If your child is silent, dreamy, touchy, does not like crowded companies and most prefers to be alone, don’t call him a beech, don’t try to stir him up and force him to be more sociable. IN in this case With high probability it can be argued that you are raising an introvert who needs a certain approach.
How to tell if a child is an introvert
In psychology, it is customary to divide people into extroverts (sociable, inclined to charge their internal batteries from external sources) and introverts (closed, restoring strength at the expense of their own resources). This classification according to personality types was introduced by psychologists Carl Gustav Jung and Hans Jurgen Eysenck.
So, introverts. They show their characteristics in early childhood. Watch your child. A child is an introvert if:
· Focused on his inner world, withdraws into himself and is able to silently think about something for hours, dream about something
· Does not like to be in society, avoids large companies, does not make many friends
Prefers to be alone, locks himself in his own room, builds walls out of pillows or builds small cozy houses out of books and boxes to hide in later
· Vulnerable, touchy, sentimental, sensitive to the mood of others and general atmosphere in the house
· Passive, does not like to be constantly on the move, avoids noisy active games
· Frequently displays self-doubt in his abilities
Does not share experiences, does not discuss what happened, does not show emotions
· Prone to creative activity: draws, sculpts, makes crafts
It is generally accepted that since introverts are closed and unsociable, they do not need communication. This is wrong. Everyone - social element. It is contact with other people that allows us to gain information about the world around us, adopt other people’s experiences and share our own. It is especially important for a child to feel like a part of society, because his learning process is initial stage. Often, a child’s behavior model is formed in the process of communication with peers or with adults: parents, educators, teachers.
Introverted children need contact with others just as much as extroverts. The only question is how intense and long-lasting this communication will be.
It is important to realize that an introvert's long stay in social group leads to his internal resources are running out. The child feels discomfort, withdraws even more into himself, seeks solitude, pulls his head into his shoulders and avoids engaging in dialogue in every possible way. As already mentioned, introverts recharge their de-energized batteries using internal resources. This means that the child needs to be left alone for a while, given the opportunity to put his thoughts and feelings in order. For some, it is enough to sleep to restore energy resources, for others it is enough to read, solve a puzzle, take a walk alone, or just sit in silence with your eyes closed.
If an introverted child does not make contact, frowns, refuses to talk, then the best thing adults can do is to leave their son or daughter alone for a while. You can appease a little silent person with praise. Introverts are very responsive to support and approval from others. Start a conversation with kind words addressed to the child, a smile will immediately shine on his face.
Some parents worry that their withdrawn baby doesn't like to be hugged, patted on the head, or held by the hand. Anxious adults believe that in this way the child shows his indifference to loved ones. Actually this is not true. Introverts definitely need body contact. But, as with communication, sometimes they need a break. If a child withdraws, it means he is experiencing some discomfort and wants to distance himself from others. Don't worry, he'll definitely hug you later when he's ready.
Introverts generally tend to isolate themselves from people. They conquer a personal corner in space and really want no one to suddenly invade their world. That’s why some children hang a sign on the door of their room that says “Do not enter!” and are also very offended when someone takes their favorite chair in the living room.
“So many conventions! What if, by observing them, we indulge our whims,” parents will doubt. Indeed, the line between whim and need, determined by the characteristics of a personality type, is very thin. Patient, observant and wise parents can solve it.
1. Give your introverted child time alone during the day.
He is active social life V kindergarten or at school, so at home do not pester your offspring with questions if he is “all in himself” and does not want to communicate. An introvert needs at least an hour to be alone with his thoughts, analyze the events of the day in the evening or draw up an action plan in the morning. Do not suggest that your child do something useful thing: Read, sweep the hallway floor, or study for a math test. He will do all this, but only after enjoying his solitude.
2. Don’t rush your child, give him time to make a decision
Typically, introverted children are slower than extroverted children. They are more reasonable and prefer to measure several times and only then cut. The more you rush your child, the more likely he is to make a mistake or, worse, lose interest in the task at hand.
3. Do not violate the boundaries of the child’s personal space
Your offspring must certainly have a place in which he is comfortable, safe, and cozy. There he can retire, indulge in reflection, create, read, play or do homework. Create a small children's office on a heated loggia or “build” a mini-house in the nursery or living room, designed for one resident.
It is very important that the child should know that adults will under no circumstances invade his personal space, will not begin to put things in order and throw away unnecessary things.
4. Focus on individual lessons
Introverts often find it difficult to concentrate, remember information, or solve a problem when surrounded by large quantity of people. That's why group classes not always effective. Hire a tutor for your child or tutor him yourself.
5. Take breaks
They are very important in any activity of an introvert, be it play, study or home routine. During breaks, he restores his vitality, gains strength, and organizes the information received.
It is no secret that many parents, wittingly or unwittingly, try to mold their child into a likeness of themselves. If you - talkative person, who loves feasts, noisy company and public events, then, of course, you will be surprised and even upset that the child strives to spend more time alone with himself. If your baby likes to play alone for hours, has few friends and is so closed that he doesn’t always want to discuss how his day went even with his parents, it may be too early to sound the alarm. Maybe he's just introvert, requiring special attention.
Is your child an introvert?
It's not easy being an introvert in a world of extroverts, especially if you're a child. And it’s even harder if no adult in the child’s life recognizes it. This happens not only when parents are extroverts, but also when parents are introverts who have not understood their introverted nature. Many people misunderstand what it really means to be an introvert. This does not mean being shy, socially anxious, or socially retarded, or antisocial, although some of these characteristics may arise if an introvert is pressured into acting like an extrovert.
It's very simple: introversion is an explanation of where a person gets his energy - from loneliness or from the company of other people. Those who recharge their batteries through solitude are introverts. Those who need people to recharge are extroverts. These differences are hardwired into us and affect everything: how our memories work; on how we process information; on what we focus on, on how we communicate; on how we use our body. Introverts, according to Carl Jung, interested in " inner life mind." Jung ( introvert) believed that we are born with specific advantages that, for the most part, do not change as we age.
Experiments show that introverts make up only 20-30% of the population, so it's probably not surprising that they are misunderstood. More harder for parents, since children cannot say that they are introverts, they only believe that mom and dad will understand them. It's no surprise that many child prodigies are also introverts. To be obsessed with something, you need to have a strong, persistent and deep interest, and this is often a trait of introverts.
Signs that your child is an introvert:
He's very, very good at entertaining himself for long periods of time.
Seems exhausted after celebrations or social events. Requires rest.
He has one or two close friends and does not feel the need for more.
You should elicit information from him about how his day was or whether he had a good time with his friends.
He has a very highly developed sense of personal space and is bothered when boundaries are violated.
Your child is very individual.
He does not like to take part in group discussions or being called upon to answer.
Hates making mistakes in public places.
Loves his own company.
Doesn't understand the need to lead small talk.
Gets tired quickly large groups or crowds.
Refuses to attend large social events.
Please note: many introverts may actually feel quite good in big companies or cope with communication. Introversion is a spectrum ranging from those who have given clear preference loneliness, to those who need solitude just to recharge before venturing into the crowd once again. Signs of introversion can appear early in life, often in the first year. Introverted babies may be reluctant to be handled, become nervous about excessive attention in a store or park, or fuss when their personal space is violated.
Parents of introverted children have three important tasks:
1) They must understand and accept the children's need for solitude,
2) They must help the child understand his needs,
3) They should act as an advocate for their child in relationships with other adults or in other situations until the child has developed the skills to do so independently.
Introverts they reason and reflect a lot, recharge their batteries with solitude and peace. If they don't get enough exercise, their behavior, performance and internal state will suffer. They will not have the necessary energy to learn new things, take risks, explore, develop and thrive. In addition to time, introverts need physical space, somewhere they can hide and where no one will interrupt them or make demands on them while they recharge. This could be their own room, or if this is not possible, private areas in a shared room, a special cozy corner in the house, somewhere where the child feels safe.
Sometimes introverted children need their space so badly, and adults provide so little help, that they may end up physically defending that space, kicking and hitting other children. To ignorant adults it may seem like the fight is about nothing, but in fact the issue of one's own space is the essence of the conflict. It's important to remember that these are very real emotional needs. If they are not happy, the child loses the ability to develop effectively. But you can be sure that introverts have many advantages! They are self-motivated, reflective, deeply intelligent, quiet achievers, and great at communicating with people one-on-one. Introverts make excellent artists, scientists, psychologists, consultants, poets, writers, architects, mathematicians, historians, engineers, programmers, teachers and designers.
Some tips to help an introverted child:
* Give him enough time to be alone with himself.
* Respect his wishes to remain silent.
* Make sure he has a private place where he can hide if necessary.
* Teach his siblings and other relatives to understand and respect his need for solitude.
* Give him time, he must get used to new people and situations.
* Protect him from a world he may not accept, value him introverted traits, and help him see them as strengths.
In kindergarten, the child refuses to dance in circles and read poetry at a matinee; at school, he cannot quickly answer the teacher’s question, although he knows the answer perfectly well and answers without hesitation at home; he remains silent and withdraws in the presence of strangers, spends hours alone fiddling with a “boring” construction set or sitting with his head buried in a tablet, and at every opportunity he tries to hide out of sight. This behavior, in light of the more common and “socially approved”, extroverted behavior, seems at least strange, and for some mothers and fathers it even causes panic: “Is everything okay with our son or daughter?”
Psychologist Maria Barabanova notes: “In modern society It is common to be an extrovert - open, sociable, friendly and energetic. This is considered the “correct” type of behavior. Therefore, it is not surprising that we, adults, willy-nilly, get used to considering extroverted behavior as the only possible norm and we rejoice when we discover that the child fully corresponds to it. Or, on the contrary, we are upset, realizing that since childhood our child is “somehow different.”
Distinctive characteristics of an introverted child:
- WITH early age The baby does not need to be entertained: he copes well on his own, and is able to do without parental attention for quite a long time.
- The child does not feel the need for a large children's company, gets tired of noisy companies, but he nevertheless has one or two close friends.
- He is jealous of personal space and worries if someone unceremoniously invades his territory.
- The child does not like to attend social events and noisy holidays. Every time after going out, he looks exhausted or, on the contrary, overexcited, he needs time to come to his senses.
- Returning from school, he is in no hurry to tell his parents how his day went; sometimes information has to be literally pulled out of him.
- An introverted child thinks for a long time before speaking. At the same time, if he likes the interlocutor and the topic is interesting, he can talk for quite a long time and with great pleasure.
- Group discussions are quite difficult for him; he does not like to answer in front of the whole class. It's obvious that public performance- not his strong point.
- The child prefers activities that require concentration and attention: putting together puzzles, drawing, designing, computer games.
Did you recognize your child? We can only congratulate you, because introverts have many wonderful character traits! For example, they are assiduous, calm, deeply intellectual, thoughtful and often endowed with creative abilities. Introverted children grow into wonderful poets and writers, artists and architects, mathematicians and psychologists, engineers and programmers, designers and teachers. But, in order for this to happen, parents need, firstly, to accept the nature of their child and the characteristics of his temperament (and this is a serious independent work), and secondly, learn how to interact with it correctly.
How to communicate with an introvert
Loner or shy?
Very often, introverted children are considered simply shy. This is wrong! Although it is true that they are often quiet and timid, shyness is not at all mandatory feature their character. The main difference is that an introvert feels quite comfortable alone. The basic recipe for communicating with shy child- increasing his self-esteem. Give up inflated demands, do not focus on failures, instead help him discover his character strengths, find interesting activity- and to adolescence the student will certainly be able to overcome his shyness.
10 steps forward: how to communicate with an introvert
- Personal space. A little introvert needs his own corner to retire there and recharge his “batteries.” Separate room — perfect option, but, if living conditions do not allow for such luxury, give the child at least a personal work corner and a place to relax (you can fence it off with a screen, shelving, or in some other way to zone the space).
- Do not disturb! Make an ironclad rule: when the child is “in the house”, don’t set foot on its territory, well, perhaps with highest resolution little master. You can come up with a special “stop signal” together, like a hotel sign “Do not disturb!” or road sign“brick” - with its help the child will simply be without unnecessary words explain to others that he needs temporary privacy.
- Under protection. Of course, it is difficult to ensure the child’s privacy on the playground, in the classroom, or in the company of children. However, a little introvert needs integrity of boundaries even there. A harmless fuss or an awkward touch can cause dissatisfaction or even a more violent reaction - the child may cry or kick the “offender.” In such a situation, you simply must take on the role of your own child’s lawyer and explain to the parents of the innocent victim or the teacher what caused the aggressive behavior your child.
- Time to think. Talk to teachers about features nervous system their student. Explain that it is not easy for your child to answer questions quickly, especially if other children are watching. The teacher will most likely be able to find the optimal form of testing the child’s knowledge - for example, give him time to think about the answer or come up with a written task.
- Stand in a circle! Do not insist that your child immediately join in the noisy games of his peers. Let him observe what is happening for a while. When he understands what is happening and understands the rules of the game, he himself will join the company.
- Holiday! Holiday! Of course, every parent wants their child to receive main role in a school play or played the piano during a dinner party at home. In the case of an introverted child, embarrassment is possible: the artist may suddenly freeze in a column on stage or quickly disappear into his room, leaving grandparents unattended. Invite the teacher to use the child’s strengths - for example, he could take part in the design of the play or finalize the script, or be a junior director. And relatives will listen to the prepared performance later - one on one with the musician.
- A break is required. If you notice that your child has become uncomfortable during a noisy celebration, quietly take him to another room or offer to sit in silence, wander back and forth, or go out to the Fresh air- this will help him come to his senses. Most likely, he won’t mind coming back for the holiday later.
- A little bit of good stuff. Too many impressions, even positive ones, is a real test for an introvert. Try not to plan too many activities, especially large ones, in one day. A little introvert simply cannot cope with the program “cinema - attractions - cafes - going to grandma’s”, so reduce the list by at least half.
- At your own pace. Don’t rush the introvert, don’t demand from him an immediate report “about his experiences” at an exhibition, in the theater or on a walk, don’t ask the question “how are you at school?” in the first minutes after his appearance at home. He will tell you everything himself when he spends internal work above my own impressions and mentally make a plan for the message. If you see that your child is passionate about something, put off asking questions.
- The word is not a sparrow. Introverted children are more prone to shyness than their peers, and teasing or judgment from others can seriously hurt them. Be careful, try not to hurt your child’s feelings - for example, don’t constantly compare him with a smart and lively classmate or reward him offensive nicknames like “kopusha” and repeat: “Well, how long should we wait for you?”
It just so happens: when we are told that this or that person is an introvert, we certainly imagine an unsociable and completely taciturn quiet person.
Such qualities are very often endowed with cartoon characters, contrasting them with other heroes, whose irrepressible energy involves everyone in a wide variety of situations.
Such antonymous pairs, for example, are the infinitely sad donkey Eeyore and the cheerful Winnie the Pooh, the thrifty housewife Bear and the carefree, restless Masha, the donkey who never stops talking for a minute and the completely unfriendly Shrek.
In fact, the listed character traits are not directly related to introversion or extroversion; these terms only explain where does a person get energy to recharge?.
Both introverts and extroverts can communicate with other people absolutely freely and with pleasure. The only difference is that an introvert periodically gets tired of communication and happily takes on quieter activities that require solitude, unlike an extrovert, for whom communication is a source of energy, without which his batteries will quickly run out.
If your child, after playing a little and talking with guests, strives to retire to his room or quickly put the guests out the door, and after a day at school returns home with a squeezed lemon, don’t be angry and don’t worry that something happened to him - just Your child needs peace and quiet to relax.
Due to the large number of events happening around him, his energy has dried up and he needs to replenish it. A the best remedy recharging for him is a break, during which he can be alone with himself and do what he loves. This could be, for example, drawing, designing or reading a book.
It is very important to understand this and give the child the opportunity to be in peace. After some time, you will see that he is again ready for new achievements.
The modern world is a competitive world, and it requires people certain qualities: self-confidence, perseverance, moving forward (those who stand on the sidelines, alas, will remain on the sidelines). Many parents worry that their quiet and modest child, due to his personality traits, will not be able to succeed in the noisy world of extroverts, and begin to try to “stir up” them, pushing them forward: “Come on do it,” “Come on, go - now you’ll miss everything,” depriving their ability to recharge.
Now ask yourself a question: will speed help you get to the right place in a car whose battery is completely dead? Same here: Forcing your child to desperately move forward without giving him the opportunity to recharge will not achieve the desired result..
What to do? How then can you help your child achieve success?
The main thing you need to know is that if all children have parents important, then for an introverted child this statement is doubly true.
Your introvert needs you.
LEARNING TOGETHER WITH AN INTROVERT
It's time to delve into biology. But we won’t go into tedious terms, because you need to understand one thing: the differences between introverts and extroverts are due to the peculiarities of the functioning of their nervous system.
Their brain uses different parts of the nervous system, giving the introvert a signal "rest and digest", and for the extrovert - "action or freeze".
Don't take it personally or be upset if your child wants to spend time alone. Anything that pulls a child out of his inner world, be it school, communicating with peers, or even getting used to a new schedule, exhausts him.
Consider yourself lucky if your child is willing to tell you about important events in the evening or the next day. After all, some take days or even weeks to “ripe.”
If you really want to help your child on his path to learning, pay attention to the following things: when does he experience a surge of energy and when does he experience a decline and which subject is most difficult for him and which is easier? Don’t set too strict a time frame, don’t rush your child – this will only make him more confused.
Be prepared for your child to:
- may ask you to sit with him while he does his homework;
- will want to have a snack and be alone first;
- will cope with the task better if interrupted from time to time;
- wants to rest first
The child should do his homework in a calm environment, where nothing distracts him, and everything necessary materials at hand. Also, the child should have the opportunity to have a snack at any time. If your child doesn't want to do his homework, ask what happened and how you can help him.
Ask leading questions to help your child understand a topic further, but don't do all the work for them.
Help your child make positive words internal monologues: "I can do it", "I'll take it step by step", “Today I know more than yesterday”.
HOW TO BE A TEACHER?
It is important to talk to your teacher about your child's introversion.
This will help teachers correctly interpret his behavior.
Teachers, in turn, should not mistakenly assume that introverted children rarely speak up in class because they are not interested or do not know the material. While throwing all your strength into the fight against noisy and restless extroverts, do not forget about the quiet and inconspicuous introverts, because at this time they are actually very attentive and focused, they simply prefer to listen and observe more, rather than actively participate.
Be sure to praise your child when he shows even a little activity - this encourages him and gives him strength and self-confidence. It will be a real success if you can create an atmosphere in the team in which you will support each group member together.
Make every effort to make your child feel heard.
It is also important for the teacher to remember: introverts love to explore any subject deeply and do it very conscientiously. They are very diligent and do the lion's share of all the work in the group. You can always rely on such children and they can become excellent helpers for you in completing any task.
SENSITIVITY, LOVE AND FAITH IN THE CHILD
In order for an introverted child to truly blossom, constant, complementary work from both the teacher and the parent is necessary.
Don't forget what outstanding personalities became representatives of the world of introverts. Among them are Frederic Chopin, Isaac Newton, Albert Einstein, Arthur Schopenhauer, Steven Spielberg, JK Rowling, Mother Teresa, Mahatma Gandhi and many other talented people.
Believe in your child, be close to him and always remember: every person is unique. There are no pure introverts and extroverts, there is your child who grows, changes, perceives and gives. Listen, watch and be sensitive to your loved ones.
His parents are trying with all their might to “correct” him, to make him sociable, cheerful, and assertive. This big mistake, says psychotherapist Marty Laney, a leading expert on introversion in the United States. Marti Laney is an introvert herself, and a mother and grandmother of introverts. She knows how difficult it is for such people in a world of extroverts. But is it necessary to break a child in an attempt to remake him?
Marty Laney is convinced that this will bring nothing but suffering and feelings of inferiority to children. In his book “My Child is an Introvert. How to identify hidden talents and prepare for life in society" (Mann, Ivanov and Ferber, 2014), she suggests that parents think about strengths an introverted child and rely on them in his upbringing.
1. Introverts have a rich inner life.
Introverted children know very well that they have their own inner world. He is distinguished by his extraordinary liveliness. Instead of looking to others, they rely on internal resources and are guided by own ideas. Therefore, they are resistant to pressure from outside and rarely succumb to herd mentality. They always want to get to the bottom of things.
Self-absorption is the source of their strength, but it can also lead to feelings of loneliness. They strive to know not only themselves, but also other people, to understand what motivates them.
What to do: Parents need to help little introverts learn to express thoughts and master the art of communication. Without contact with like-minded people - children or adults - introverted children begin to think that others are completely alien and unfamiliar with their experiences, that an insurmountable wall separates them from those around them. We must protect the inner world of the little introvert. Share your thoughts and feelings with him, ask what he thinks about them, but do not rush to answer, give him time to think.
2. An introvert can “smell the roses”
In other words, introverted children know how to live and enjoy the present, appreciate little things, details that extroverts pass by without turning their heads. Often these children don’t even need to leave home to find something interesting to do. They enjoy the leisurely pace of life and give great importance simple joys.
What to do: Don't laugh at your little introvert's ability to enjoy a leisurely walk, building a tent out of a blanket, or sitting at home coloring pictures. Find time, take a break from the hustle and bustle and share a moment of calm with your child. Our little introverts remind us that life is made up of moments like these.
3. Introverted children love to learn.
They have a genuine thirst for knowledge, but it is often difficult for them to show this at school, surrounded by noisy, active classmates. It will be easier for them at a university: the education system there is more consistent with the character of an introvert. Many introverts write well and often keep a diary in secret from others.
They usually get great pleasure from reading. They enjoy reading aloud to themselves or listening to someone read to them. They lead incessantly internal dialogue and constantly compare the information they have learned with their opinions and their reactions.
What to do: Encourage and develop his interest in learning. Without a constant flow of information to stimulate thinking, a child may become bored and even depressed. Enroll him in the library, take him there regularly, and don't rush him when choosing books.
Discuss books and films with him. Let him understand that this is not just entertainment, but a means of understanding the world around him and connecting with it. Help him find books and films that suit his interests.
4. Introverts are able to think outside the box.
Introverted children are good at solving problems creatively. They usually listen and absorb all the information, think about it for a while and finally give an unexpected, but usually reasonable answer. Children analyze circumstances in the context of their individual thinking, often expressing fresh and original ideas.
What to do: encourage creative thinking baby. Ask his opinion on various issues. Consult him regarding problems that you yourself face. If he's in trouble, look for him creative path To non-standard solution. For example, ask your child to draw a picture, write a story, poem, play or song about something that worries him. Let him see that the creative process itself can lead to interesting results.
5. Introverts are creative people
Creation - close relative out-of-the-box thinking. It’s not for nothing that there are many writers, artists, dancers, actors, and musicians among introverts. Creative person perceives the world as a huge mosaic. By putting its elements together in his own way, he creates something new and unusual.
What to do: encourage Creative skills your little introvert. Buy him paints, pencils, plasticine and don’t be afraid of dirt. Let your child have musical instruments - don't be afraid of noise. Let the child fantasize - do not criticize him. Invite him to describe his most powerful creative experiences. Try to get him interested in dancing, singing, playing the musical instrument or in amateur theater. Take him to museums, concerts, plays, flea markets - let him watch as much as possible more ways creative self-expression.
6. Introverts have high emotional intelligence
They are good at understanding their feelings. But parents do not always understand this, because emotional reactions such children are delayed. When some event occurs, an introverted child outwardly appears calm, cold, and even indecisive. In fact, he takes a break to sort out his thoughts and feelings, understand the essence of the event, think about and work out the desired reaction taking into account possible consequences.
Introverts develop the ability to formulate moral judgments early and can be wise beyond their years. Understanding their feelings, they are usually capable of empathy.
What to do: appreciate them developed feelings. Remember that the areas of the brain responsible for emotions are the last to be formed - communication skills are honed and polished over the years. If he asks about your feelings, answer honestly so as not to distort his perception. If he is kind and generous to others, praise him, let him understand that empathy and compassion are a good trait.
7. Introverts are natural conversationalists
Yes, a child who is taciturn at school and at children's parties can turn out to be a master of meaningful conversation. Introverts are natural listeners. They are reliable and straightforward, you can completely trust them. They ask important questions, do not interrupt the interlocutor, make insightful remarks, remember what is said to others and understand hints without a word.
What to do: Praise their ability to listen, ask questions, and carry on a conversation. Emphasize the difference between small talk and honest, frank conversation - the basis true friendship. Help your little introvert find friends who can discuss important topics with him.
8. Introverts are not bored when alone
They love and value privacy. They don't need active actions in order to feel busy. Introverted children have amazing ability to concentration and sometimes simply disconnect from outside world, plunging headlong into some matter.
What to do: Let your little introvert know that the ability to not be bored by yourself is an invaluable gift. Such a person is truly free, he does not depend on others. This is the foundation of many professions in which introverts can be successful. Teach your child to evaluate and distribute free time. If he wants to be alone when there is fun around him, reassure him and tell him that he can see his friends another time.
9. Introverts are modest
Many children today are involved in “vulgar competition” - in sports, in all kinds of TV shows, beauty contests. This is due to parental vanity, the influence of television and show business. Introverted children do not participate in the struggle of ambition. They are not attracted to worldly fame and spotlights. They prefer the roles of spectators rather than actors. From excessive interest in their person, they may even experience physical discomfort. Although in the right environment and in the right mood, they are happy to receive other people's attention.
What to do: Respect the little introvert’s reluctance to be the center of attention. You can remind him that there is nothing wrong with not wanting to expose yourself. But it should be remembered that such children also love it when they pay tribute to their achievements, especially when they themselves consider the success deserved. But, paradoxically, modesty has a positive effect on their self-confidence.
10. Introverts tend to have healthy habits.
Extroverts often find themselves unable to slow down the frantic pace of life and regain strength. Introverts don't burn out as quickly because they prefer to take their time. This is one of the reasons for their longevity. Character traits of introverts such as reliability, consistency, perseverance, flexibility, honesty, lack of vanity, and adherence to the “think first, act later” principle help them maintain health.
What to do: support the little introvert's desire to follow healthy habits. Introverted children often go to bed early, and such sleep helps to restore strength. They willingly follow rules healthy eating, if they understand what their meaning is. Perhaps they want to eat more often, but little by little, in this case, be flexible and meet them halfway.
11. Introverts know how to make friends
They are loyal, caring, compassionate, understanding. Excellent listeners. This makes them truly priceless friends. It is not easy for an introvert to get along with another person, but if this happens, the relationship will be strong and long-lasting. They are not prone to conflicts and rivalries that destroy children's friendships. They have few friends, but the more they value them.
