How to lie to make people believe you. Lies and doesn't blush: how to learn to lie when necessary

In order to lie and not blush, you need to prepare in advance. The main thing is to believe yourself: you are telling the truth. First, sit down and explain to yourself why your lie will be a white lie. Then draw a movie in your imagination about how it all happened. Clearly imagine the time, place, details, words. You don't make things up, you remember what happened. Fall in love with this reality. Then others will believe in it too. You can also imagine in detail how you will tell it.

Try to live the future lie

Imagine yourself in the situation you are about to imagine and try to mentally live it. You will probably feel tension or discomfort at some moments. Tension comes first physical reaction. Notice when it occurs and relieve it by jumping or breathing deeply. Then you won’t feel constrained in the future. Don't exaggerate the scale of your lies. The more you fool yourself, the less naturally you will lie. And people usually think more about themselves than about you and your fantasies.

Train on cats

Practice before you talk about a fictitious incident. Tell the same story to someone for whom it is not significant at all. If possible, tie the event you are going to lie about to something real and build the story based on what actually happened. Your version should contain a lot of detail. They attract attention and distract from the main thing. And finally, if you have to tell a lie, from the very beginning of the conversation they agreed on fatigue. This way you will immediately give an explanation for your insecure behavior.

Stirlitz's recipe

There is nothing worse than the agonizing wait for someone else’s reaction to your words, when you have already told a lie and have not yet received a reaction in return. What if they don’t believe it? This pause can be filled with something emotionally significant. Knock over a cup of tea, break a saucer. And no one will think about your words, everyone will focus on eliminating the consequences of a small accident. And the interlocutor will remember fragments of this incident, and not how you turned pale and red a few minutes ago.

Believe your own lies

This is the most important thing: if you manage to convince yourself that all this is true, those around you will believe it themselves. Just remember that a white lie is not a lie that can cause harm to someone. After all, you are actually an honest young lady, right?

A person who has never spoken a word of a lie in his life is most likely either already dead or has moved to live in an institution for the insane. Journalist Kolya Sulima tells how and to whom you can lie in order to sound convincing.

One night they called me and said that I had to respond to an alarm in the store - this was part of my duties. Tired and in autopilot mode, I replied, “Sorry, I’m not home right now.” At the other end, after a short silence, they retorted: “How do you explain the fact that we are calling you at home?”

Let us not portray blameless angels. We lie so much that none of us remember our first time. Only in particularly vivid episodes, and only in cases where we got caught - successful lies are always erased from memory. Because we ourselves believed in him. IN real world It is impossible to survive without lying. If so, let's analyze how to achieve success in this matter.

Let's start by debunking the myths presented by the film “Seventeen Moments of Spring”. No one will give us, like Stirlitz, the opportunity to spend hours laying out matchstick animals on the table in an attempt to build a plausible version of events. You need to understand that by the time you are ready to lie, you must have a plan of action and a story ready. Citizens from the cinematic Gestapo could afford to let loose and marinate the spy so that he had time to create an alibi for himself. All they had at stake was the fate of the Reich, but you are risking your career, family peace or your mother’s health.

1. Develop a legend in advance

Amateurism and negligence are the key to immediate failure. It's easy to lie to children under five. Their RAM it will still erase everything without a trace, and the next day you will get a clean version, fresh from the press. But if you are going to lie to an adult, then do not deny him the ability to critically analyze. Your version of events should be logical and follow from your usual lifestyle and daily routine. If you have never suffered from a love of painting, no one will believe that you cried for two hours before Pukirev’s “Unequal Marriage.”

2. Provide details

The devil is in the details. They make the legend believable. It is the details that are remembered best, and not the last of what was said, here I will again refute Stirlitz. It looks like he was a really bad liar. Lie only about places and events that you can reliably describe - you have been there. But have a sense of proportion - too vivid details arouse suspicion. One or two anchors, served casually like an ace out of the hole, no colorful stories or gypsies with bears.

3. Involve a minimum of third parties

Turning lies into a continuation of “Warrior and Peace” is extremely dangerous. If you have a dubious reputation behind you and your version will be checked, take precautions. First, clearly discuss the course of events with your accomplices. Do you already have convincing details ready? Describe them in detail to your accomplices.

Ideally, the number of witnesses should approach zero. True friend or a friend with enough IQ to remember the date, time and place and put the facts in the correct order. The more people you involve in your plan, the more likely failure. Someone will be drunk at the time of interrogation, someone will be driving - and all hell breaks loose.

Women show much more courage and inspiration when it comes to complex designs. I know a girl who involved dozens of people in a system of lying to her husband: she managed to fly to different cities, once even paying for a ticket with her husband’s card. Someone took her from home “to the bathhouse,” for which she always had a backpack ready: a towel and washcloth on top, shoes and an evening dress underneath, they came for her, taking their own child, or her husband himself took her to a friend’s place, but all her routes invariably ended in someone else’s bed. Two years. In the end, of course, there was a divorce, but the network was never revealed.

4. Control your body

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In addition to the tongue in your mouth, you also have body language, which often behaves in a completely treacherous manner. For an inexperienced liar, this becomes a problem: in terms of expressiveness, body language is in no way inferior to verbal means and gives him away red-handed as well as fingerprints. Body language is read subconsciously: it’s enough to be tense, avoid looking in the eyes, fold your hands in a protective position - and now they’re starting to drive needles under your nails. And all the damn adrenaline, which causes sweating, intermittent breathing and unnatural movements. Try to lie on the phone first - this way you won’t be seen. If you have to lie in person, do it breathing exercises, calm your nerves and act: straight back, open hands, a firm look. Just don’t try to drink to relieve tension - you’ll tell everything how it happened, and even mention that incident that’s embarrassing to remember.

5. Control your voice

Take a cue from Frank Sinatra when he sings “Strangers in the night.” I am ready to believe his every word: I swear, everything happened like that. Why? And he puts it well! However, it is easier to deceive a man than a woman. By virtue of genetic reasons Women are much more subtle in catching the nuances of speech and isolating inconsistencies from what they hear. It is this ability that allows them to hear the cry of their baby amid the roar of an electric meat grinder. Highest category difficulties are wives and mothers. During the time you spent together, your speech was recorded in their memory in the form of a certain set of vibrations (don’t delude yourself that women are interested in what you weave every day). Deviations in timbre and tempo are immediately registered and raise suspicion. You're lying better for men, so the risk of getting caught is much less. But in all cases, stick to simple rules: Relax your abdominal muscles, free your breath, breathe evenly. Laugh in the right places, there is nothing more useful for distracting attention than laughter.

6. Believe in everything yourself

A universal and invincible way to lie is to believe yourself that it was so. This is a major league Oscar nomination for Lies. However, only true artists are capable of this. The inspired chatter of these citizens will find a way to any heart: their eyes glow with a restrained brilliance, their voice lulls, their gestures inspire confidence, and now Konstantin Sergeevich wipes away an old tear, saying: “Darling, I believe you.” This requires time and preparation. Rehearse your part in front of the mirror, looking deep into your soul, memorize it from beginning to end and back again, until your legend begins to appear in your dreams.

7. Attack!

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Politicians are the creatures that inhabit our planet, genetically predisposed to lies. In addition to natural hypnotic abilities, they usually also master methods of diverting attention. If you are caught in a lie, use their know-how. There is no better defense than attack - remind your opponent of an episode from the past when he behaved reprehensibly. It doesn’t matter whether it has anything to do with your lying, it’s important for you to shift the blame from your head to a healthy one. Demagoguery and self-confidence are here best helpers: “How could you lie to me?” - “How could you not love my grandmother? She moved from Shchuchin just to be closer to you!” - and the conversation immediately takes a direction that is favorable to you. The best politicians immediately came up with offensive nicknames for their opponents based on physical and personal characteristics, but I do not recommend this method to you. Especially if you have to lie to your mother or wife.

8. Deny everything

Common sense, logic, even video recordings - everything gives way to the reinforced concrete word “no”. If you lie to your loved ones, the task becomes easier - they are obviously determined to forgive you.

My friend's wife once found a pack of condoms in his bag. She carefully cut each one in half and put the pack back, fastening the clasp. Since then, not one of them has mentioned the incident, but each has drawn appropriate conclusions for themselves.

People can cheat on their spouses on a schedule for years, while the other half will know where and why the first one is going every Saturday - everything, right down to the exact address. And don't make any noise. Only the most consistent of people will seek your final fiasco. If they behave this way, chances are your relationship is in a coma. You will certainly be acquitted, just be patient. The main thing is don’t even try to show weakness and start apologizing!

9. Agree with everything

Paradoxically, this method works no worse than the previous one, especially with men. Without fear of being branded as a sexist, I will note that there is something incredibly attractive about a repentant woman. Either cultural heritage It’s Mary Magdalene’s fault, or the “alpha male” valve is triggered, but I want to start forgiving immediately. Even the least of men likes the role of the magnanimous Caesar, looking from the box at the gladiatorial circus.

10. Train your memory

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As you enter the slippery slope of being a liar, remember that you will have to keep all the details of your essays in mind. A good liar is like a chess player: in cases of multi-move combinations, he keeps all the threads under control, like a spider in a web. Only a complete idiot would take notes, it’s better to admit everything right away, the result is still the same. Laziness of mind is punished by exposure.
A friend of mine had a strong passion for order; she kept all her vacation photos on her work computer in the “Vacation” folder, both with her husband and with her lover. Convenient and no need to search. Needless to say, her husband once stopped by her office asking for a couple of emails?

A lie is akin high art. It combines acting And math skills, trains mental flexibility, memory and in the long term promotes longevity of the brain. If it were not for the moral and ethical nuances, I would recommend lying in the know high school. Alas, in currently We are left with crosswords, puzzles and macramé courses.

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At school you were taught that lying is wrong. However, it turned out that in real life You simply cannot do without lies. In what situations is it better to lie and how to remain undetected?

11:14 28.08.2014

Think about how often you lie. According to statistics, even crystal fair man forced to do this about 7-10 times a day! There are many situations in which telling the truth would be tactless, immoral, and even inhumane. That's why we all lie. We assure the child that Santa Claus brought gifts for the Christmas tree, we agree with the authorities so as not to heat up the atmosphere in the team, we pay compliments to the ugly girls... And you can’t live in society without such virtuous lies. It’s no secret that truth-tellers and truth-tellers often turn out to be outcasts. For some reason they are in no hurry to invite them to fun companies, they suffer from loneliness more often than others. And many families are saved only because spouses do not tell each other the whole truth.

Many-sided and powerful

Psychologists distinguish several types of lies, depending on the purpose for which they are used.

Perhaps the most common type of untruth is silence. After all, it’s easier to leave something unsaid than to invent something. Politicians, diplomats, investigators, and lawyers are good at this type of deception. And of course, unfaithful spouses!

Doctors most often use white lies. When the patient is not informed about a fatal disease or the danger of an upcoming operation. And you yourself, in response to your old grandmother’s question: “How are you?” - you can hardly begin to list all the troubles at work and quarrels with your loved one. On the contrary, in order to take care of her poor health and not worry her again, you will say that everything is wonderful and wonderful with you.

The most harmless lie is a lie for the sake of a catchphrase

About myself, beloved. For example, your friend bought a blouse at the market, but proudly tells her that distant relatives sent it to her from America. Or rested in a two-star barn in Turkey, and you don’t care big secret reports that her rich lover took her to the Emirates. Well, if a man wants to be the king’s godfather, let him be! The main thing is that this does not affect the interests of other people.

A completely different matter is manipulative lies. A serious weapon in the hands of clever scammers who organize street scam lotteries or prize draws. Other tricksters manipulate in order to discredit you in front of others, to quarrel with friends. It’s unlikely that you will calmly react to a statement like: “You know, your friend Natasha told me this about you yesterday...” The main thing is not to fall for their hook.

Subtleties of correct deception

Yes, you encounter lies all the time. Sometimes you have to tell lies yourself - this is an indisputable fact. However, the deceiver must have certain qualities,
including the ability to express thoughts out loud, the gift of persuasion and excellent memory. Try to also take into account the following: your lies should in no way cause harm. Is it possible to learn to deceive truthfully and beautifully? Let's try.

• There must be a good reason for lying

Psychiatrist Charles Ford, author of Lies! Lie! Lies!”, states: “Pathological liars cannot stop. They lie constantly, unnecessarily. They are exposed very often. Experienced deceivers, on the contrary, carefully guard their secret weapons. They won't use it until they realize it's time right moment and with the help of deception you can get what you really need.” A person caught in a lie instantly loses his credibility.

• Prepare in advance

When thinking over a legend, stock up on plausible details. For example, when explaining your late arrival home, you are going to say that you were with a friend at the cinema. Be sure to find out in detail about the film, about the beginning and end of the show, and even about the selection and prices in the bar of this cinema. By the way, you can remember how a waiter was rude to you three days ago in some cafe, and vividly describe the scene as if it happened to you today in a cinema bar. The abundance of details, even extraneous ones, will make the listener treat your story with great confidence. Say the prepared lie out loud several times and try to believe it yourself.
By the way, in Lately There are even companies that specialize in providing their clients with reliable alibis (some private detective agencies do this). They are ready to provide you with fake hotel receipts, a ticket to a movie show you didn’t attend, or travel documents for a train you weren’t on.

• Don't allow questions!

You can go the other way, on the contrary - a minimum of details. It has been reliably established that the most convincing liars are people who know how to stop any attempts to question them. Let's take the same situation - you return home later than usual. Are you being interrogated with passion, where did you stay so long after work? Try to play exactly what you are suspected of. State that you had a date with your sixty-five-year-old asthmatic boss, you spent a wonderful romantic evening in the sauna, after which he promised to divorce his wife and proposed marriage to you. It is unlikely that after such a statement, and even uttered with a certain intonation, the jealous person will want to continue questioning.

• Watch your facial expressions and gestures

When you want to catch your child lying, you say: “Look me in the eyes!” After all, it has long been noticed that liars, trying to deceive, look away, cover their mouths with their hands, scratch behind their ears, and rub their noses. That's right. But this only applies to worthless liars. Masters of hoaxes control themselves no worse than famous actors. So practice lying in front of the mirror. Moreover, if you tend to tell something by actively gesturing, then you should not change your manner of communication. Excessive stiffness, like excessive fussiness, can give you away. IN fine art deception, facial expressions, intonations and gestures are no less important than in the theater.

• If the secret became clear

Each of us has our own carefully hidden secrets, and when suddenly something comes to the surface, we feel uneasy. in the best possible way. And if you are caught lying and pushed against the wall, what should you do? Deny? Make excuses? This will hardly sound convincing. You can get out of a sticky situation different ways. The main thing is not to panic.
So, the first option for the development of events is to silently agree. Under no circumstances indulge in long explanations trying to justify yourself. You can even ask for forgiveness, without specifying why, however.

Or you can try to go on a counter-offensive! Let's consider this case. You spent the money that you and your husband saved for a vacation for six months, buying a stunning outfit for the New Year. Of course, you boasted of a new thing, but its cost was significantly underestimated. You hoped that the vacation was still far away and that in a couple of months you would reimburse the amount. But... he discovered it was missing - and he was furious! Where's the money? Agree, it’s hard to explain to a man that this “rag” can cost so much! Better remember to him all the anniversaries of your wedding when he forgot to congratulate you, or the cost of a stupid piece of hardware for a bumper “for beauty.” After all, everyone knows that best protection- this is an attack!

However, it may also happen that the lie you told went off with a bang, but you are tormented by remorse. You are scared to death of possible exposure. The only way out here is to admit it yourself. Yes, it will be unpleasant, but you will keep the feeling self-esteem. As they say, five minutes of shame - and that’s it, you can forget about fear and move on with your life with a clear conscience.

There are no people who would never lie in their lives. Sometimes everything went like clockwork, but sometimes the deception was discovered. You're not the first - you're not the last! This is an extremely valuable experience from which to learn. After all best benefit by deception - yours own life. But if lies disgust you, it is better to tell the truth when it concerns you, or to remain silent when we're talking about about another person.

Express test

Can you deceive?

Do you want to see if you can be a liar? Answer these questions as honestly as possible. If you lie to yourself, then lying to others is a piece of cake for you.

1. Sometimes I think I'm stupid.
2. I think extremely poorly of some people.
3. I don't care what others think about me.
4. It happens that you want to hit or insult someone.
5. I have shortcomings.
6. If I can get something for free, I won't refuse the gift.
7. I like attention from the opposite sex.
8. My friends don't suit me in everything.
9. Sometimes I like to listen to rumors and gossip.
10. I want more than I can.

If you answered yes

1-3 times Pretty liar
You strive to embellish yourself and your actions, so it costs you nothing to lie. Try not to overestimate your self-esteem and at least be sincere when alone with yourself.

4-6 times Unwilling liar
Sometimes you go against your conscience, but you don’t like to lie and use this tool to as a last resort when there is no other choice. Correct position!

7-10 times Like a crystal!
You are simply amazingly honest! Do you think that the bitter truth is better than sweet lie, and with truthful arguments is even ready to hurt a person. Consider whether this is always appropriate.

Delicate situations: lie or tell the truth?

Truth and lies are also different. Can be cut true
arguments, or you can soften them with a compliment or friendly advice.

Nikolay

4.7

At times it may be necessary to resort to deception. How to do this correctly and remain undetected?

At times, resorting to deception is simply necessary. Theater actors, politicians, businessmen, officials and many others resort to lies.

How to deceive without showing it, and at the same time remain undetected? You need to know and be able to do the following.

Voice, intonation.

An additional danger lies in the development technical progress, adopted by some people. The fact is that many different “lie detectors” (polygraphs) based on the analysis of vibrations of the vocal cords have appeared on the market. When a person lies, he vocal cords they begin to transmit sounds differently, which is displayed on the indicator. The device can also determine the stress level of the speaker. This type“lie detectors” are not very accurate, and with practice you can deceive them. This is not easy, and liars should be wary of relying on their skills.

Facial expressions and gestures.

The most vulnerable part of lying is facial expressions and gestures. The human body constantly supplies many nonverbal cues to the interlocutor. This is the movement of the body, hands, pupils, lips, eyebrows and many other subtle signs. A person perceives some of them subconsciously. This is intuition. In general, a specialist in the field of nonverbal speech or a person familiar with the principles of science can clearly identify signals.

When cheating, you should not touch your face with your hand or other objects. Signs such as touching or rubbing the nose, eyebrows, eyes, mouth, earlobes or hair tips are the most common mistakes made by inexperienced deceivers. These signals are the habit we have perfected since childhood of covering our mouths when lying, as an attempt to stop the lie.

Often, when deceiving, people begin to colorfully depict something with their hands and body, i.e. “embellish” a lie, giving it a more believable appearance.

Therefore, when telling your boss about the reason for being late, it is better to refrain from trying to portray the horse that knocked you into a puddle on the way to work.

Redness of the cheeks can let a liar down, and dealing with this is not at all easy. The only way- this is training in front of the mirror of your fairy tale about “pink elephants”.

Trying to hide behind a folder or bag can be subconsciously perceived as a way to hide or distort your thoughts.

When speaking, you need to control your breathing. After a false word or phrase, the body has the habit of holding its breath, waiting for the deception to be exposed. Even breathing is the key to being a successful liar.

It is quite difficult to deceive in person, and you need to find golden mean to direct your gaze. You shouldn’t look into your eyes all the time, just like you shouldn’t stare blankly at polished shoes or an unknown point behind your interlocutor’s back. “Running” or “staring” eyes will give you away immediately.

The movement of the eyes (pupils) is often not taken into account by liars, and this is not an unimportant factor.

The eyes are directed to the right and upward - we recall images or a picture from memory.

Eyes are directed to the right and down - comprehension and dialogue with oneself takes place.
The eyes are directed to the left and up - we come up with images, trying to imagine the picture.
Eyes are directed to the left - we come up with sounds.
Our eyes are directed to the left and down - we think about the impression, sensations, smell.
This refers to a right-handed person.

Eyes directed upward - we show condescension towards the interlocutor, perhaps contempt or irritation.
Eyes down - we feel embarrassment, discomfort, awkwardness, reluctance to participate in the conversation.
These two facts are common to everyone.

The duration of eye contact indicates your interest in the interlocutor. A long and attentive look indicates your interest in the conversation. However, a direct gaze sometimes indicates fear or mistrust, which can be noticeable in other ways. Short-term eye contact shows no interest in continuing the conversation or some distrust of the interlocutor.

Remember, liars, if you see all of the above from your interlocutor, it means that he doubts the truth of your words or has already seen through the deception.

And the easiest way is to lie on the phone.

Story.

Before deceiving, you need to think through the conversation in advance. It’s even better to train in front of a mirror several times, carefully monitoring your expression, facial expressions, gestures and controlling your voice. A good option would be to record yourself on a video camera and analyze your mistakes later.

It is important when telling the story not to miss the details of your home essay. A real liar will fill his story additional characters and descriptions. A colorful and voluminous story deserves more trust than meager catchphrases. But here it is important not to overdo it, it is precisely because of this factor that they can figure you out.

We remember the truth well, but sometimes we forget that we lied. It's the differences in the story different people can let down a liar. Perhaps you need to keep a notebook and write down your tales there and sometimes re-read them. But the discovery of this notebook will cause the effect of a bomb exploding. So train your memory, you liars!

Real professionals manage to stop interrogation immediately. Sometimes you can talk nonsense to yourself to divert suspicion. You can claim that you spent the whole night in a women's dormitory. Where exactly? Well, of course, in all rooms from the 5th to 7th floor. And the fact that you really drank all night with friends at the dacha, and there were no traces of women there. Well, who will believe such truth?

The witness is the liar's secret friend. Finding someone who can vouch for you is not difficult. There will be no trust in friends, acquaintances and allies, but an independent outsider will come in handy. There are now quite a few companies providing such services.

The counterattack is good tool in deception. You need to raise your voice and accuse your interlocutor of bad opinion or action against you. Who gave permission to go through my papers, desk or pockets? And sometimes you can simply get offended and treat your interlocutor with contempt.

The main rule of a liar is not to admit that you lied. You need to stand until the end, but until the threshold, until all the ground disappears from under your feet. In case of disclosure, there is no need to panic. “A good face in a bad game” is the only sure way out. Smile and be silent. There is no need for excuses, they will only make a bad situation worse.

P.S. Lying to people, and especially to loved ones, is the last thing. “Take care of your honor from a young age, and take care of your dress again” - this Russian folk proverb is an epigraph to the novel by A.S. Pushkin “ Captain's daughter" The concept of honor, dignity and reputation are not just words.

More recently, scientists from Canada have found that the ability to lie in childhood has a positive effect on a person’s success in adulthood. In childhood, many people lie; in adulthood, the percentage of people who lie people are coming on the decline

Lying is bad. This is what parents say to their children, grandmothers to their grandchildren, and all people who care about you. Childhood is a bright time for any person, and lying during this period of your life is completely unnecessary. However, every person grows up and enters into adult life, where it collides with different situations. It is at this stage that moral problems often arise.

If a person has been taught since childhood that lying is wrong, then it is quite possible that lying will not be so easy. The question arises, is it necessary to lie? Is it possible to learn to lie?

How nobly lies have evolved over the past two hundred years!
Sergey Dovlatov. Compromise.

Ability to lie

Do not be mistaken that if you are honest and honest man, then never lie to others. Statistics say otherwise. Anyone, even the most scrupulously honest person, lies at least 5 times a day.

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All of the above can be attributed to lies that exist in Everyday life each person.

Several forms of lies

1. Silencing the truth. Of course, it is easier not to tell the truth than to invent non-existent stories that can later turn into the present. This form of lying makes life easier for a person who does not know how to lie. In addition, you can always say that you did not say something because you were not asked.
2. “He lies and doesn’t blush.” This is how professionals in the field of lies can be characterized. Such a person knows how to confidently express his thoughts, does not blush when he tells a lie, and knows how to make people believe what he said. A liar behaves calmly, he can endlessly talk to you about non-existent stories from life.
3. Deliberate lies. Lying is common among colleagues or friends. You've probably noticed how sometimes colleagues take credit for other people's achievements, compliment ugly colleagues, and laugh at unfunny jokes. All these signs indicate that the person is lying deliberately. The person is trying to maintain a friendly atmosphere in the team, trying to please the management. And you never know what other reasons there could be.

In particular, a person will rub his hands, blush, his gestures become more active, and his facial expressions become stiff. In addition, there are some standard phrases, pronouncing which it is immediately clear that the person is disingenuous. For example, he says that he will not talk about it, that it is stupid to discuss such issues.

The reason for all of the above is conscience for one’s own lies. Therefore, you can learn to lie only by agreeing with your conscience. Naturally, this is difficult to do quickly, but daily training and practice will help you feel more comfortable telling a lie.

• Firstly, This sight.
  Eye contact is an essential part of conversation. A person who does not know how to lie will look away and cannot look his interlocutor in the eyes.

  Learn this art not so easy. First, try telling yourself a story with elements of deception at home in front of the mirror. Keep your gaze on the bridge of your nose. Looking down means guilt, looking up means aggression. Once you feel confident, tell the story to someone. For example, call a friend. At the same time, don't say true goal story.



• Secondly, the deceiving person can be extradited hands and gestures.
  The fact is that when a person tells a lie, the level of adrenaline in his body increases. It is not so easy to be completely calm at this moment. This is why your gestures can give you away.

  Your facial expression should be calm, your speech should be moderate, and your hands should confirm your words. Again this is not an easy task. While talking, pick up a pen and hold it calmly. Watch your gestures; they should not be overly impulsive or nervous.



• Third, what does yours say? body?
  An inexperienced liar usually gives himself away. In particular, the posture is closed, the person begins to make unnatural movements, including hugging himself by the shoulders or crossing his legs.

  Remember that when you lie, your body should be open and relaxed. Sit straight, you can lean forward a little, do not make any crossing movements. If your body position is correct, then on a subconscious level you will force your interlocutor to trust you.



• Fourth, first of all, you can be given away by your own words.
  Conclusion - watch your expressions. It’s bad if you’re in a hurry, barely pronounce phrases, quickly change phrases, and blush. This course of events will definitely not promote trust. Likewise, a story that is too long and detailed will raise doubts.

  4. Know that maybe people will find out that you lied, but that’s okay. To prevent detection, do not involve strangers in lies. Let the lie concern only you, and the fact that you told a lie will be known only to you. Prepare emotionally for the revelation. Think about what you will say to the reproachful looks of your colleagues and others.

  5. Don't get caught up in your lies. Lying can often be bad for no other reason than that you may end up confused. Usually what actually happens to a person is remembered better than what he lied about. In this case the best option will come up with his own tactics. For example, lie less, try to remember what you said, or keep a special notebook of lies. In general, it is best to train your memory, then you are almost guaranteed not to screw up.

  Video: How to learn to lie and not blush at the same time

  But what about an honest person?

  An honest person needs to understand that everyone lies. Moreover, lying does not necessarily have bad purposes. If you are constantly afraid of lying and that you will be exposed, then this will happen. Moreover, with such thoughts you will not be able to lie convincingly.

  At the end of the article, it can be noted that what forces us to lie is modern life. Therefore, do not learn to lie on purpose, it will not benefit you. In order to lie calmly, so that no one suspects you, constant practice is required. Practice your skills, carefully monitor your speech and movements during this “bad deed,” analyze the words you say.

  Good luck to you in this life!!!