We all grew up on fairy tales. These wonderful stories, in which magic was intertwined with intrigue, good always defeated evil, numerous adventures and terrible dangers awaited the heroes, they excited our imagination and made our dreams more colorful and exciting. As a child, our parents or grandparents read to us, and now many of us read fairy tales to our own children.
The importance of teamwork
Fairy tales help relieve children's anxiety, feelings that are often the source of their behavior. However, many adults seem to believe that scaring children into behaving is more effective. In the story "Two Brothers," the Brothers Grimm, the animals that accompany each brother on their adventures, work together and, when they do, protect their owners from great dangers. This shows that collaboration leads us further and helps us live successfully.
Create with kindness begets kindly children
Fairy tales often depict creatures whose heads resemble those of animals, but with human body. This suggests that something negative is happening to the head, to the spirit. Parents who do not know or cannot control their emotions and who act out of impatience and anger end up creating insecure and maladaptive children.
Fairy tales for babies are not just a good time or a way to put children to sleep, they are a very effective and yet unobtrusive method of teaching. The benefits of reading are known to everyone, and this applies not only to some educational materials, but also the simplest invented stories. A daily bedtime story for a child can do wonders for their development. He will become more attentive and diligent, because listening to the story to the end requires a lot of patience. Lexicon will be replenished with a wide variety of new words and speech patterns. He will learn to reflect and think about the consequences of his own and others' actions. Not to mention how fairy tales develop imagination, relax and even motivate. Children who learn to love fairy tales in childhood will undoubtedly carry this love of books into adulthood.
The importance of education for autonomy
If parents are kind, patient, safe and positive, they will raise their children with the same principles. “Do not think about your son, who is evil; they do not receive from anger and impatience of his coming.” To be independent, we must be independent. Child to become autonomous and define his own own way, must have the space and incentive to listen and interpret their own feelings and, with the continued support of his parents, find the courage to leave the "safety of the nest" and face the world with him.
What do fairy tales teach?
Fairy tales give a child a first impression of the world and human relationships. Yes, we're talking about about imaginary worlds and imaginary people, but the situations in which the heroes of children's stories find themselves invariably carry some kind of morality or clear example for the younger generation. The fact that good always triumphs over evil is perhaps the worst cliché for adults, but for children it is the only correct option. They often associate themselves with heroes not only of books, but also of comics, who tirelessly save people and fight evil. Many of our ideals and moral values come from fairy tales that taught us from a young age what is good and what is bad:
But independence also comes with the responsibility of fear of failure and suffering. When these consequences are seen naturally as a very real and concrete possibility, the child learns to develop defense mechanisms and the resilience to persist in his goals even if he finds some thorns along the way.
As the story of Cinderella tells, appearance says nothing about the value of a person. If we are true to ourselves, we will defeat those who are not. If we keep our positive experiences and teachings alive and are confident and true to ourselves, we will eventually overcome difficulties and triumph over those who do not want us. If she had not been forced to be "Cinderella", she would never have been able to meet her prince.
- Kindness, justice, generosity, selflessness - the qualities of a real hero. Children who want to be like their favorite hero will strive to develop good qualities in themselves
- Villains sooner or later have to answer for their actions. In fairy tales, villains are always deceitful, cowardly and cruel people. And always, without exception, their atrocities come to an end. Simply put, they show children how not to behave and that bad behavior results in punishment.
- For the heroes, too, not everything comes easy right away; they have to overcome difficulties along the way.. The fact that even mighty heroes and princesses have to work and make a lot of effort to win teaches children that nothing in life is given for nothing, that hard work is needed even for those who are naturally talented and strong
- Anyone can become a hero. Often in fairy tales, the hero becomes a good-natured and simple-minded guy, whom everyone made fun of at the beginning. People who are often underestimated can also triumph, the main thing is not to pay attention to ridicule and not allow others to lower themselves and their abilities.
- Strength isn't everything. Of course, everyone loves fairy tales about heroes who can uproot a hundred-year-old oak tree with one hand and slay a dragon with the other. But physical superiority does not always help find a way out of the situation. It is important to be quick-witted and smart to be able to outsmart your enemies.
- It's not always possible to cope alone. The ability to make friends, help each other and work in a team is one of the most important knowledge that a growing member of society needs. Whatever one may say, a person constantly has to communicate with someone, work with someone and get along, which is why fairy tales so often focus on teamwork, letting the child understand that, no matter how strong main character, he also needs help and support from friends.
What fairy tales are better to read?
It's never too early to start reading fairy tales to your child. Fairy tales for children vary by age, but it’s best to start as early as possible. Of course, at the very beginning, the newborn will not understand the meaning of your words, so it doesn’t matter what kind of fairy tales you read to him. A mother's or father's soothing voice will help the child relax. Until one year of age, you can recite or hum little rhymes, songs, and show your baby color pictures. Then go to the simplest classic stories like everyone’s favorite “Kolobok”. Stories about animals with beautiful illustrations are best.
Fighting fear to overcome it
Fairy tales also teach us that fighting fears is The best way overcoming them. All the heroes face great dangers and undertake great journeys to finally win. They slay dragons, fight giants and monsters with supernatural powers, hide their face, fake and envious characters or gain courage to fight when others rely on this strength to fight evil and survive.
But if throughout their journeys the heroes have doubts, uncertainty and longing, why shouldn’t they be theirs? Self-knowledge, courage, hope and focused work are ways to overcome fear. It may require more or less struggle, but in the end, the effort is always rewarded.
After 3 years, you can already bring people into the picture, how they interact with animals, with each other. At the same time, the plot still remains simple and understandable with predictability. happy ending. From the age of 4, you can already diversify your stories a little. Bring a little magic and wonder, show the child new worlds where everything is different. And from the age of 5, move on to more complex and exciting fairy tales with adventures, heroes, wizards and other fairy tales.
Bibliography: Psychoanalysis of Fairy Tales, Bruno Bettelheim. Elina Van Dam Signature image of Simon Biles, a 19-year-old American gymnast who impressed viewers on Olympic Games. The book uses fairy tale illustrations and storytelling to tell the stories of hundreds of inspiring women around the world. The idea is to teach girls to rebel against gender stereotypes and follow their dreams.
Since the launch, families have shared their children's experiences with the rebellious girls in in social networks. Brynn is 5 years old and lives in Chicago, USA. She was captivated by the story of Manal al-Sharif, the activist known as "the woman who dared to drive" after defying the ban Saudi Arabia for driving Vehicle.
If you run out of books or collections, you can always find new fairy tales for children on the Internet. Or try to come up with a story together.
Remember that fairy tales are a great opportunity to spend time with your children. Don't brush them off if they ask to read a story, take the time and chances are you'll have as much fun as your little ones.
All adults read fairy tales to their children. And it's very correct solution, since it is with the help of fairy tales that it is easiest to explain to a child what is good and what is bad. Classic children's stories are often funny and educational, with lots of colorful illustrations, and can be purchased at any bookstore.
Brynn kept asking me, "So they said she couldn't drive?" She then smiled evilly and said, "But she drove," his mother Patti said. Brynn was so inspired by the story that she copied a photo of her that her mother sent to Manal.
But there are also less famous women, including Grace Hopper, a pioneering American computer scientist, and journalist-turned-weightlifter Amna Al-Haddad of the United United Arab Emirates. "Children's books haven't changed since we were kids: men are still the protagonists and women are still the princesses."
It is not surprising that adults also like fairy tales, and they happily spend time reading books, plunging headlong into the world of fairy tales. Below are the most popular classic fairy tales that each of us probably read in childhood:
1. "The Ugly Duckling"
"The Ugly Duckling" is a fairy tale written by a Danish novelist and poet, an author worldwide famous fairy tales for children and adults, by Hans Christian Anderson (1805-1875). The fairy tale tells about a little duckling who is constantly being bullied by the other inhabitants of the poultry yard. But this does not last long, as over time the little duckling turns into a beautiful white swan- the most beautiful bird among all. This fairy tale is liked by both adults and children, because it shows personal growth, transformation, change into beautiful, more better side.The tale, along with three other works by Anderson, was first published on November 11, 1843 in Copenhagen, Denmark, and was very critically received by the public. However, the fairy tale was immediately included in the repertoire opera house, a musical was staged based on the fairy tale, and an animated film was also shot. This work does not belong to folklore or folk tales, since it was invented by Hans Christian Anderson.
Differences in the representation of men and women in children's books have long been a problem. Books and illustrations have crucial to determine how children see and understand the world. Evidence of this would be that at the age of 6, girls appear to be less talented or "bright" than boys, according to a survey published in January this year.
The study suggests that both girls and boys of this age tend to identify with "very, very smart" characters who are male. “If all children read that princesses have to wait to be rescued by a prince, the message they learn is that women are not as valuable as men, that we are not equal,” Favilli said.
This is one of those fairy tales, after reading which we understand that we are not what we seem at first glance. We are all different, we are all different from each other, but it is one thing to know that you are not like the others, and another thing to be surprised at your own, unexpected, wonderful transformation. Each of us must learn to forgive ourselves for past mistakes, learn to change for the better and strive for self-development and self-knowledge.
The authors are not the first to address the issue of gender with children. Sabicon's princess, Babette Cole, is another example of a history of standards being flouted, according to education specialist Gemma Moss. But Favilli and Cavallo believe the emphasis on rebellious women who challenge social norms V real life, gives important children who usually only read about girls' science fiction.
“Historically, women's achievements have declined,” Favilli says. The term "rebellious" has negative connotations in all cultures and is generally considered bad when associated with women. Our message is that it is acceptable and even healthy for women to break the rules.
2. "The Boy Who Cried Wolf"
Entertainment for the boy, the main character of this fairy tale, was to lie to people from his village about a wolf who was supposedly going to eat the flock of sheep that the boy was herding. He shouted: “Wolf!”, but in fact there was no wolf when people from the village came to the rescue. The boy was amused by this situation and laughed at those who came to his aid. It so happened that one day a wolf finally came to profit from a flock of sheep. When the boy began to call for help, no one from the village paid attention to this, since everyone decided that the boy was lying again. Ultimately, he lost all his sheep. The moral of the story is: Never break people's trust, as it is sometimes very difficult to restore it.
3. “Thumbelina”
The fairy tale "Thumbelina" (Danish: Tommelise), written by Hans Christian Anderson, was first published on December 16, 1835 by K.A. Reitzel in Copenhagen, Denmark. Together with the fairy tales “The Bad Boy” and “Sputnik,” “Thumbelina” was included in the second collection entitled “Fairy Tales Told for Children.” In his fairy tale, the author talks about the adventures of a tiny girl, Thumbelina, about her acquaintance with a family of toads, a cockchafer, and her marriage to a mole. Thumbelina goes through a lot of tests and at the end of the fairy tale she marries the king of flower elves, who was as small as Thumbelina herself. This fairy tale is one of the most famous in the world. Children love to read about the adventures of a little girl and her difficult journey. With his fairy tale, the author wanted to convey to us that the most important thing is not what awaits you at the end of your journey, but what happens to you during the journey.
"I wrote a dedication to Tully saying he always rises up," says Silverman. Silverman says his son enjoys stories. This is very important because men need to see that women need to use their skills and follow their dreams for them to progress as much as they do - this does not mean that women are better than men.
Don't judge people by their appearance
When listening to fairy tales, children experience with their characters all the adventures, a feeling of deep anxiety in overcoming dangers and the joy of overcoming obstacles. In a fantasy world, they test courage, endurance, loyalty and love of goodness, all of which they will later need.
4. "Elves and the Shoemaker"
Always be friendly and kind! Remember to say “Thank you” and truly be grateful. These are the main tips that the Brothers Grimm fairy tale “The Elves and the Shoemaker” gives us. Fairy-tale elves helped the shoemaker make very beautiful shoes, which were madly loved by many wealthy people. Ultimately, the Shoemaker became very rich by selling wonderful pairs of shoes to the townspeople, but he did not become arrogant and always said words of gratitude and was very respectful of the little creatures who once helped him bring his dreams to life. cherished dreams. Never forget to say “Thank you” to the people around you, and you will be rewarded for your respectful behavior hundreds of times more than you expected.
These intense and profound experiences fulfill the child's mental needs and help develop his personality. Children who do not have this opportunity may replace these missing "fantasy articles" in the future with other, often completely inappropriate means, such as drugs or other adrenaline-pumping experiences.
It is important to tell the child the story of the fairy tale. When reading a text, we can make a significant pause when we want to emphasize a fact more or pause the recitation, that if the child does not understand the text, we must explain this to him. We choose fairy tales depending on how old our child is, how long she can listen with interest, if she likes the child. For young children, stories are not suitable for continuation; the child needs to survive at the end of the day. If we read to a child at bedtime, we choose a story that will make the child uncomfortable and not become the nightmare of the story.
5. "Hansel and Gretel"
This is a fairy tale about young Hansel and Gretel, brother and sister, about their courage and how they overcame the spell of the old witch - the cannibal. But the lesson this tale conveys most likely applies to adults, namely fathers. The moral is this: a man, if he marries a second time, must take the choice of a second wife very seriously, especially if he has children from his first marriage; future wife should not want to get rid of children.
6. "Puss in Boots"
"Puss in Boots" is a very famous European fairy tale, which is about a cat with unusual abilities and a sharp mind. The cat, with the help of cunning and thanks to his business acumen, helps his poor and rootless owner get what he wanted: power, wealth and the hand of a princess. The tale was written at the end of the seventeenth century by the French author of fairy tales for children, Charles Perrault, a retired civil servant and also a member of French Academy. Another version of the tale, entitled "Cagliuso", was published in 1634 by Giovani Battista Basile. This version of the tale, in print and with illustrations, appeared two years before Perrault's version was published in 1967, included in a collection of eight tales entitled Histoires ou contes du temps passé. Charles Perrault's version was published by Barbin. The collection of fairy tales had big success, and the fairy tale about Puss in Boots remains one of the most beloved in the world to this day.
We clearly prefer classic fairy tales to modern ones. Some of today's authors change, if necessary, the images of the original characters. Evil loses its power because the witches working in the candy store, the dragon becomes a vegetarian, the symbol of wisdom of the know-it-all Grandfather comes with golden hair and wears a wig, the princess is freed from captivity and the prince, a representative of courage, is dedicated to philately. The characters' personalities will be fundamentally changed, their mystique will be removed. The creators thus deform the basic values that are important for perception moral qualities.
Everything can be obtained with the help of charm and a bit of cunning - this is the main idea that the author wanted to convey to the reader. The fairy tale tells about a cat that was inherited from his father by one poor young man. Thanks to his intelligence, dexterity and ingenuity, the cat helped his owner live a better, richer life. He found some youth clothes for him, helped impress the king, the cat even dealt with the cannibal giant, fooling him and turning him into a mouse.
The forces expressed in fairy tales are different for each person. When he changes, the child loses his orientation between good and evil, wisdom and ignorance, courage and cowardice. But for their healthy psychological development It is necessary to make these differences clear in order to know what honesty, courage, courage, selflessness, kindness, wisdom are, but also cunning, cowardice, laziness, dishonesty, stupidity or calculation. The child does not know what is right and what is wrong, the result is behavioral problems, the child has no one to “follow”.
7. "The King's New Clothes"
“The King’s New Dress” (Danish: Keiserens nye Klæder) is a short fairy tale by the Danish writer Hans Christian Andersen about two weavers who promised the King to sew for him a dress that would be invisible to people who do not match the King’s rank - people who are stupid, incompetent, poor . When the King walked in his new outfit among ordinary people, one a little boy declared: “The king is naked!” The tale has been translated into hundreds of languages around the world. When you need advice or an opinion on something, ask your child. The child will answer you honestly and tell you the truth without hiding. In fact, the King was not wearing any new dress, but the people on the street preferred to feign admiration for the new outfit, everyone was afraid of looking like a fool. Only one Small child sincerely told the truth.
We all come from childhood and understand perfectly well that children need fairy tales for a better worldview and development. The benefits of fairy tales are simply priceless, as a child is immersed in a world of magic and wonder, experiencing every situation, every adventure together with his favorite characters, this is what allows him to develop imagination and memory.
The child can perceive stories about the second year. We choose simpler lyrics, and since every child loves to repeat, give the story a few more times before we come up with a new one. Ideally, to tell stories about the head, the simple plot of the first fairy tales we structurally snap the tales can be shortened as necessary. The advantage is that the illustrations in the book are not always good and can influence the child's imagination, and the specific shape of the characters can be created according to their own imagination.
Some parents make up their own stories, be they classic characters or more realistic ones. They can tell the child reasonable and clear form specific attitudes and ideas of their teachers, a way to cope with difficulties or obstacles.
