Hello, dear readers! Ideal people doesn't exist and it's no secret. Such a person can only appear in our imagination. This helps you strive for better, grow and develop yourself. But perfect image has and reverse side- searching for flaws in a person, deviations from ideality. Today I will answer the question - what are the shortcomings of a person? Where do they come from and what to do with them.
What are disadvantages?
By Ozhegov a flaw is a flaw or irregularity in something. All people have flaws. And if you and I start compiling a list, it will not be possible to finish it. After all, for each person everything is very subjective and individual.
The problem with imperfections is that they are not objective. I agree, a group of people may consider too cheeky behavior a disadvantage, but there will definitely be a person to whom this will seem like a highlight and peculiarity of a person, he will not see anything bad in this quality.
Only you decide which qualities in a person are worthy of being called his minuses and which are his advantages. Only you decide which quality in yourself can be considered a minus and which a plus. The main thing is to have adequate self-esteem and not put yourself on a pedestal or push yourself under the baseboard.
You can find a lot of useful information about self-esteem in the article “”.
The only thing we can say for sure is that imperfections can manifest themselves on a physical and psychological level. Let's take a closer look at each.
Physical
Here we talk to you about everything related to appearance. For many short women, it is a huge disadvantage when men are too tall. But for tall young ladies, on the contrary, this will be an advantage.
For most, snoring is a terrible thing. For example, I cannot sleep if someone snores loudly next to me. And my friend calmly tolerates such noise. Her husband snores horribly loudly and so does her dog. Now she can’t even sleep without this snoring.
Too many moles, crooked nose, bulging eyes, crooked legs, small breasts on a girl, big ears and so on. This list can be continued indefinitely. Any flaw in appearance can be equated to a human defect.
But there are people who know how to present their external imperfections as the most outstanding advantages. For example, Marilyn Monroe, who elevated a mole on her face to wild popularity. Many young ladies still deliberately draw a spot on their face, but this was considered a drawback.
Many external disadvantages can be corrected without even resorting to surgery. For young ladies, of course, it’s much easier to do this. The cosmetics industry today is at such a high level that you can make a princess out of any frog.
Men have a more difficult time here. But they can also outshine their imperfections. great feeling humor, charisma. One of my friends is very fat. But when you meet him, you don’t notice the completeness. He is so charming that everything else fades and disappears from view.
Psychological
If with physical disabilities everything is extremely simple, then what can be called psychological flaws of a person?
Lack of a sense of humor, arrogance, tediousness? This is where there is definitely no room for objectivity. For each person, the disadvantages are certain qualities other people.
One of my friends couldn't stand it sociable people, always tried to keep a great distance from the interlocutor, hated when people touched her during a conversation and considered her sociability to be a terrible flaw. On the contrary, I consider this a huge advantage.
In the behavioral aspect, it is impossible to draw a clear line between disadvantage and advantage. After all, for some people a bore seems an unbearable interlocutor from whom they want to run away as quickly as possible, while others find in him interesting interlocutor who can carry on a conversation on any topic.
Some people cannot stand lies, while others call it resourcefulness and resourcefulness. Different look for the same quality. Only you can tell whether this will be a disadvantage or advantage of the person or yourself.
A man finds what he is looking for
One of my clients constantly complains about people: about colleagues, about children at her son’s school and their parents, about her husband and his family, about her own girlfriends. She sees the same problems and imperfections in everyone, constantly discusses them and cannot establish normal communication.
The problem is that a woman is fixated on those qualities that she cannot afford. The friend is too frank in her communication, the colleagues have a million hobbies, the husband relaxes with friends on weekends.
An acquaintance has been friends with a young man for a long time. All her friends consider him an ideal prince: he does not smoke or drink, he is gallant and courteous, with a wonderful sense of humor, wealthy, hard-working, and so on. But she doesn’t want to connect her fate with him. And when asked why, he answers: its only drawback is that it has no shortcomings.
Do you understand the absurdity of the situation? Imperfection can be found even where it would seem that it cannot exist. We ourselves look for cons in people.
Look for virtues. Notice the benefits, focus on the positive qualities.
If you don’t know how to start seeing the good in people, then I recommend that you read the article “”. After all, what kind of people surround us depends only on our views. Start with yourself.
What would you say are the main shortcomings of any person? Do you know about your pros and cons? How do you work on your imperfections?
Look for only the good in everything!
By studying the personality of a person, be it a woman, a man or a child, one can always identify a bad tendency to unseemly behavior due to, for example, errors in upbringing or psychological trauma. But even bad heredity can be protected. Let's consider the main negative traits of human character.
Authoritarianism
The desire to dominate in everything, ignoring any needs of other people. An explicit or hidden demand for submission and discipline from everyone with whom a person intersects. Other people's opinions are not taken into account, any disobedience is suppressed without an attempt to find a mutually beneficial solution. It is believed that this is a typical negative trait of the Russian character.
Aggressiveness
The desire to conflict with others. IN early childhood This is a mandatory negative character trait of a child learning ways to protect his interests. Provocative, sometimes deliberately false statements, elevated tone, and insults are typical for an aggressive adult. Sometimes attempts are made to influence the opponent physically.
Gambling
A painful desire to achieve a set goal, regardless of the size of the risks, ignoring one’s own and others’ logical arguments about the excess of the amount of spending over the value of the desired result. Often becomes the cause of situations leading to fatal outcome, loss of health or significant financial losses.
Greed
Pathological desire for personal material gain in any situation. Getting profit at any cost becomes the only source positive emotions in life. At the same time, the duration of pleasant sensations from the benefits received is extremely short-lived - due to uncontrollable constant desire enrich yourself even more.
Apathy
Lack of emotional response to most external stimuli due to a particular temperament or due to the body’s protective reaction to stress. It is one of the reasons for the impossibility of achieving even simple goals due to the inability or unwillingness to concentrate and make volitional efforts.
Disorderly
Negligent fulfillment of obligations due to reluctance to act according to rules already known to everyone or lack of understanding of the algorithms necessary to quickly and least costly achieve existing goals. Often this is a typical negative character trait of a woman who has just escaped from excessive parental care.
Indifference
Real or consciously demonstrated lack of interest in specific subject, object, event, responsibilities due to innate emotional coldness, experienced severe stress or, instilled from infancy, a sense of superiority over people with a different social status, a different faith, nationality, race.
Irresponsibility
A consciously chosen, imposed during upbringing or conditioned by moral immaturity position of refusal to real awareness of the consequences of one’s own actions, reluctance to make decisions that affect one’s own and others’ quality of life. In difficult everyday situations active actions is not carried out due to the expectation that the problem will resolve on its own.
Facelessness
Absence individual traits, because of which an individual subject is easily “lost” in total mass people like him. In the process of communication " gray man“does not evoke sympathy because of his fixation on uninteresting topics, in a team he is uninitiative, boring, afraid of innovations and resists them in every possible way.
Ruthlessness
Emotional indifference to other people's troubles, inability or unwillingness to sympathize, sympathize with people in particular and living beings in general, experiencing physical or emotional pain. Sometimes it is deliberate inhumanity in actions that lead to suffering and even death of the objects chosen as victims.
Rudeness
Intentional or unconscious violation of norms, the sequence of actions adopted in a given society in relation to some specific situation. The reason for deliberate swagger may be the desire to provoke a conflict or draw attention to himself, unconscious - errors in education, emotional immaturity.
Talkativeness
A painful need to constantly participate in a dialogue with one or more interlocutors, regardless of the content of the conversation, the degree of enthusiasm of the other participants, or the relevance of the conversation. The main goal of such an interlocutor is not to obtain new information, but to play the role of a storyteller when contacting someone. At the same time, he can disseminate information that others would prefer to keep secret.
windiness
Inability to keep any promises and take into account other people's interests, lack of ability to move for a long time to achieve one goal, desire for constant change of circle of friends and partners. Lack of principles and clear behavioral boundaries, rapid fading of interest in a specific activity or person.
Lust for power
A passionate desire for control over everyone and the expectation of unquestioning obedience, the desire for unlimited power, especially over the more educated and skilled. Intoxication with one’s own superior position in situations where others are forced to seek help or seek protection or material support.
Suggestibility
IN pathological form This is a subconscious tendency to perceive behavior imposed from outside without one’s own conscious comprehension and weighing the results of one’s actions performed under the influence of someone else’s authority. However, reduced suggestibility can cause learning difficulties.
Vulgarity
Inability to find a balance between originality and vulgarity in communication, when choosing clothes, social guidelines, and so on. For example, during a dialogue, the interlocutor speaks in a raised tone, is mannered, and does not disdain dirty jokes. When choosing an outfit, he prefers flashy things, and the components often do not fit well with each other.
Stupidity
The inability or unwillingness to determine logically correct conclusions even from the simplest everyday problems, the tendency to see the grain of wisdom in pseudoscientific and populist statements, the inability to subject information from sources to the status of authoritative to a reasonable critical analysis.
Pride
Confidence in the social, moral, mental insignificance of others, the inability to forgive for personal and other people’s mistakes, denial of the possibility of other subjects of society having worthy characteristics. It develops against the background of distortions in upbringing, personality degradation due to illness, immaturity of the individual, coupled with high social status.
Coarseness
Reluctance to adhere to the polite format of communication with interlocutors accepted in normal society due to personality deformation due to illness, injury, stress or the frequent need to take a defensive position when territory and rights are encroached upon. Typical manifestations: communication in a raised voice, rudeness, obscene language.
Greed, stinginess
The desire to minimize costs even at the expense of health, basic hygiene and common sense. A pathological pursuit of material stability can manifest itself in the form of a refusal to get rid of garbage, trash, and ignoring reasonable requests loved one about purchasing essential items.
Cruelty
The desire to cause discomfort to living subjects for the sake of personal moral satisfaction. The impact on the victim can be both intangible - in the form of insults and refusal to satisfy some important emotional needs, and physical - through infliction of pain, torment, and encroachment on life.
Forgetfulness
Inability to remember some data necessary in everyday life, a combination of actions to achieve a certain goal, an algorithm for starting or turning off a device. Arises due to age-related changes in the brain, information overload. It may be a consequence of a stressful situation that you want to forget.
Addiction
The desire to derive pleasure from performing actions or consuming a certain substance even if the source of pleasant emotions harms health, relationships with others, leads to large financial expenses, pushes to crime because of the desire to achieve a “high”, in the absence of legal access to it.
Envy
Inability to enjoy any personal benefits, achievements, qualities. Tendency to constant comparison values held by oneself and others. Moreover, the “crumbs” on the other side always seem larger, tastier and more desirable than their own “placers”. In a pathological form, it deprives one of cheerfulness and the ability to soberly evaluate one’s own and others’ merits.
Complexity
Constant belittlement in own eyes one’s own natural talents, trained abilities, denial of the value of personal achievements, inability to force oneself to declare personal achievements in a circle of authority figures. Formed due to overly strict upbringing, psychological trauma or disease of the nervous system.
tediousness
The habit of lecturing everyone, everywhere, repeatedly discussing the same topic, despite the obvious lack of interest in it among the people who are trying to be drawn into dialogue. The reason lies in the pathological love of attention and endless conversations on any topic, even if the instigator of the conversation is a complete layman on the topic being discussed.
Anger
An emotional manifestation of strong dissatisfaction with something, a landmark indicating the presence of conditions that are clearly uncomfortable for a person. In the absence of actions that eliminate the cause of the feeling, over time it can push one to commit an offense, so you should not ignore manifestations of anger.
Spoiled
The bad habit of demanding that your desires be fulfilled as soon as possible, without taking into account the capabilities of the person to whom the claim is made. Refusal to control and restrain one's own needs, to tolerate the slightest inconvenience, and to personally exert emotional and physical effort to achieve what one wants.
Laziness
Lack of desire to strain for personal needs, tendency to spend idle time all day long. The behavior reveals a desire to obtain comfort at the expense of the work of others, a deep aversion to useful activity even in minimal quantities. When applying for a job, this negative character trait should not be indicated on your resume.
Deceit
Consciously systematically expressing false information to interlocutors for slanderous purposes, for one’s own benefit or to disguise personal failures in some activity. The pathological form is inherent in insecure individuals who try to impress others with fictitious stories about themselves.
Hypocrisy
Feigned assurances of love, sincere admiration and goodwill towards the interlocutor during a conversation with him. The purpose of such behavior is ingratiation and the desire to flatter for one’s own benefit, while hiding true, perhaps even malicious, sentiments towards the participant in the dialogue or the object of the conversation.
Flattery
A tendency to excessively constantly praise out loud the real and imaginary merits and virtues of others, for the sake of one’s own self-interest. The object of exaltation can also be obviously negative actions, the actions of an influential person, specially whitewashed by the flatterer and voiced by him as the only right decision in the situation under consideration.
Curiosity
In a pathological form, this is the desire to find out information of interest, regardless of decency, personal feelings of those being questioned and the situation of the situation in which communication takes place. The reason for unhealthy curiosity is a painful desire to be aware of even those events that are not related to the person showing interest.
Pettiness
Habit of giving great importance their insignificant statements and actions. The widespread emphasis on one's imaginary achievements as opposed to the truly important and heroic actions of those around them. Attention to ordinary details to the detriment of values, the desire to obtain reports on household expenses down to “one thousandth”.
Vindictiveness
The tendency to focus personal attention on all small and large troubles, everyday conflicts, and invented grievances, in order to be sure to repay each of the offenders a hundredfold over time. In this case, the duration of the time interval from the moment of receiving a real or imaginary insult does not matter.
Impudence
Unceremonious behavior in any situation, the desire to achieve what you want with minimal costs and “over the heads” of others. Such behavior is formed due to improper upbringing, due to a difficult childhood or, conversely, due to spoiling, which has reinforced the habit of always getting what you want at any cost.
Arrogance
The perception of the majority of those around them as subjects of an obviously lower category due to an imaginary difference in social status or real differences based on material, national, racial or other characteristics. The reason may be defensive reaction to wounded pride in the past or distortions in upbringing.
Annoyance
Inability or unwillingness to independently deal with emerging problems, have fun or relax. The reason may lie in emotional immaturity, fear of loneliness, a desire to increase self-esteem through active participation in the lives of other people, even if they experience obvious discomfort from this and openly declare it.
Narcissism
Unreasonable and groundless praise of oneself, narcissism under any circumstances, the desire to embellish the results of one’s actions and the actions taken themselves, selfishness, indifferent attitude not only towards strangers, but also close people, interest only in personal comfort and benefit.
Negligence
Reluctance to qualitatively fulfill assumed or assigned obligations, neglect in behavior with people in everyday or professional relationships, insufficient attention to trusted values, inability - due to poor education or personal deformation - to understand the importance of diligence when working on something.
Touchiness
Increased negative reaction to everyday troubles due to hypertrophied selfishness. It is because of him that you want the world to spin at your feet, and those around you, forgetting about their own needs, to live up to your expectations around the clock and all year round: they were polite, generous and caring, and strived to ensure the comfort of others.
Limitation
Confidence that a true picture of the world is available only to you, and other explanations of the structure of the universe and the principles of interaction between man and environment- a complete invention of narrow-minded louts. It occurs due to insufficient education, a congenital developmental defect that prevents the adequate assimilation of educational information.
Alarmism
The tendency to accept as reality the imaginary catastrophic consequences of any, even minor incidents in own life and the world in general. Is a manifestation bad upbringing a person who is a reinsurer, an overly violent fantasy or a disorder of the nervous system due to stress or illness.
vulgarity
A penchant for pretentious outfits, demonstration of real or ostentatious material security through the acquisition of unnecessary luxury items. Or, and sometimes both, a passion for dirty jokes, obscene anecdotes, often voiced in a completely inappropriate environment for the sake of causing a feeling of awkwardness among the majority of listeners.
Irritability
A negative reaction to a stimulus, expressed in excessive expression of emotions, the intensity of which does not correspond to the strength of the influence of a factor that is unpleasant for some reason. The cause of irritability can be external or internal, caused by overload of the nervous system or exhaustion of the body by illness.
Extravagance
Inability to rationally spend income, including the desire to systematically or constantly make acquisitions for the sake of the process itself, and not for the purpose of exploiting the purchased item or thing. It is based on the desire to feel like “the ruler of the world”, to correspond to the status of a financially secure person.
Jealousy
Showing dissatisfaction or distrust of a subject who has a certain value for the jealous person. It is expressed by suspicion of infidelity or a greater emotional predisposition towards another person (not only a spouse, but also a mother, sister, friend may be in the place of the accused - the list can be endless).
Self-criticism
The habit of justifiably and unreasonably convicting oneself of many sins different sizes. For example, insufficient attention to fulfilling duties, although in reality a person gives his all at work or in relationships. Possible reasons: low self-esteem, actively supporting an interested environment, perfectionism.
Self-confidence
Unreasonable exaltation of one's abilities, supposedly allowing one to cope with a certain or any task. It is the cause of bragging and risky actions, often committed in disregard of safety rules, the laws of physics and the arguments of logic. Based on inexperience, dependence on the desire to live on the brink of a foul.
Weakness
Lack of ability to perform volitional effort for the sake of a desired goal or to resist dangerous, illegal temptations, morally degraded individuals. Tendency to submit to other people's decisions, even when they require serious sacrifices. Such a negative character trait of a man can make him an object of ridicule in the team.
Cowardice
Inability to resist an opponent due to insufficient developed strength will, susceptibility to phobia. It can be expressed by fleeing the scene of some event due to an imaginary or real danger to one’s own health or life, despite leaving other possible participants in the incident in danger.
Vanity
The desire to receive praise for real and imaginary merits. The desire first of all to have a positive image, and not to be worthy of compliments. Indiscriminate quality of voiced approvals - flattery is also perceived favorably. Moreover, it is not always possible to distinguish it from sincere statements.
Stubbornness
The desire to act only in accordance own ideas about the fidelity of the chosen path, rejection of authorities, ignoring well-known rules purely because of the habit of acting as one has decided. Lack of ability to be flexible when interests clash, unwillingness or inability to take into account the goals and capabilities of others.
Selfishness
Conscious self-love, the desire to live in comfort, regardless of the possible inconveniences resulting from this for others. Their own interests are always exalted over the desires of other people, the opinions of the latter on this and other matters are never taken into account. All decisions are based only on one’s own benefit.
List of advantages and benefits
You will need:
– a sheet of paper and a pencil;
– time for reflection.
Be prepared for:
– the fact that it will be difficult to find advantages and benefits;
– the fact that the list will have to be reviewed regularly.
This may not be useful if:
- you have already compiled a similar list on psychological training or in preparation for another interview.
There is a very reliable way to confirm your decision to find a job and be confident at an interview - this is to make a list of your advantages and advantages over your competitors. Compose it not in your head, but on a piece of paper. This is simply necessary so that you can clearly see their presence. You need to take a comfortable place (for some it is more comfortable at a table, for others in a cozy chair), take a piece of paper and divide it in half with a line. At the top, write the “Advantages” and “Benefits” sections. In the “Advantages” column, make a list that includes personal character traits and personality traits. The “Advantages” column contains your features that distinguish you as a professional and a self-confident person. Perhaps some points will overlap with each other, do not make any special distinctions where exactly one of the points should be included. Theoretically, there should be fewer advantages, since they are built on the basis of advantages, but not every advantage can become an advantage. For example, speaking English is definitely an asset. But, if you expect to get a position where English is mandatory requirement, this dignity will not become an advantage, since it will be present in all candidates. In this case, any additional foreign language can be an advantage.
You don’t have to show this list to anyone, it’s only needed to raise your self-esteem and self-esteem. Next we will look at the most common and important qualities character and professional skills. All you have to do is think about whether you have them and add them to the list of your advantages and advantages.
1. Sociability – readiness to interpersonal communication, to show initiative in conversation with any social categories of people. If you are not afraid of the prospect of meeting people, talking and making friends and business relations with many strangers, you love to chat and enjoy participating in conversations, then you definitely have this quality.
2. Openness is a state of your psyche in which you can calmly and even willingly accept words and actions in your direction from other people. Openness to communication, self-criticism and, as a result, the ability to perceive any words painlessly, readiness for personal questions and sincerity in answers are all signs of this quality.
3. Balance is also a mental state in which you are not influenced by external stimuli. This is the ability not only to control oneself, but also to prevent excessive emotions from appearing at all. This character trait implies the absence of special outbursts of both positive and negative emotions.
4. Contact – readiness to cooperate with people, implies both initiative and acceptance of other people’s initiatives. If you quickly find topics for conversation that will interest both you and your interlocutor, if business relationships quickly develop, this is your plus.
5. Friendliness - the ability to impose on personal communication shade of personal sympathies. If you, in addition to communication, know how to sympathize with people regardless of their social status and appearance, if you treat them with warmth and understanding, then feel free to add this item to your list.
6. Politeness - maintaining etiquette interpersonal relationships. Even in the most stressful situations maintaining polite treatment and not resorting to insults and personalities is an absolute plus to your polite words.
7. Non-conflict – the ability not to succumb to other people’s provocations, to restrain oneself and direct positivity towards this situation. Note these advantages in your own sense if you have not noticed yourself being excessively picky towards people and the desire to annoy them, and if you know that any problem can be solved not by shouting, but by simple negotiations.
8. Responsibility is a quality due to which you clearly understand what and why you need to do, and do it without fail, realizing that this is your job, and only you can finish what you started.
9. Composure - willingness to use everything necessary resources your mind and body: a state in which you keep yourself in good shape and concentrate your strength. A collected person does without swaying the right job, he does not need to tune in for a long time to the atmosphere, tone and type of activity.
10. Initiative – promoting your ideas, views, opinions, actions independently. You are the owner of this quality if you are able to start and complete a task without constant outside advice, adding your own personal inventions to it.
11. Intelligence – this refers to the level of your intelligence, your horizons of knowledge. The higher your knowledge, the better you understand all manifestations outside world, the more you understand people and know how not to look at them through the prism of your own emotions, the faster you think, the higher your level of intelligence.
12. Not talkative - this means the ability not to interfere in other people's affairs and not to gossip. If you like to discuss someone with someone, you do not have this quality.
13. Originality is a quality that distinguishes your mental and behavioral reactions from the standards of others. If you are not exposed to " herd instinct“, don’t be afraid to defend your opinion, which is different from others, your reactions to stimuli are sometimes directly opposite to those of others - then you are an extraordinary person.
14. Sociability – having a broad horizon of knowledge and positive personal qualities. The ability to adapt to any communication style, to any person and situation, qualifications in all areas of knowledge required by your profession. Put this item on the list if you think you can find common language with all social strata.
15. Diplomacy – the ability to maneuver in a conversation, avoiding pitfalls and negative aspects. A diplomatic person does not go towards his goal abruptly and directly, but studies the situation and chooses the least emotional option development and conversation.
16. Persistence – the ability to achieve what you need. This is a good quality that helps you not to shy away from difficulties, but to overcome them, achieving positive or negative results, and trying to reach your goal over and over again.
17. Learning ability – the ability to quickly perceive and process new information. If you quickly grasp new concepts on the fly, delve into the essence of issues, strive to expand your horizons and do not give in to difficult problems, but learn from the experience of solving them, you have a high level of learning ability.
18. Originality - the ability to find several ways to approach situations and people. Mark this quality if you can find several solutions to the same problem depending on changing circumstances.
19. Loyalty - recognition of the authority of a higher-ranking employee, the absence of pronounced rebellion. If you realize that your immediate superior will have more developed professional qualities, and you will not openly compete with him, even if this is not the case, then you will make a good subordinate.
20. Activity – physical and mental, the speed of metabolic processes in the brain and between the head and body. An active employee reacts quickly to changes, has defensive reactions against difficulties, is proactive and efficient, and overcomes internal and external restrictions in all areas of life.
21. Punctuality – adherence to strict time frames. Implies responsibility and composure in the performance of official duties.
22. Creative thinking - creating projects and thought processes that go beyond standard thinking. If you know how to think about professional problems, then the solution approaches will be unusual and effective.
23. Equanimity – the ability to restrain one’s emotions in an unfavorable atmosphere. If you maintain your integrity in any situation and don't let irritation ruin your mood, this will add an item to your list.
24. Determination – the desire to reach the intended height at any cost. What is your favorite saying: “The ends justify the means”? You are a very purposeful person.
25. Optimism – the ability to see the positive in all events. There is a saying: “For optimists, the glass is always half full, and for pessimists, it is always half empty.” Choose for yourself how you feel about it, and draw a conclusion accordingly.
26. Qualification – sufficient education for work. The higher the level of training specific to your job profile, the more qualified employee you are.
27. Imagination – the ability to “dream”, fantasize, and invent situations. People with the gift of imagination are a boon for an enterprise, as they can think through all the logical chains of events.
28. Experience – having work experience in exactly the position (and in the field) for which you are going. This can be an important advantage over candidates.
29. Composure is the ability not to react to any physical actions of other people. If you look at open wounds without shuddering and stand boldly on your feet, even if the whole world around you is collapsing, this is a huge plus. You will be able to evaluate actions from the outside and act with a cool mind.
30. Spontaneity – mental state, in which a person does not adhere to the strict framework of conservative behavior, but shows liveliness and varied interests. Of course, this is a little childish behavior, but colleagues always like a lot of sincerity and friendliness.
31. Adequacy – understanding and perception of reality as it is. If you understand exactly how to determine the degree of complexity of a situation, and select the desired reaction, you are an adequate person.
32. Spirituality - having wealth spiritual world. If you try to understand your existence, where, why, why and how you live, believe in God and recognize the divine essence of human existence, you will be a very interesting person to communicate with.
33. Integrity – exposure to certain postulates of behavior. If, in spite of everything, you do not betray your inner principles, but live guided by them, then you are an integral person, non-capricious and consistent.
34. Positivity – non-aggressive perception of the surrounding world, good deeds and lofty thoughts. This is a defensive reaction of the psyche, a person with positive thinking life is much easier.
35. Tactfulness – understanding the boundaries of the interlocutor’s personal zone. If you understand that some things simply cannot be asked of people, since they are painful for them, if you know how to stop at the barrier of separation in time general topics and intimate, you have a sense of tact.
36. Delicacy – a gentle approach to the problems of the interlocutor. Delicate people are valued for their ability not to open the complexes in the personalities and lives of other people.
37. Objectivity – the ability to concentrate on one object, realistically assessing all the pros and cons of a situation, and not imposing one’s own feelings on the assessment of the situation. This can also include self-criticism, since such a person will definitely not allow emotions to prevail over reason and is aware of the state of things based on the standards of thinking.
38. Impulsivity is the tendency to act on the first impulse, spontaneously. Sometimes this quality helps in solving production problems.
39. Flexibility is a person’s ability to adapt to changing conditions.
40. Ability to speak foreign languages. If you have linguistic abilities– this is an undoubted item on the list of advantages.
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Although it is believed that man was created by God, in His image and likeness, he is a sinful and imperfect being. However, a person’s advantages are as undeniable as his shortcomings. And these shortcomings include such unsightly qualities as pride, greed, envy, condemnation, intolerance, stubbornness, and so on, the list can go on for a long time. Many of these qualities, unfortunately, are ingrained in a person from childhood, that is, they are the result of improper upbringing of a child in the family by parents.
A person’s strengths and weaknesses do not appear in him suddenly and suddenly, this is understandable. To form distinctive features Everyone has a hand in the child’s character, starting from the parents themselves and their immediate circle, and continuing with kindergarten, school, and so on. For example, if in childhood a child was constantly pushed, forced to rush, when he was forced to run to a large number of circles and sections, try to do everything in time, otherwise he would be scolded - he develops such a quality as impatience. Stubbornness also appears when parents always try to go against the will of the child and cause him constant feeling protest, and permissiveness, on the contrary, leads to licentiousness and arrogance.
The shortcomings, like the advantages of a person, of course, have deep roots. Greed can form in a child from a lack of love and attention, and this can also lead to despair and despondency, which will then lead to self-abasement. Then a boss will appear who will suppress his will, so fear, hypocrisy, and servility will arise in the person, which will in no way lead him to self-respect and self-esteem.
What are human dignity, how are they expressed in life and character? Actually, according to Dahl’s dictionary, dignity is respect, a set of fairly high moral qualities. And it should not be confused with arrogance, these are completely different things. When they say that this one means that he is worthy of respect, thanks to his valuable personal qualities, behavior in society, actions, and so on. If a person begins to inflate his price, he becomes arrogant, thus losing respect for the honor and dignity of the individual. Therefore, you need to understand that these are completely different things.
A person’s strengths and weaknesses continue to form even when he leaves the childhood, under the influence of society. A positive assessment of his behavior and actions elevates him in the eyes of the public. This can give him strength and desire to fight his shortcomings and strive for further improvement. Negative assessment from the outside public opinion may lead to aggravation of these deficiencies, so ideally this assessment should be objective.
Recognition by society of a person’s dignity means a certain assessment regarding his moral qualities. The more such qualities as honesty, respect for people, nobility, goodwill, sincerity, modesty, sensitivity and so on are manifested in him, the more great value such a person represents for society. Accordingly, if parents want to raise their child as a worthy member of this very society, they must lay down and develop in him these
These also include:
Modesty. This is when a person, even having many advantages, behaves simply and unnoticed, without sticking them out or boasting.
Shame and conscience. Believers say that it is the voice of God inside a person that tells him what is good and what is bad and leads him to the desire to repent of his bad actions.
Honor. These are also worthy of respect from society.
One who has this will never insolently insult anyone, humiliate or insult another.
This is the advantage of communicating with a person who has honor and dignity.
Therefore, everyone has a certain list of certain advantages and disadvantages. What could all this depend on? Upbringing, attitude and even belonging to a certain sector of the zodiac circle.
About the concept
What does this concept mean? Is it possible to make a list of a person’s shortcomings? What imperfections exist? It could be cowardice, laziness, lies, etc. However, you should not be too categorical, because sometimes various flaws can be turned into positive aspects and make good use of it.
The shortcomings of people
It is worth noting that the list of human shortcomings can be divided into several categories. Thus, there are universal human character flaws that are purely feminine and purely masculine. As for the general negative aspects of a personality, it can be rudeness towards others, the inability to keep secrets, constant lies, the desire to stand out from others, while humiliating people. However, such a character trait as the desire to tell the truth about a person to his face may be considered correct by some people, and condemned by others, it all depends on how much the interlocutor liked the information received. Here we can draw a definite conclusion that there are no absolutely objective shortcomings, it all depends on the person’s point of view. Thus, people manage to justify even white lies, placing them closer to the positive side.
About women
The list of shortcomings of a person of the fairer sex may seem interesting and even somewhat useful, i.e. women. After all modern lady- this is a person with a special set of shortcomings, including not necessarily negative ones. So, today women are often double-minded, this is necessary in order to achieve enough high level V certain circles. And at the same time callous and wooden, so as not to waste your emotions in vain. Negative qualities are also replenished with tactlessness (grandmother syndrome), greed, and excessive consumerism. Most girls today are capricious, mannered and overly confident in their own irresistibility. List of human shortcomings (in in this case- women) can be supplemented with modesty (oddly enough, in modern world this is more a disadvantage than an advantage), as well as talkativeness, which can be attributed to both good and not very pleasant aspects of character.
About men
It is also worth considering the advantages and disadvantages of gender - men. So, to negative aspects The character of guys can be attributed to untidiness (unwashed and unironed clothes, dirty shoes, unclean hair, nails, etc.), greed, stinginess, pettiness. It is also not good if a man is jealous or rude (especially with ladies). Boring, unpunctuality, and stupidity will not work out for the better for a representative of the stronger sex. It is worth noting that patriarchal views are also a man’s flaw, because he believes that in addition to work, a woman should also take care of the house, because this is not the work of a representative of the stronger sex (and there are still quite a lot of such nuances).
Conclusions
We looked at the person, this list is far from complete. It can be replenished day after day. However, as mentioned above, it will most likely be individual, subjective, because in such a matter it is important personal attitude to Pure objectivity, truth simply does not exist in the world, everything is the work of one person or group of people.
