money.
Suffering must obviously come into the world. What I suggest is to want much more than you currently have and create “suffering” in your soul. WANT!!! I WANT IT SO MUCH!!!
About the same suffering as a refugee who wants to return home. And it doesn’t matter that there is no water or light in the house. Being a refugee is terrible. And the simple, gray, everyday reality of the days before the war seems like paradise.
In general, my exercise advice is to find yourself a HUGE DREAM. And increase it to the size that the most lucky people peace. If this is a yacht, then it’s like that of the “orphan” Roman Abramovich. Both of his parents actually died in childhood. And perhaps he passionately dreamed of wealth when he lived with relatives? And the wives of relatives are often very reluctant to feed children who are not their own :)
The purpose of life is to live with purpose.
Robin Sharma
Exercise
In general, with the help of a DREAM, “light” a fire in your soul. Start suffering and praying. For example:
- I want a billion dollars!!!
- I want to run a marathon at 100 years old!!!
Like Rockefeller, who dreamed of earning $100,000 (as it is now 100 million) and living to be 100 years old. This is necessary in order to create suffering inside and not lose what we have today. Whether you achieve it or not is not so important.
If you want to lead happy life You must be attached to the goal, not to people or things.
Albert Einstein
Take action! Live! Make an impact! Get rich! Love!
I Know - You Can!
Joke:
The son of a “new Russian” comes to his father sad. The girl says she refused me. She said that she only wants a guy: in a Mercedes and with a three-story house. Dad thought about it and said: Well, we can easily exchange your Bentley for a Mercedes. But I really don’t want to destroy the top two floors of the house because of it.
One blonde asks another: Do you have a goal? She answers: Of course there is. Imagine, I'm walking down the street and a limousine stops. A fairy comes out from there and gives me 50 thousand dollars... The first one asks admiringly: Why not a million? The second one answers: Are you stupid? The goal must be realistic...
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On the eve of the New Year, I sometimes receive very interesting questions. Since I was asked the question about how to identify, find “your dream” several times in a row, practically, I, with the permission of the author of the question, decided to publish my answer and my vision of the problem “ main dream"in life. Perhaps this approach will also be of some help to someone else.
Lada, hello!
I follow your news - I am very interested in what you write about, your thoughts are interesting. New Year's Eve is approaching. It is customary to make your deepest wish, your dream on the eve of the New Year at midnight with the clink of glasses... a wonderful tradition, bright and kind. And while waiting for this moment, I thought about what I could wish for? Such simple, mundane desires are spinning in my head - to renovate an apartment, buy a car, etc.
And I was horrified by my desires. After all, in fact, they have nothing to do with me. These are not my desires, but, so to speak, some kind of public desires. Lada, tell me, maybe you know how to find a dream within yourself? Truly your dream. Where do real dreams come from? Or maybe you need to find your way to them yourself? Or maybe only children who are not overwhelmed by worries can truly dream material world? It’s so sad and bitter that youthful ambitious, bright dreams are replaced by something completely alien to the soul. Share your secret on how to bring magic back into your life?
Good afternoon
Try to remember your childhood feelings and thoughts - it is possible! In those periods, dreams could come in an allegorical form - you just need to learn to understand and recognize it. For example, as a child I wanted to become a bus driver (this is in addition to my dream of becoming an astronomer). It would seem a strange dream for a girl who only agreed to wear trousers for the first time at the age of 12)) I started playing this game whenever the opportunity arose - the passengers (all at once) were either my grandmother, or they were generally virtual. I liked announcing stops, imagining someone getting on and off the “bus.”
As an adult, I understood what this meant and deciphered it this way: I want the people (“bus passengers”) who come into my life (“bus”) to get what they need (“their stop”), and as joyfully and comfortably as possible (“trip”). During the game I enjoyed this feeling of “getting everyone to their desired place.” Now my activity strongly reminds me of this children's game. With the people (clients) who come to me, we together try to identify their goals (they can be either short or long-term), understand the causes of problems in achieving them and see the path to their implementation. Or see other directions and “stops”.
Ask yourself questions - what did that childhood dream want from me? She definitely wasn’t just like that!
Don’t listen to the nagging voice inside that something might be “too much.” Typically, this is simply a reflection of past failures, as well as negative experience surrounding people (including the collective) But failure is generally normal! Because when everything is “sweet and smooth”, diabetes occurs (spiritually, this can result in oversaturation and a reluctance to move at all in life, because “everything is fine.”)
On the other hand, there is no point in scolding yourself for “simple” desires. Our life consists of them, and most of it. Apartment renovation is also part of our creativity! Feel the joy of this creativity. The apartment is your mini-universe! The opportunity to create it is very cool. By the way, I’m also doing renovations now and I’m noticing how other areas of my life are automatically “repaired.” So everything in everything - material in spiritual, and vice versa - nothing can be neglected! Let there be a couple of earthly “dreams”, and a big dream) More precisely, let it become the intention to do it at all costs. Just pave your inner path from your soul to the place where you feel that it has already been realized. This feeling will connect you with your dream, you can focus on it, and it will not allow temporary difficulties to lead you astray.
© Lada Heo.
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Each person is unique in their own way: some constantly dream and make a lot of efforts to make their dreams come true, others dream, but do nothing to make their dreams come true. But there is a category of people who simply forbade themselves to dream. However, every person needs a dream, because it is what allows us to live and strive for its fulfillment. How to find your dream in life and how to fulfill your dream?
First you need to understand that every person has a dream. It just often happens that it is not defined, not expressed, not outlined. It may also happen that a person is afraid to express it. Why?
Yes, because, having defined a dream for himself, a person will have to make it come true. Fears of action and possible errors stop many of us from finding cherished dream in life.
Some people find many reasons why nothing will work out for them, while others find many evidence that nothing will work out. Someone can't step over own beliefs.
However, no matter what, it is the dream in life that is the strongest motivation for action. If she constantly reminds you of herself and prevents you from falling asleep, then she is truly yours. And only in your power to implement it.
But if you feel like you're dreaming of nothing, we can give you some tips on how to find your dream in life.
First you need to make a list of your desires, even the most insignificant ones. These desires may be related to work, leisure or family. Include everything you currently want on this list.
After this, you can begin to realize your little desires. It is quite possible that your real dream in life will appear only when you are ready to accept it.
Once you implement small wishes, you will have confidence that you can achieve more serious results. At such a moment, you can begin to realize your main dream.
To find your dream in life, constantly check whether you are moving in the right direction. Every day, ask yourself what you have done to achieve your dreams.
To have meaning in life, every person needs a dream. Having found it, you will definitely have a lot of strength and inspiration to implement it. After all, only by doing what you love and acting to achieve your goal can a person be truly happy and successful.
How to make your dream come true
Every person has dreamed of something at some point. Some people have small and “mundane” dreams - to receive a bonus at work, to have a fun vacation. For some, it’s more global – having a child, moving from a small house to a big one, buying a car, becoming a specialist, etc. It’s so pleasant to dream, it’s as if they illuminate the present with a special light and draw bright prospects for the future. But some people's dreams come true, while others don't, they remain dreams.
In order not only to find your dream in life, but also to fulfill it, believe that yours will certainly come true. Don't allow yourself to doubt that sooner or later you will get what you want.
Turn your dream into a goal. Think about how realistic your dream is, whether it can come true, and what is needed for this. Start taking action in this direction.
Imagine how to make your dream come true - allow yourself to dream about money “falling from the sky” to make it come true, and about a fabulous gift, and about other possibilities. Make a wish on a shooting star when the chimes strike New Year's Eve, pet the wish-granting statue (every city has such statues or places). You just need to believe that it will bring the desired effect. Doubt will prevent your dream from coming true.
There are “fantastic” technologies to make dreams come true. They come down to believing that you can control the universe. To do this you need to achieve a certain state of mind. If you want to learn how to make your dreams come true, search the Internet for similar technologies, maybe one of them will work specifically in your case.
Don't sit back and wait. As they say, “water does not flow under a lying stone.” Go to car dealerships if you dream of a car - maybe there will be a lottery there that you can win. Communicate with people working in the field where you want to work - suddenly they will protect you and take you on as their assistant. Improve your skills.
Know how to wait - the more global the desire, the longer it may take to fulfill it.
If you want to learn how to make your dreams come true, think about your dream every day; you cannot “throw away”, dreaming about one thing today and another tomorrow.
If you managed to find your dream in life, then talk about it more often - maybe other people will have the opportunity to make it come true or at least advise something.
Help other people make their dreams come true. “As it comes around, so it will respond.”
Believe again, think about how to make your dream come true, don’t doubt its fulfillment, be prepared for the most unusual development of events.
How to realize your dreams
Desires, desires, desires, there are so many of them, today we want a car, tomorrow we want our own business, the day after tomorrow we want an apartment. I really want them all to be implemented, but as luck would have it, not a single one has been implemented. Each of us wants to know how to fulfill a dream and make it come true in the near future.
We all understand that to make our desires come true, we need to do something. For example, if you want to win a car, you need to either buy a lottery ticket or take part in some promotion. But often our attempts to realize our desires cannot be crowned with success.
Maybe we are doing something wrong or asking for help from the wrong people? higher powers in its implementation? Most likely, we lack a clear plan on how to make our dreams come true. We have developed sample tips for making your dreams come true especially for you.
To not only find your dream in life, but also to fulfill your dream, first of all, decide on a specific desire. Choose what exactly you want, don’t jump from apartment to car, from car to phone.
Concentrate on this desire. Don't be distracted from it. For example, if you have chosen a new car, then the thought of buying a car should constantly form in your head, imagine that you are going to a car dealership to choose it, think about the model, characteristics, while intermediate desires should disappear.
You understand that the car will not come to you on its own and you need to move from dreams to action sooner or later. If you want to learn how to make your dreams come true, make rough plan implementation of the purchase of a car, and slowly slowly begin to act. At the same time, at each stage of the plan, pay attention to the tips.
For example, you chose a day to go to a car dealership, but as luck would have it, your child gets sick, you find someone to leave him with, but the moment you leave, you are called to work. The conclusion you must make is clear: there is no need to go to the car dealership today, put it off, don’t rush to view it. Two or more repeating events that cause obstacles for someone are no longer a coincidence.
The very fact of making a desire come true will take more than one day, because your energy must be directed towards it for a certain time. What does the time period depend on? On the quality of your energy. Because it is believed that not all the energy we generate is suitable for fulfilling desires. We pay for the fulfillment of our desires by producing pure energy, which we release when we love and engage in activities with children, helping others, and similar actions.
All your desires and dreams are possible when you know exactly what you want and don’t change them every half hour.
A dream is our thoughts-desires that seem inaccessible and impossible to us, but at first glance.
A dream is the first step towards a goal!
A dream is strength, it is the meaning of life, it is interest in life, it is our “motivator”.
Without a dream, there is no goal, no tasks, no movement.
Dream (according to Ozhegov’s dictionary): an object of desires, aspirations, something created by the imagination, mentally imagined.
What does it mean to dream? (According to Dahl's dictionary.)
Play with your imagination, indulge in the play of thoughts, imagine, think, imagine something that is not in the present; It’s nice to think, to think about the impossible.
Some people are madly fond of imagining before going to bed, while others indulge in the play of thoughts all the time. And there are those who have forbidden themselves to play with their imagination.
Every person has his own dream. Someone wants a world without wars, someone dreams of a great feat, someone dreams of love, children, a home, and someone dreams of a plate of hot soup.
And every dream has the right to exist. Because a dream comes to us so that we can realize it. And implement it exactly in this period of time. Because at every age we have our own dreams and our own aspirations.
✔ Let's talk about those who have no dreams, no tasks and no goals.
There are people who dream a lot and often, but do nothing to realize their imaginary thoughts. Others forced themselves to stop dreaming. They forbade themselves this only because life (in their opinion) did not give them what they dreamed of.
When we forbid ourselves to desire, we stop striving for the object of desire, it begins to seem to us that we have no dreams.
But there is always a dream, and moreover, every person has one! Perhaps it is not expressed, not defined, not outlined. It also happens that a person is simply afraid to let it out into the world. Why is he afraid? He is afraid because he does not realize whether this is his dream, and whether he really wants to make it come true, and most importantly, he is afraid that he will have to strive for the dream. FEAR of ACTION stops a person! FEAR of MISTAKE. And many more fears. Some find a lot of reasons why they cannot realize their dream, others find a lot of evidence why nothing will work out. It is difficult for some people to overcome their beliefs.
But, in spite of everything, it is the dream that allows us to live, and everyone strives (sometimes subconsciously) for their dream.
The strongest motivation for action is THAT SAME DREAM! If it’s yours, if it doesn’t let you sleep peacefully, if this dream constantly reminds you of itself, then it’s really YOUR dream! And only YOU can make it happen.
Will it be difficult? YES!
Will there be mistakes? YES!
Everything will happen! But if your dream shines for you like the moon at night, you can be sure that if you don’t give up, you will definitely achieve it!
✔Next for those who believe that they DO NOT HAVE A DREAM.
How to define your dream, how to find it?
To do this, it is advisable to first write down all your desires. The smallest, most accessible.
This could be the purchase of anything, or desires related to leisure or work (career). Everything you want for today.
And you need to start with these small desires. If your dream is hidden too far, it will appear in front of you when you are ready to accept it. Now get busy with your little aspirations. Start implementing them one at a time. One small step a day is better than none at all!
When you understand that it is not difficult to realize a small desire, a larger one can be born. If you realize a greater desire, your realest dream will come to you!
And most importantly, constantly ask yourself the question: “What has been done today? What steps have been taken to achieve my dreams?”
Will there be a dream in your life, will you make it come true - IT DEPENDS only on you!
So, summarizing the article, I highlight the main thing.
- Your dream will come true if you strive for it
- Dreams must be written down
- You need to define YOUR dreams (those that will motivate you)
- Start making your dreams come true with easier ones so that you can believe (if you don’t have faith) that your dream can come true!
- Check periodically to make sure you are going in the right direction.
